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Cast Your Vote:

    • abort -- Votes: 31
    • keep -- Votes: 14
    • adopt -- Votes: 9
i ♥ nora 1 child; New Jersey 1622 posts
11th Nov '12

Hard to say because I cant even imagine the dilemma.
I think I'd adopt out.
I cant be 100% though.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27195 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting momma melissa85:" I would keep it. I believe God gives babies for a reason. I could never abort or adopt my own child unless it meant I would die to carry."


Wow.... what a fucked up way to think about it.



"You were raped because that p***e o* s**t family that won't take disabled children or children outside of their race. So your pretty blonde haired, blue eyed child was a REASON to get raped... for that GREAT family!"



Um. Right. There is NO f**king reason to be raped, there is NO justice or underlying reason why babies come from rape. And in the end, I think God would be happy that the mother did whats best (abortion or adoption) instead of keeping a child from a monster. If she keeps it or doesnt abort it, great. If she aborts it, thats great too! But God doesn't f**king allow rape to happen because of all the people that are just dying to adopt... especially them aborted babies!



What the f**k ever. Sorry, but that's bullshit.



Ever gotten pregnant from a rape, or known someone that has? I doubt they say "Well God directed that dude to rape me for a reason!" I sure as f**k know my sister didnt think there is a good reason in her rape. A family might of gotten a child, but my sister would of NEVER done it over again, even if a family did get a beautiful little girl.

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" wow, really? God had that guy rape you "for a reason"?"</blockquote>




Um that isn't what I said. I said God gives you babies for a reason. You can have sex for a year straight and never get pregnant. It isn't up to us when we do. That is, imo.




But I have lost a child and I could never give up my own child. But that's just me. Please don't change what I said to make it look like I think its God's fault someone gets raped bc I never said that.

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" Wow.... what a fucked up way to think about it. "You were raped because that p***e o* s**t family that ... [snip!] ... might of gotten a child, but my sister would of NEVER done it over again, even if a family did get a beautiful little girl."</blockquote>




Um why are you quoted things I never said?




Why are you changing MY words? I said God gives you BABIES for a reason and not that GOD tells someone to rape someone.




An I said I would keep the baby, not that anyone else should. No I wasn't raped only had a man have sex with me as a 2 to 5 year old and I have lost a child so I meaning ME could never abort or adopt any child unless it meant I would die. My one exception would be if it were say my father or family member as the father of the child bc of deformations.

*Turtles* 2 kids; Someplace, UT, United States 6093 posts
12th Nov '12

I would abort. I wouldn't allow myself anymore pain than I was already caused. I would also be saving the baby from living a sad life knowing he/she was the product of a rape.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56009 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting momma melissa85:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" wow, really? God had that guy rape you ... [snip!] ... just me. Please don't change what I said to make it look like I think its God's fault someone gets raped bc I never said that."


I suppose you'd have to believe in god to follow your thinking (I do not)



A child who was concieved in rape is not a gift. It's not a blessing. Most often it is a curse and a burden.



And honestly, if you say that a baby concieved in rape is a blessing, then you are, in effect, saying that the rape is a blessing as well. Can't have one without the other

Fat-and-Happy TTC since Mar 2008; 1 child; Texas 13915 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" I suppose you'd have to believe in god to follow your thinking (I do not) A child who was concieved ... [snip!] ... in rape is a blessing, then you are, in effect, saying that the rape is a blessing as well. Can't have one without the other"</blockquote>



She is just saying that good things can come out of a horrible experience. It is a spiritual belief. She believes that God can take something unbearable and turn it around. She's not saying that the rape was a good thing. I understand what she's saying.



Maybe like you're(general) in an abusive relationship but the guy never hurt your kid. But one day he does and you finally decide to leave. It's not like the woman would be thankful that her kid got beat so she finally got the guts to leave. That wouldn't be counted as a blessing to her, but perhaps she would count her newfound freedom from the a*****e a blessing. Probably a dumb example, but it is an example if how someone can credit God with taking something bad and making it good.

Clk 2 kids; Dexter, Michigan 11945 posts
12th Nov '12

Rape and medical scenarios are the only two times I would abort. I am also fortunate to have a pro-choice husband whom has already told me in discussions that it would be my choice. Lol yes we have these what if type conversations.

Crystallized Due February 24; 1 child; California 431 posts
12th Nov '12

I'd have an abortion

кinga Due February 18 (girl); 1 child; Ontario 4606 posts
12th Nov '12

I would have an abortion.

♛Queen Boo♛ 2 kids; United Kingdom 2526 posts
12th Nov '12

I would have to abort.

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" I suppose you'd have to believe in god to follow your thinking (I do not) A child who was concieved ... [snip!] ... in rape is a blessing, then you are, in effect, saying that the rape is a blessing as well. Can't have one without the other"</blockquote>




Um actually. Just bc you feel a certain do not project those feelings as my thoughts and beliefs. Yes it would be hard but FOR ME I would have the baby. Yes the experience surrounding the conception would be traumatic but I would not look at MY child as a reminder of the tape. That's just me. I was molested and raped as a child and no I do not think it was God's fault. I am not religious but I believe in a higher power I choose to call God.




I have a friend who was conceived from a tape and she never knew until she was an adult. Her mother never treated her like she was a result of tape. I have also seen bg moms on here talking about raising children of rape. It isn't that far fetched of an idea and yes other people go think babies are blessings.




But I see you are going to project your feelings and opinions as mine so why argue with you? No point bc you obviously can think got me.

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Fat-and-Happy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" I suppose you'd have to believe in ... [snip!] ... Probably a dumb example, but it is an example if how someone can credit God with taking something bad and making it good."</blockquote>




Thank you :) so well said