Reply

Cast Your Vote:

    • Abuse -- Votes: 5
    • Not abuse -- Votes: 71
Robert Downey Jr. Zanzibar, Tanzania 16079 posts
11th Nov '12
Quoting Alecia Downey:" Lol, I wasn't just saying that based on the books. But if it is a job...and not a hobby that someone ... [snip!] ... murder" It was interesting to say the least. I am a Law student and graduate in May...a few days after I walk, baby is due! =)"


What was the general consensus about that one?

whitney ♥ ainsley 1 child; New Hampshire 16454 posts
11th Nov '12
Quoting Michael Westen:" I have been in a b**m relationship before. I liked it more than this soft relationship i'm in now..."


I watched the secretary earlier, and it was an awesome way to show the kink vs. the vanilla.

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
11th Nov '12
Quoting TrollMama:" Okay I get where the abuse idea comes from... when it's a lifestyle that can certainly blur lines. Not ... [snip!] ... to the point of not enjoying it, just not knowing how to get out of it) if you have an inclination to enjoy being mistreated."

But in a true b**m relationship the sub or bottom holds all the power. Not the Dom/Domme or Top. That's the difference.

PreggieMommie =) Due May 20 (boy); Jacksonville, North Carolina 28 posts
11th Nov '12
Quoting Michael Westen:" What was the general consensus about that one?"


I'm sorry did you want to know the outcome of it? lol

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
11th Nov '12
Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" I hadn't. Thank you! "

Glad to help. :) PM me if you need help finding something.

user banned 1 child; New Orleans, Louisiana 18159 posts
11th Nov '12

It's not abuse. If two consenting adults go in willingly it can be a very freeing (for lack of a better term) thing. Obviously you have to know what will be going on and how much the receiver can handle. BUT normally the Dom/Domme is NOT in control, the sub has all say. It's a special sort of relationship

Aria Dawn's mommy 33 kids; Texas 1864 posts
11th Nov '12

Someone I know lives this lifestyle, and while some find it odd, I'm just glad she's happy after years of being miserable. It's not all about hitting/whipping & such, it's complex, but definitely not abuse.

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
11th Nov '12

No its not..Am I the only women who has not read 50 shades of grey??

Squeaky McGee 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 63826 posts
11th Nov '12
Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:" No its not..Am I the only women who has not read 50 shades of grey??"


No, you're not.

Robert Downey Jr. Zanzibar, Tanzania 16079 posts
11th Nov '12
Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" I watched the secretary earlier, and it was an awesome way to show the kink vs. the vanilla. "


I'll have to watch it!! Lol



Our relationship wasn't the whole dominant/submissive thing like most people think. But there were whips and other things with safe words. I could never be anyones submissive and I don't think I could be anyones dominant on a permanent basis. maybe during sex but that would be it.

Robert Downey Jr. Zanzibar, Tanzania 16079 posts
11th Nov '12
Quoting Alecia Downey:" I'm sorry did you want to know the outcome of it? lol "



If the thing about the contract in the law class. Lol

Robert Downey Jr. Zanzibar, Tanzania 16079 posts
11th Nov '12
Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:" No its not..Am I the only women who has not read 50 shades of grey??"


I read like 2 chapters of the first one and gave up.

user banned 1 child; New Orleans, Louisiana 18159 posts
11th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" I'll have to watch it!! Lol Our relationship wasn't the whole dominant/submissive thing like most ... [snip!] ... anyones submissive and I don't think I could be anyones dominant on a permanent basis. maybe during sex but that would be it."</blockquote>



You might be a natural "switch" (where you can be a Domme or sub). I'm naturally submissive but I'm also a switch so sometimes I'm the Domme :oops::lol:

Robert Downey Jr. Zanzibar, Tanzania 16079 posts
11th Nov '12
Quoting RunsWithScissors:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" I'll have to watch it!! Lol Our relationship ... [snip!] ... (where you can be a Domme or sub). I'm naturally submissive but I'm also a switch so sometimes I'm the Domme :oops::lol:"


I couldn't do it all the time, like contractually I guess. Lol.

user banned 1 child; New Orleans, Louisiana 18159 posts
11th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" I couldn't do it all the time, like contractually I guess. Lol."</blockquote>




Lol understandable.