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What would you think? TMI maybe. ♥ ♥ 2 kids; Stevensville, Michigan 6993 posts
12th Nov '12

So my husband and I rarely have sex. Maybe a couple of times a month. The ONLY time we do is if he's drunk or I've asked him 100 times. I always initiate it unless he's drunk. I know I'm not terrible in bed. Every time I ask him he has a stupid excuse like he's tired/has a headache blah blah blah. But normally after he turns me down he will play his game for at least an hour after. I've talked and talked to him about it. It's does no good nothing ever changes. He won't let me touch him blah. I'm miserable. He also says it's because he thinks he's bad in bed. Yet he masterbates frequently (to porn). I'm at my wits end. He's not terrible in bed and I believe the main reason he doesn't last long is because we never have sex. I have a higher sex drive. It makes me stressed out. And yes I have tried just not asking him. We will go over a month. What should I do?

♥BUG 2 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 5307 posts
12th Nov '12

Blah, I have the opposite problem. :oops: My sex drive is shot with this pregnancy. Poor SO is going nuts.



I would say back off completely, don't even bring it up and maybe "accidentally" have him catch you fixing it yourself :twisted:

Ruby Runion-Brown Due July 25; Greenville, South Carolina 1067 posts
12th Nov '12

let him catch you handling it yourself. when he asks why simply tell him "because you never want to"



not to sound mean but he sounds like a female rather than male lol

Leannah Carrasco 3 kids; Yuba City, California 346 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥BUG:</b>" Blah, I have the opposite problem. :oops: My sex drive is shot with this pregnancy. Poor SO is going ... [snip!] ... would say back off completely, don't even bring it up and maybe "accidentally" have him catch you fixing it yourself :twisted:"</blockquote>




That or find enjoyment in the things he likes like porn

Kelly-Ann Louise 1 child; 1 angel baby; Australia 797 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ ♥:</b>" So my husband and I rarely have sex. Maybe a couple of times a month. The ONLY time we do is if he's ... [snip!] ... sex drive. It makes me stressed out. And yes I have tried just not asking him. We will go over a month. What should I do?"</blockquote>



I have the exact same problem!
I've started keeping a calendar and marking the days that we do have sex, then showing him at the end of the month.
It kind of proved to him that all of my whinging and bitching is true, we hardly ever have sex.
I think it was like 6 times in October.
Anyway, I told him that although it isn't mandatory that you give your partner sex, it is really wrong to just deprive them of the love and intimacy they need.
After lots of fights and tears, he has started to get a bit better.
But yes, he gives me the same 'Im tired' bullshit, then proceeds to stay up all night on computer games.
Eugh, its pathetic!