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Rant about BD responsibleturtles 1 child; Oklahoma City, Oklahoma 122 posts
12th Nov '12

We broke up the other day because he let his friend engrave the Gemini symbol into his arm and I was pissed about it and it started a fight with his friends, he then threatened to take me to court for custody of our son who he "loves" but yet he hasn't gotten up with him once, spends no time with him, hasn't helped pay for anything or try to support me emotionally at all (our son is a month old now, but he was born at 34w5d). He then tells me he wants to be "companions" which is pretty much friends with benefits and he expects me to be okay with this. THEN today, when he was supposed to come over and spend the night, he told me he couldn't. I know that his friends talked him out of it. So we got in a big fight about that, then when I get home I see that he deleted the profile picture of him with our son now that he's single. I'm seriously pissed and I wish our son didn't have his last name because he doesn't deserve to have the name of the a*****e who was his sperm donor. Am I over reacting?

Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
12th Nov '12

Nope. Take his ass to court for child support and be done with him.

responsibleturtles 1 child; Oklahoma City, Oklahoma 122 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" Nope. Take his ass to court for child support and be done with him. "


The thing is, I love that a*****e, and I know I should but I don't want to make his life harder than it is -_- When I should. And we still have to get a paternity test.

Layla's Momma ♥ 17 kids; California 4457 posts
12th Nov '12

You left him but then you are mad that he wants to be FWB, but then your mad cause he didn't stay the night last night? wtf? you both sound immature.

Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting responsibleturtles:" The thing is, I love that a*****e, and I know I should but I don't want to make his life harder than it is -_- When I should. And we still have to get a paternity test."


He's sure as hell isn't making yours very easy. Get the test, and if its his, take him to court.

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3467 posts
12th Nov '12

if you're still sleeping/messing around with him then you're just asking for trouble. I don't get what the tattoo has to do with anything but eh yeah I think you overreacted on that. just file for child support at least. be done with him if you're unhappy.

A&J. ♥ 1 child; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 5613 posts
12th Nov '12

Engraved as in a tattoo? Tattoos aren't that big of a deal... Unless you mean like someone carved it on him with a knife or something. Then that would be weird.



But that other shit. Seems like he isn't interested in a relationship and if he lets his friends dictate his choices about his family then he's not worth it. Leave, file for custody and CS and move on.

responsibleturtles 1 child; Oklahoma City, Oklahoma 122 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" He's sure as hell isn't making yours very easy. Get the test, and if its his, take him to court. "

We have to go through DHS to get it and child support at the same time but it takes a long ass time. :p

Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting DifferentDay:" if you're still sleeping/messing around with him then you're just asking for trouble. I don't get what ... [snip!] ... anything but eh yeah I think you overreacted on that. just file for child support at least. be done with him if you're unhappy."


It doesn't sound like a tattoo, more like someone craved it into his arm with a knife or something.

responsibleturtles 1 child; Oklahoma City, Oklahoma 122 posts
12th Nov '12

Engraved as in, carved into his arm with a scalpel. -_- And yeah I should just move on I guess. But I care about him, I jsut wish he'd pull his head out of his ass and man up.

£exaholic 2 kids; Colorado 20867 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting responsibleturtles:</b>" Engraved as in, carved into his arm with a scalpel. -_- And yeah I should just move on I guess. But I care about him, I jsut wish he'd pull his head out of his ass and man up. "</blockquote>




Whatta dumbass.



But yea, you shouldn't be mad he didn't stay the night if you broke up & he just wants to be FWB. Sounds like a little boy. Don't let someone disrespect you like that.

Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" Um, why would you break up with him because of body art? Carving's a form of tattooing, it's just using ... [snip!] ... on the skin. I mean, I'm not for it, but dude, his body, his choice. You both sound like you need to grow the hell up... "


I don't see it as her breaking up with him specifically because of that, more than that started the fight that made her realize she was done. Or maybe she broke up with her, it doesn't say in the op.

☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆ Due September 18; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Centralia, Washington 44160 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" Um, why would you break up with him because of body art? Carving's a form of tattooing, it's just using ... [snip!] ... on the skin. I mean, I'm not for it, but dude, his body, his choice. You both sound like you need to grow the hell up... "


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~Brandi Rene~ 2 kids; Richardson, Texas 121 posts
12th Nov '12

*sigh* just because you "love" someone doesnt mean you need or should be with them. and you need to get that paternity test done asap!!! if he's such a loser then why do you "love" him? sounds like you love the idea of being in love. it sucks youre going thru this-but youre not alone. move on!! you and your baby deserve better. im going thru the attorney general and it does take a while but you gota do what you gota do girl! put your big girl panties on and go file! like tomorrow!! stop hanging with him, texting, calling, fb'ing *eye roll* and get the test done! he obviously wants nothing to do with you or the baby if hes acting this way. unacceptable!

responsibleturtles 1 child; Oklahoma City, Oklahoma 122 posts
12th Nov '12

I guess I neglected to mention the fact that I'm nineteen and he's 21. :p and I did end it with him, and yes I realize it's a form of body art which is cool if it's done PROFESSIONALLY but it wasn't/ It was done at his apartment, where his friend who didn't didn't wear gloves either. It's not the fact that he didn't spend the night, really, it's the fact that we were supposed to talk everything out tonight. And I love him because of a bunch of stupid reasons that even I don't get and he's been my best friend for as long as we've known one another. I dunno, and yeah, I have to mail in the packet tomorrow I suppose. Sorry for being a dumb teenager.