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Cast Your Vote:

    • home birth -- Votes: 8
    • birth center -- Votes: 22
GONE hjfkdlfhjaklfhjdkla California 1214 posts
12th Nov '12
applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
12th Nov '12

As you know all pregnancies are different. So I think you should keep an open mind for both. If they say all is good then maybe do the home birth. If they say something is unique and you might want to be in a birth center then you won

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8472 posts
12th Nov '12

Honestly Ive always wanted to do a home birth until my daughter was born way to early and way too quickly. I know first hand that when it comes to being pregnant/giving birth things can go from perfect to disastrous in no time flat. My advice would be to go with the birthing center all the way. Your baby will be born in a safe, clean (not saying your home isnt clean but birthing centers have to be hospital clean), loving environment. And not only that but if something does go wrong you will be surrounded by people who not only have medical training but if something goes wrong that they are not able to handle they will be able to get you to the help you need faster then you would be able to from home. From what Ive seen of birthing centers they have a very at home feel to them anyways so it would be like getting a home birth while still having the safety of easy access to medical attention in case of an emergency. Also from what I understand a lot of birth centers allow you to have your children with you in the birthing suit through out the whole process so you wouldnt need to find a sitter if you want your children present for their siblings birth.

hjfkdlfhjaklfhjdkla California 1214 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting applelove:" As you know all pregnacys are diffrent. So I think you should keep an oppen mind for both. If they say ... [snip!] ... baby was stuck in the birthing canal! So you are very lucky to have fast labors. I hope your next is just as good and as fast!"

You're so sweet! I feel like they're both amazing options. I feel very fortunate to have had such great experiences, so I feel like an out of hospital birth is a great option for me. Just not sure which would be better fitting to me.. home birth or birth center. We will see. I have a pre conception appointment with the local midwife so I'll ask her opinion... if she says stay home then I will stay home, if she thinks I should go to a birth center then I will do it... all with a very happy heart! :) I guess I feel like either way it goes I would be happy, just not sure which route to take. Especially just because of the distance... and the jetted tub was amazing during my last labor. It made my labor enjoyable. I feel so confused! lol I think I might be leaning towards a birth center, but at the same time I like the conveniences of being at home.

hjfkdlfhjaklfhjdkla California 1214 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:" Honestly Ive always wanted to do a home birth until my daughter was born way to early and way too quickly. ... [snip!] ... through out the whole process so you wouldnt need to find a sitter if you want your children present for their siblings birth."

This is what sways me more toward a birth center.. when my son was born he needed immediate medical attention... serious emergency situation. However, his was most definitely caused by the epidural I had. We both suffered some pretty rare side effects. BUT needless to say that is something I've considered... I do know that midwives have to be up to date on their emergency procedures for infants... and I feel confident that's unlikely to happen again... but if it did... I just don't know. And I probably won't want my kids there for the birth.. I suppose if it's middle of the day and they want to see, then sure, but otherwise I want them to sleep in a safe comfortable place. My kids freak out when I'm in pain so I don't know that they'd be able to handle it anyway. You never know though!

kthx. Due January 14; Cleves, Ohio 66510 posts
12th Nov '12

I won't ever feel comfortable birthing at home. While the idea is intriguing, I'm too scared something might happen. I want to have a medical team on call whenever I may need them... and I can't have that at home.

applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting Toni B:" You're so sweet! I feel like they're both amazing options. I feel very fortunate to have had such great ... [snip!] ... lol I think I might be leaning towards a birth center, but at the same time I like the conveniences of being at home. "



Sounds like an excuse to get hubby to put in a jet tub!

We have one and I wanted to use it but I had a high-risk pregnancy so I had to be in the hospital... no meds though, for the c section they had to put me under. That makes me sad So VERY SAD

So I think if you have th chance to do a home birth, that would be really amazing.

Maybe you can attend one? See what its like? But I think you can kind of guess what it will be like.

Another thing to think about is how will your kids deal with it? Will you need sitters for them, because that could be very scary for them?

applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting kthx.:" I won't ever feel comfortable birthing at home. While the idea is intriguing, I'm too scared something ... [snip!] ... something might happen. I want to have a medical team on call whenever I may need them... and I can't have that at home. "



I think you would feel different if you had delivery experience like OPs, I feel the same as you and that is because I have had experiences that I NEEDED surgery. OP has had very smooth experience.

I am not saying you should feel different just that I think you would, I think I would too!

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8472 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting kthx.:" I won't ever feel comfortable birthing at home. While the idea is intriguing, I'm too scared something ... [snip!] ... something might happen. I want to have a medical team on call whenever I may need them... and I can't have that at home. "

Yeah see this is more along my line of thinking. While I would love to have a home birth I know for me that will never be an option because of the fact that I am such a high risk pregnancy and because my chances of carrying to term are slim to non. Now while I hate the idea of a hospital birth because not only was my daughter's birth very traumatic but because hospitals flat out freak me out lol. But in the end for me I cant risk something going wrong because chances are they will and I much rather have something go wrong in a hospital setting where my child can have the care they need right then and there rather then give birth somewhere Im more comfortable.

hjfkdlfhjaklfhjdkla California 1214 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting applelove:" Sounds like an excuse to get hubby to put in a jet tub! We have one and I wanted to use it but ... [snip!] ... to think about is how will your kids deal with it? Will you need sitters for them, because that could be very scary for them?"

I am SOOO so sorry that you had to be put under. :( I think every birth is beautiful, but it sad that you didn't get the ideal birth that you wanted. And yes.. I would so love a jetted tub, but our house is small with only one bathroom. Not too small for a home birth though... Our living room, dining room, and entry way take up most of the house. lol And I have actually been to two home births! I am certifying as a birth doula and was fortunate enough to witness a home birth twice. It was amazing. One was in water, the other "on land." But yes.. I do think about the kids too. If I could be quiet then I wouldn't care, but if they needed to be somewhere else their grandparents are 5 min away.

kthx. Due January 14; Cleves, Ohio 66510 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting applelove:" I think you would feel different if you had delivery experience like OPs, I feel the same as you ... [snip!] ... has had very smooth experience. I am not saying you should feel different just that I think you would, I think I would too!"

Even if I had the most simple pregnancy, not high risk, etc. I still wouldn't. Something so minor could happen during delivery, that nobody could've predicted. If OP feels comfortable, go for it! I think home births are awesome and women are very strong for being able to do it. But, personally, my worries overcome my want to be a strong woman :lol:

hjfkdlfhjaklfhjdkla California 1214 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:" Yeah see this is more along my line of thinking. While I would love to have a home birth I know for me ... [snip!] ... setting where my child can have the care they need right then and there rather then give birth somewhere Im more comfortable."

I SOO agree. Not everyone is a good candidate for an out of hospital birth... whatever it takes to get baby and mom through labor and delivery safely is all that matters. I do hope you get to have a beautiful experience one day!! With a healthy TERM baby!! Prayers and many blessings to you!

applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting Toni B:" I am SOOO so sorry that you had to be put under. :( I think every birth is beautiful, but it sad that ... [snip!] ... kids too. If I could be quiet then I wouldn't care, but if they needed to be somewhere else their grandparents are 5 min away. "




well if you are working towards becoming a dula think I think it is important that you do the home birth. So you can understand better when you are helping others down the line.

No my labor and all that was one of the worst experiences of my life. I wish so much it had been different. I was like the 30's person to hold my baby. I did not wake up from surgery for a long time... and I could go on and on. But

I am very lucky I was able to have a baby at all because I have a serious pre existing back condition. I am always thankful that I have a healthy baby no matter how the birth was.
I also try and tell my self that if I had not been induced with pitocen I could have made it through with out surgery.

applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting kthx.:" Even if I had the most simple pregnancy, not high risk, etc. I still wouldn't. Something so minor could ... [snip!] ... and women are very strong for being able to do it. But, personally, my worries overcome my want to be a strong woman :lol:"


You are still a strong woman:!:no matter what or how you do it. I did not have any pain meds but I was in a hospital.

hjfkdlfhjaklfhjdkla California 1214 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting kthx.:" Even if I had the most simple pregnancy, not high risk, etc. I still wouldn't. Something so minor could ... [snip!] ... and women are very strong for being able to do it. But, personally, my worries overcome my want to be a strong woman :lol:"

That's the beauty of prenatal care and delivery! You can pick how you want to do so. However, this is so not me trying to start anything... lol From the research I have done, I've found that home births are trending to be just as safe, if not safer than a hospital simply because there are so many unnecessary interventions that occur in a hospital which would not occur at home with a hands off midwife... and women tend to be more relaxed at home thus preventing a whole bunch of complications that could result from stress, or inability to move around... there are just a lot of components. BUT, your decisions are yours, and it's a good decision for you based off of your history, and even if you had smoother experiences... wherever you are most comfortable is where you should birth, so you should hospital birth with confidence!!