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Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting *Turtles*:" :!::!:"


sign me the heck up!

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8499 posts
12th Nov '12

Just be completely honest with him about how you feel and let everything work itself out.

♥Manda♥ Swan Valley, WA, Australia 29436 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" if you make 8000.00 a month, then just have another kid. how the heck do you make 8000.00 a month? "</blockquote>




He makes $1300 a week and I make $700 a week



That's pretty average over here lol... Our cost of living is much higher



ETA- we both workfor the biggest transport & logistics company on Australia.. So that helps haha, I'm just in an office job, but he does the hard work being a warehouse dude

*Turtles* Due July 27 (girl); 1 child; Someplace, UT, United States 6090 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting Manda♥Bella:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" if you make 8000.00 a month, then just have ... [snip!] ... company on Australia.. So that helps haha, I'm just in an office job, but he does the hard work being a warehouse dude"

That's a good living.

Monkey Nuts Australia 4572 posts
12th Nov '12

I think what you purposed is very reasonable.
You don't want to force yourself into having another child when your not ready. You could end up resenting him, and the child....
I can understand him waiting to have another child with you.



What would happen if you couldn't conceive a child together because of your fertility issues, would that be a deal breaker for him?

Monkey Nuts Australia 4572 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting *Turtles*:" That's a good living."


Like the OP said, take all your living expenses and pretty much double it.
For a family of 4, they will be comfortable but not enough to take huge family holidays etc..



Monkey Nuts Australia 4572 posts
12th Nov '12

Consumer Prices in Salt Lake City, UT are 40.70% lower than in Perth
Consumer Prices Including Rent in Salt Lake City, UT are 44.15% lower than in Perth
Rent Prices in Salt Lake City, UT are 51.82% lower than in Perth
Restaurant Prices in Salt Lake City, UT are 49.65% lower than in Perth
Groceries Prices in Salt Lake City, UT are 31.05% lower than in Perth
Local Purchasing Power in Salt Lake City, UT is 8.36% lower than in Perth



As a comparison.

Alissa McKeighan 3 kids; Vermont 368 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Manda♥Bella:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" if you make 8000.00 a month, then just have ... [snip!] ... company on Australia.. So that helps haha, I'm just in an office job, but he does the hard work being a warehouse dude"</blockquote>



Yeah, not all economies are as shitty as good ol' 'Merica's. Haha

~Brandi Rene~ 2 kids; Richardson, Texas 121 posts
12th Nov '12

ok dont bash me for this- i have two gorgeous babies! theyre exactly twelve months apart lol ages 3 and 2 as of sept! and i have baby fever like crazy! hahaha i know we need to wait-so much we have to get settled before bringing another baby into this world...i wish he was begging for a baby lol jealous! but! with what ive read- and as a mommy that had two back to back...i know exactly how you feel! it is starting all over again and had my son not been an accidental blessing i doubt id have another child any time soon. if you know for sure you dont want more-its not fair to him. if you can consider having another(which is going to be extremely hard for you,as it was for me) then talk to him again and tell him what you've told us. i will say that my first pregnancy with my daughter was a dream!! my son...a living hellacious nightmare! every pregnancy is different :) i hope you can both come to some agreement. you seem to have a good head on your shoulders :)

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting Manda♥Bella:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" if you make 8000.00 a month, then just have ... [snip!] ... company on Australia.. So that helps haha, I'm just in an office job, but he does the hard work being a warehouse dude"


ooooooh *smacks head* I didn't see you were in australia.



That makes much more sense now!



Plus, you get baby bonus!!!

user banned Due July 3; 2 kids; Australia 14351 posts
12th Nov '12

Honetly i wouldnt consider it, u guys havent been together for that long yet and a baby is a huge thing. Enjoy just being together. I wouldnt even be buying a house with him yet

user banned Due July 3; 2 kids; Australia 14351 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" ooooooh *smacks head* I didn't see you were in australia. That makes much more sense now! Plus, you get baby bonus!!! "</blockquote>




Baby bonus has been cut down now. $5000 for first baby, $3000 for every other baby. Which is bullshit, $3000 wont even cover my medical bills for this baby :(

Life is a Highway ♫ 18 kids; Australia 9381 posts
12th Nov '12
The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting Devil Duckie:" if you make 8000.00 a month, then just have another kid. how the heck do you make 8000.00 a month? "


SO and I make between $7000 - $10,000 a month depending on overtime and bonuses and we just work as IT techs in a call centre .... wages are different here.



Also you're only young still ... I would tell him exactly how you feel but not discount the idea entirely for a few more years yet.

** 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Conway, Arkansas 3579 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>" :!::!:"</blockquote>




!! Lol I thought making 3-4 k a month was good geeze