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circumcision, family vs you Sam H. 17 kids; New York 560 posts
12th Nov '12

No drama. just looking for more reasons that what I have found.



So I am just about 15 weeks. we find out in 30 days what we are having. last night at a family dinner (my parents, brother, uncle, and grandparents, who everyone is jewish besides my father) my grandmother asked me about religious things, which I will not go in to detail about because it is irrelevant. But what was asked, was if I was going to do a circumcision if it was a boy. I said I was not going to, and SO is intact and is strongly for leaving our son that way. I grew up around everyone getting snipped and never had an opinion until I started doing research for when I wanted to have children with my SO, who is intact. Basically, when I told SO about the fight we had (he is moving in with my family in a few days) he freaked out and said your family can't make this choice for OUR baby. he SPECIFICALLY SAID he would be willing to listen to anyone's argument FOR the circumcision, but no one can give him a good enough answer besides it can cause health issues if you don't clean your kid, or teach them how to. We both have done our research but I am looking for honest really factually answers from other moms



if you did it, why?
if you didn't, why?
IF YOU SAY HEALTH REASONS BE PREPARED TO GIVE GREAT DETAIL.



also, any experiences with either would be great. SO NEVER had an issue, ever.



ETA: My opinion is I want to leave my son intact, this has nothing to do with me being unsure. I am just in search of finding someone who can provide us with a good reason why to do it, because no one is able to. even my family just said hygiene reasons.

.t a y l o r. 3 kids; Indiana 3847 posts
12th Nov '12

If neither you nor your SO want to do it, there really shouldn't be any outsider opinion here.... It's not the family p***s.

CRSx2Mommy 18 kids; North Carolina 3475 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting Taylor Migliano:" If neither you nor your SO want to do it, there really shouldn't be any outsider opinion here.... It's not the family p***s."


:!::!:



I circumcised my son and if the tables had been turned where family was in my ear about not doing it I would've told them to kick rocks with socks.

stfubeeouch Due November 24; 1 child; Texas 640 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Taylor Migliano:</b>" If neither you nor your SO want to do it, there really shouldn't be any outsider opinion here.... It's not the family p***s."</blockquote>




This

Vindictive 50 kids; Switzerland 30545 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting Taylor Migliano:" If neither you nor your SO want to do it, there really shouldn't be any outsider opinion here.... It's not the family p***s."


THIS.



And that is exactly why we have chosen to just not talk about it with family. It's none of their business, and their opinions don't matter anyway.

Mama Van D 18 kids; Unity, Maine 2454 posts
12th Nov '12

DH is circumcised, but DS is not. We both felt that he should be allowed to make that decision on his own. DH remembers wondering why he wasn't asked about it when he was younger, LOL.



It's a purely cosmetic surgery and I wouldn't do it to my daughter, so why should I do it to my son, KWIM?

user banned Due August 21; 3 kids; London, Gr, United Kingdom 2556 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting Taylor Migliano:" If neither you nor your SO want to do it, there really shouldn't be any outsider opinion here.... It's not the family p***s."


this!!!!



we have circumcised our first boy, the main reason was because we're both Muslims and never really thought about not doing it.



we had him circumcised at 2 months ans seeing my little man in such a pain was hard, i felt guilty for not thinking this through before doing it.



when I had my 2nd boy We made ourselve clear that we would not circumcise him.
both family are upset with the decision but we just don't care. OUR son, OUR business....

Sam H. 17 kids; New York 560 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting Vindictive:" THIS. And that is exactly why we have chosen to just not talk about it with family. It's none of their business, and their opinions don't matter anyway."


Believe me I regret it. and it;s so f**king obnoxious that my mother forces herself to come to my appt bc it's with her dr too, and because we have family health insurance so she thinks she's entitled to come, and I swear she's gonna ask the dr's opinion at the wrong time and it's gonna be a fight in the office. I think it's a girl anyways so idk why this is an issue until we find out the gender.

.t a y l o r. 3 kids; Indiana 3847 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sam H.:</b>" Believe me I regret it. and it;s so f**king obnoxious that my mother forces herself to come to my appt ... [snip!] ... and it's gonna be a fight in the office. I think it's a girl anyways so idk why this is an issue until we find out the gender."</blockquote>




If you're an adult, tell her she doesn't need to come. That's ridiculous that she'd start an argument over a body part that doesn't even belong to her. On a child that doesn't even belong to her, no less.

Proginoskes II 3 kids; North Carolina 1295 posts
12th Nov '12

I decided long ago that I would not circumcise if I had a boy. Well, I had 2 boys and stuck by it.
My family tried for months to convince me to get it done. Even while they were in the NICU, my parents were like, "When are you getting it done?" I said that I wasn't and they acted like I wasn't all there. My dad even went as far as to say that I'd 'better do it'. :roll:
Because one of my intact cousins used to get UTIs (end of the world right there :roll:) they kept trying to tell me that NOT being cut would hurt them more. My dad even made a disgusting joke about me having to "kiss it make it better" when they had a UTI. Yeah, that'll change my mind.
My boyfriend tried to get me to get it done, but I told him that this was something that I felt VERY strongly about and that I would never consent to it. We made a deal though- the boys stay intact, and he can teach them how to track and hunt when they're old enough.
My reasons were that babies DO feel pain. If they want it done when they are older, they can communicate that they are in pain verbally, take stronger pain medications, etc. It's amputating something that isn't even supposed to move for years! I could never hand a tiny baby, or any small child, over and say, "Here, doc, cut off chunk of undamaged, healthy tissue!"

baybe girl 3 kids; Mobile, Alabama 95 posts
12th Nov '12

We just found out were having a boy also. And it really is whatever you want. My husband is intact and takes very good care of his.. his family is very against, mine believe its up to me .and me and hubby are going to circumcise our lil boy because I've been with both and although I love hubby and satisfied I would still prefer him to be .. one main factor is he not overweight but not skinny..I don't know how to say it but he is also very active so he sweats a lot and sometimes it smells even after he washes it and even I do.. and I don't want my son to go through that.. I mean plus the normal medical factors like yeast infections not only for him but also being uncircumcised increases them in their partner and everything... Also once the men get in their 60s or so a lot of the time they have to get circumcised because the skin hangs more and makes them keen urinary track infections and stuff a lot .. 2 of my grandpas and uncle went through it
But ultimately.. you'll take care if it for the first 3 or 4 years and teach them and its their problem after that so It's whatever you want and your family should respect that

Damon's Mama 1 child; Kingman, Arizona 1403 posts
12th Nov '12

We left our son intact and very happy about our choice. I originally was all for circ but DH was totally against it (he is intact). I did some research and ended up changing my mind. My son is almost 6 months and is doing just fine :) any future sons of ours will also be intact.

babycakes! 18 kids; Orem, Utah 1939 posts
12th Nov '12

We didn't get rilan snipped. We didn't find it necessary. My fil isn't, my so is, my dad is, as well as my siblings.



Why put my child in pain, and risk infection, at such a young age. If he wants it done later, he can get it done.

baybe girl 3 kids; Mobile, Alabama 95 posts
12th Nov '12

It hurts worse when they're older because of the blood vessal and everything... They put the babies to sleep with numbing cream to do it and have a topical pain cream to make sure they don't feel the pain while It's healing.. I've known men thats had it done when they're older.. also when they're older there's a longer heal time

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
12th Nov '12

I choose to circum..if you choose not to its your decision. Not your families. If youdont want to do it then dont do it.