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**milfshake** London, United Kingdom 30799 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting Lizplustwo:" I disagree. You've been dating him a month, he should absolutely not be helping you discipline your kids. "


Ha I wasn't saying he should discipline him...AT ALL.



I'm saying that instead of criticizing me, he should have offered to help...like help my son pick up his toys, or help do dishes...not just sit on the f**king couch and watch my cable TV.



And then later tell me that I was parenting the wrong way...



I wouldn't ever allow anyone that I'm involved with to discipline my son.

speaktruth2powr 2 kids; Ontario 44923 posts
status 12th Nov '12
Quoting **milfshake**:" I just get sick of the condescending comments you tend to litter around this website. If you aren't ... [snip!] ... I don't want any of your advice...you're always just a snobby a*****e. You can just leave...none of your advice is desired."


How are my comments snobby or condescending?



My advice is actually get to know a guy before introducing him to your kid, and don't assume that almost strangers feel comfortable parenting your child.

Tiffany Poetry Loving' Jo Due November 26; Maryland 14 posts
12th Nov '12

Leave him alone a real man would have seen u fustrated n would have helped and he been around for a month that's enough time to interact with your son drop the loser he's showing u his true colors already its a song called clean up clean up clean up everybody every where clean up clean up everybody do your share lol kids tend to feel as though they can mess up but feel the need not to clean so u have to make it fun I was a director for a daycare so u can imagine trying to get 50 kids to clean up uggghhhh but I made it fun then always had snack for there hard work they created lol but u do want to slow down on the yelling because just like us we are human and they will block u out and act lie they don't hear u which gets us more angry lorl no kids but the oldes of seven n raising them I had to learn real fast good luck I'm going to be there soon about to have my son n already help raise four I know there busy lol praying for u

**milfshake** London, United Kingdom 30799 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" How are my comments snobby or condescending? My advice is actually get to know a guy before introducing ... [snip!] ... know a guy before introducing him to your kid, and don't assume that almost strangers feel comfortable disciplining your child."


He isn't a stranger...:?



I've known him for awhile, we are new to dating.



You don't give any sort of constructive advice. You judge. Every single time.



I'm inviting you to leave.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting **milfshake**:</b>" Ha I wasn't saying he should discipline him...AT ALL. I'm saying that instead of criticizing me, he ... [snip!] ... later tell me that I was parenting the wrong way... I wouldn't ever allow anyone that I'm involved with to discipline my son."</blockquote>




It's not his place to do ANY of that shit. And had someone I'm dating offer I would say no thanks. IT'S BEEN A MONTH.

speaktruth2powr 2 kids; Ontario 44923 posts
status 12th Nov '12
Quoting **milfshake**:" He isn't a stranger...:? I've known him for awhile, we are new to dating. You don't give any sort of constructive advice. You judge. Every single time. I'm inviting you to leave."


Funny how when I don't give advice/input/comments that people want, I'm a judgmental b***h....hmmm.



Doesn't sound to me like you are looking for a boyfriend, you are looking for a father for your child...

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting **milfshake**:</b>" He isn't a stranger...:? I've known him for awhile, we are new to dating. You don't give any sort of constructive advice. You judge. Every single time. I'm inviting you to leave."</blockquote>




Then you clearly aren't compatible dating.

ChubbyCheekers 2 kids; New York 3117 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting **milfshake**:</b>" Ha I wasn't saying he should discipline ... [snip!] ... It's not his place to do ANY of that shit. And had someone I'm dating offer I would say no thanks. IT'S BEEN A MONTH."

My thoughts exactly. I wasn't going to say anything and get my head bitten off though. I wouldn't let a guy I've been dating a month meet my children, let alone expect him to help me with household chores and cleaning up after my kids...



That said, he didn't have much right to comment on your parenting, either. But it sounds like you might have taken your frustration out on him a little...

**milfshake** London, United Kingdom 30799 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting **milfshake**:</b>" Ha I wasn't saying he should discipline ... [snip!] ... It's not his place to do ANY of that shit. And had someone I'm dating offer I would say no thanks. IT'S BEEN A MONTH."


Thanks.




In my opinion, when you care about a person, and you see them struggle...your natural inclination is to help them. If I see a woman struggling to get groceries to her car, and dealing with a screaming toddler...I help her. I don't have to know someone to help them.

**milfshake** London, United Kingdom 30799 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting **milfshake**:</b>" He isn't a stranger...:? I've known him ... [snip!] ... You judge. Every single time. I'm inviting you to leave."</blockquote> Then you clearly aren't compatible dating."


Yeah, I think I get that...according to my OP.

mama erica. 2 kids; New York 60568 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting **milfshake**:" He ended up storming out of my house. I couldn't help myself, I just exploded and asked him "Well, ... [snip!] ... right Erica. I think I'm just lonely and wanting to find someone that will be good for me and Gabriel. I shouldn't settle."


Me too hon, me too. And you and Gabriel deserve so much more than that. Find peace and happiness (I know that you have that, just a matter of speaking) between the two of you, and I just know one day you will find someone for the two of you that wont make you settle. I know how much you deserve!



*hugs*

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Funny how when I don't give advice/input/comments that people want, I'm a judgmental b***h....hmmm. ... [snip!] ... b***h....hmmm. Doesn't sound to me like you are looking for a boyfriend, you are looking for a father for your child..."</blockquote>



To the last part, BINGO!

**milfshake** London, United Kingdom 30799 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting mama erica.:" Me too hon, me too. And you and Gabriel deserve so much more than that. Find peace and happiness (I ... [snip!] ... I just know one day you will find someone for the two of you that wont make you settle. I know how much you deserve! *hugs*"


Thanks Erica *hugs*



Funny how I posted this in single parenting, and all I'm getting is advice from people who aren't single, and are co-parenting. Either or.



Oh BG, I haven't missed you :lol:

mama erica. 2 kids; New York 60568 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting **milfshake**:" Ha I wasn't saying he should discipline him...AT ALL. I'm saying that instead of criticizing me, he ... [snip!] ... later tell me that I was parenting the wrong way... I wouldn't ever allow anyone that I'm involved with to discipline my son."


*Eye roll*



It's seriously crap the whole "Why are you expecting him to discipline your son" bit. That's not what you were asking for, and I don't know why that's clear to me and yet so hard for others to see.



I've been a single mother who has dated before. I have been in situations where I needed some help, I have been in situations where they did help, not discipline. Tried to soothe me, tried to soothe the child, tried to help me escape... there are so many different ways he could've came to your aid.

mama erica. 2 kids; New York 60568 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting **milfshake**:</b>" Ha I wasn't saying he should discipline ... [snip!] ... It's not his place to do ANY of that shit. And had someone I'm dating offer I would say no thanks. IT'S BEEN A MONTH."


Oh dear god, seriously..



If a good guy saw she was frustrated and wanted to help calm the situation down, there are plenty of things he could've done without taking over, or acting like the parent.