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Cast Your Vote:

    • if I got my bfp Id postpone -- Votes: 14
    • if I got my bfp Id keep the original date -- Votes: 8
    • other -- Votes: 0
ttc & wedding planning, wwyd? *poll* ♥Love♥ TTC since Jun 2013; 2 angel babies; California 5631 posts
status 12th Nov '12

If you are or have been wedding planning and ttc how did that affect you? I am getting married in June and started to think about it today after I noticed that I was supposed to get my period yesterday and didnt. (Fingers crossed but not getting too excited yet) At this point we cant cancel (and have the wedding sooner here) or we would lose our deposits but we do have the option of postponing it (but not moving it up), but idk if I want to do that. If I get my bfp this month (trying not to get my hopes up) I will be due a month after the wedding. What what would you do/what did you do?

3 of a Kind Due March 27 (boy); 2 kids; Webster, Texas 4317 posts
12th Nov '12

Well i was ttc in april and got preggo and I had my wedding in october... A little different than what you are going though... but maybe postpone? You never know what could have a month before you have the baby... I would say just postpone it to a month or two later...

CerealMakerWife♥ TTC since Apr 2013; 5 kids; Ukraine 36287 posts
12th Nov '12

I would probably postpone it. I would hate looking at my pics if I just had a baby. lol. We started ttc about 4 months before our wedding. I didn't want to be any further then that along. Never got pregnant though.

♥Love♥ TTC since Jun 2013; 2 angel babies; California 5631 posts
status 12th Nov '12
Quoting CerealMakerWife♥:" I would probably postpone it. I would hate looking at my pics if I just had a baby. lol. We started ttc ... [snip!] ... We started ttc about 4 months before our wedding. I didn't want to be any further then that along. Never got pregnant though."

hmm I guess I really need to decide soon then if Im not pregnant because its a destination wedding and people will have to book flights. so maybe if Im not pregnant this cycle, we should wait a cycle or two (or more) so id only be 4-5 months at the wedding if we got it on the first time.

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3473 posts
12th Nov '12

Comes down to affordability n whether u want to be pp in your dress. I was ttc before we renewed our vows but we stopped bc I wanted to fit in my gown n I'd have had to get a new one bc it would fit a baby bump. Maybe if ur not preggo u could try closer to the wedding date so u wouldn't really be showing? But w deposits n all involved no I wouldn't postpone the wedding but the ttc if I could.

CerealMakerWife♥ TTC since Apr 2013; 5 kids; Ukraine 36287 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting ♥Love♥:" hmm I guess I really need to decide soon then if Im not pregnant because its a destination wedding and ... [snip!] ... this cycle, we should wait a cycle or two (or more) so id only be 4-5 months at the wedding if we got it on the first time."


If you're traveling also you can't be extremely pregnant and traveling. I would keep that in mind.

3 of a Kind Due March 27 (boy); 2 kids; Webster, Texas 4317 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting ♥Love♥:" hmm I guess I really need to decide soon then if Im not pregnant because its a destination wedding and ... [snip!] ... this cycle, we should wait a cycle or two (or more) so id only be 4-5 months at the wedding if we got it on the first time."


thats a good idea...oooo destination weddings are awesome!.. well hope all goes well :)

melindapple 1 child; Michigan 5425 posts
12th Nov '12

If you were to get pregnant now, you would be pregnant at your wedding correct? I selected "keep the date," because i got pregnant after booking my ceremony site and reception site so we didn't cancel ours. The only thing is, i had my baby before we got married. I'd personally postpone if i were pregnant, but that's really your decision.

1&1 We're Done! 2 kids; Nevada 10963 posts
12th Nov '12

We postponed when I got pregnant with DD, we weren't TTC she was a surprise but I didnt want to be pregnant for the wedding so we changed it to 6 months after DD was born.

3 of a Kind Due March 27 (boy); 2 kids; Webster, Texas 4317 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting CerealMakerWife♥:" If you're traveling also you can't be extremely pregnant and traveling. I would keep that in mind. "

:!: this.. if you are flying, they dont let you fly after 36 weeks and thats according to your doc and if your pregnancy is normal

♥Love♥ TTC since Jun 2013; 2 angel babies; California 5631 posts
status 12th Nov '12
Quoting CerealMakerWife♥:" If you're traveling also you can't be extremely pregnant and traveling. I would keep that in mind. "

*bangs head on desk* seriously why the f**k hadnt I thought more about that. I keep picturing the wedding, what it will be like etc... but not that I actually have to get there! uh yeah f**k traveling that far along. See this is why I love BG, people point out obvious stuff I have totally overlooked!

♥Love♥ TTC since Jun 2013; 2 angel babies; California 5631 posts
status 12th Nov '12

Ill talk about it with SO but it seems like if Im not pregnant this cycle, we should wait to ttc until I wouldnt be more than 5 months pregnant (the dress could easily fit me still with a few alterations i think, its a poofy ballgown) and if Im pregnant now, def post pone!

Brooke Cumberland TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Wisconsin 420 posts
12th Nov '12

I would definitely postpone for all of the above reasons people have been saying. If you are not pregnant this cycle, perhaps you would want to wait until after the wedding? At least you'd be able to drink and party at your own wedding :) Plus, you don't know how your body will react to the pregnancy - sickness, nausea, etc. You don't want to risk feeling sick at your wedding and then add flying on top of that.

Nicola =) 1 child; Huntsville, Alabama 2783 posts
12th Nov '12

Maybe you could ask the same venues you have deposits at to move the date. If youre pregnant 4 weeks is cutting it close. I delivered at 36 weeks so if it were me I would have missed the wedding.
Plus at 36 weeks I was miserable, lol

♥Love♥ TTC since Jun 2013; 2 angel babies; California 5631 posts
status 12th Nov '12
Quoting mommy-in-a-blended-family:" I would definitely postpone for all of the above reasons people have been saying. If you are not pregnant ... [snip!] ... the pregnancy - sickness, nausea, etc. You don't want to risk feeling sick at your wedding and then add flying on top of that. "

we have thought about totally stopping and waiting but we have been trying so long (on and off) that we dont want to just stop at this point I guess. But at the same time Im so discouraged I dont think it will happen anytime soon so Im not too worried about being pregnant during the wedding :(