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No more sex?! MrsSinatra 1 child; 1 angel baby; Phoenix, Arizona 993 posts
12th Nov '12

So my DF decided its best not to have sex anymore... he's scared of giving me contractions. I've been getting treated for preterm labor for 3 weeks, so he's paranoid. But, I'm kinda upset. My Dr said nothing about having sex... and I want it before I can't have it for 6 weeks pp.



Did this happen to you?
What did you do to convince him to stick it in? Lol.



I'm so sad he doesn't wanna sex me... I'm so horny! Ahhhhhh

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49352 posts
12th Nov '12

If you're already having preterm labor issues I can understand his fear.

bia. Due August 13; 2 kids; ., ., Portugal 76296 posts
status 12th Nov '12

Not really, but we can go a few days with out it. :x I have to keep telling him "we only have 27 days, could be as little as only 3 weeks and you wont be able to touch me for 6 weeks"



:roll:



Tonight he wanted to drink and I got shitty because well uh I want sex and he's NO good when he's drunk, now he's sitting in the room lol...poor baby.



Jump him lol.:)

Klaus 2 kids; Mississippi 24335 posts
status 12th Nov '12

I had pre-term labor and my doctor never said anything about not having sex. I was single so I didn't ask though lol



Not that you would just WANT to bring on labor, but won't you be 37 weeks soon? I would think that point you would be fine to do whatever

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
12th Nov '12

"You sure you don't want to? I'll be out of commission for at least 4 weeks after she's here, and then I'll have my tubes tied shortly after that, so I'll be out of commission again...jus' sayin'...."




it worked :lol:

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23061 posts
status 12th Nov '12

If you are at risk for preterm labor I can understand his concerns. But I'm sure it is very frustrating for you

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 6862 posts
12th Nov '12

I'm pretty surprised your dr didn't already say no sex. That's normally one of the first things to go. If it's any consolation, of all of the times i've been knocked up, i've only been allowed to have sex during the 1st pregnancy. :) It can be very frustrating, but the sex is pretty awesome when you finally can do it.

MrsSinatra 1 child; 1 angel baby; Phoenix, Arizona 993 posts
12th Nov '12

Idk. This whole pregnancy I have had like no desire. But these last 2 months I have been a horndog. I just want to have sex as much as possible now because I know it will be different when we have our little Guy. ;(



I'm just emotional and over reacting probably... but he said before bed thar maybe we can try something tomorrow... MAYBE?! ugh... I'm so irritated... its been over a week. a*****e. ;(

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 6862 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting MrsSinatra:" Idk. This whole pregnancy I have had like no desire. But these last 2 months I have been a horndog. I ... [snip!] ... before bed thar maybe we can try something tomorrow... MAYBE?! ugh... I'm so irritated... its been over a week. a*****e. ;("


I know this probably isn't what you want to hear, but i would strongly recommend not having sex if you're having issues with contractions. The orgasm can cause contractions, so can n****e stimulation. Sperm can help your cervix soften and obviously shoving anything up there when it's already irritable is just a bad idea. Not to mention the risks of you getting an infection if you're dilating at all are a big big deal.



Obviously you don't want to take the advice from some random person on the internet, but if it was me, i'd call my OB and see what he says. If he says it's fine, then you can always mention that to your bf. :)

Momma-of-2-Ts 2 kids; British Columbia 255 posts
12th Nov '12

my husband did the same thing from 25 weeks on with our first, thankfully our 2nd everything has been going smoothly and he is having a ton of fun helping me trying to kick labor into gear now lol (my

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49352 posts
12th Nov '12
Quoting Summerfrost:" I know this probably isn't what you want to hear, but i would strongly recommend not having sex if you're ... [snip!] ... but if it was me, i'd call my OB and see what he says. If he says it's fine, then you can always mention that to your bf. :)"


I agree with all but the infection really. Sperm's sterile.

MrsSinatra 1 child; 1 angel baby; Phoenix, Arizona 993 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Summerfrost:</b>" I know this probably isn't what you want to hear, but i would strongly recommend not having sex if you're ... [snip!] ... but if it was me, i'd call my OB and see what he says. If he says it's fine, then you can always mention that to your bf. :)"</blockquote>



I'm sure I'm going to sound like a super terrible person/mom for this... but idc if I go into labor at this point. I'm selfish and I wanna get laid. Lol. My Dr said that if I go into labor everything will be fine.



I know its completely out of line for me to say that, and I'm sure I will regret it... but I'm actually feeling kinda depressed that he doesn't want to do me. ;( I need the physical contact... ;(



I know. I'm a horrible person for feeling this way, I just can't help it.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23061 posts
status 12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MrsSinatra:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Summerfrost:</b>" I know this probably isn't what you want ... [snip!] ... want to do me. ;( I need the physical contact... ;( I know. I'm a horrible person for feeling this way, I just can't help it."</blockquote>




Is sex worth having your baby possibly being in the NICU? That sounds harsh I don't mean to but it could happen with any baby

MrsSinatra 1 child; 1 angel baby; Phoenix, Arizona 993 posts
12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting HopingforaMiracle:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting MrsSinatra:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Summerfrost:</b>" ... [snip!] ... Is sex worth having your baby possibly being in the NICU? That sounds harsh I don't mean to but it could happen with any baby"</blockquote>




No I know, that's why I said I might regret saying that... but dude.... I feel like I'm gonna die. I told you it was a selfish thing for me to say/feel... but that's just what's going on in my body ATM. ;(



I will be 37 weeks Fri... if that helps anything at all. Lol...



Ugh, I'm a terrible person!

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23061 posts
status 12th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MrsSinatra:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting HopingforaMiracle:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting MrsSinatra:</b>" ... [snip!] ... going on in my body ATM. ;( I will be 37 weeks Fri... if that helps anything at all. Lol... Ugh, I'm a terrible person!"</blockquote>




I understand it isn't worth it but it doesn't make you feel any better