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I don't like this.... First Time Momma(: 1 child; Columbus, Ohio 688 posts
13th Nov '12

My LO is with his dad and his gf. It's Gavin's first time being with his dad and his gf together... :(
I feel lonely!
Gavin is 11 weeks old his dad and I broke up when he was about 5 weeks. I'm still hurt by that (idc that he's moving on he honestly don't deserve me) I feel like I was being pushed to meet her and just be okay with him going and meeting her. Everyone was telling me to just grow the fu*k up and meet her blah blah blah...
end vent.
how did you momma's feel when your baby went with their dad and his gf for the first time.?

Ruby Runion-Brown Due July 25 (girl); Greenville, South Carolina 1067 posts
13th Nov '12

it's your baby if you wasn't ready you don't have to make him go. it's not being childish if it's in the best intrest of your child

Smitten Kitten. 4 kids; Florida 155 posts
13th Nov '12

Watching...

BαtMαɳ Gotham, __, United States 67651 posts
status 13th Nov '12

I was extremely upset. But looking back, it was bound to happen and it took me a long time to let go of things that were out of my control. He has as much right over ur son as you do, so the decisions that he makes while your son is with him don't have to be liked, but they do have to be respected.



And I wouldn't meet his gf until you are ready.

BαtMαɳ Gotham, __, United States 67651 posts
status 13th Nov '12
Quoting Ruby Runion-Brown:" it's your baby if you wasn't ready you don't have to make him go. it's not being childish if it's in the best intrest of your child"


What?



If we could just keep our kids with us because we aren't ready to have them go, they would stay with us forever. That's his DAD. They both have a right to see each other and grow a bond.

Ruby Runion-Brown Due July 25 (girl); Greenville, South Carolina 1067 posts
13th Nov '12
Quoting BαƚMαɳ:" What? If we could just keep our kids with us because we aren't ready to have them go, they would stay with us forever. That's his DAD. They both have a right to see each other and grow a bond."


she has a right to say when another female meets her child. he needs to be serious about her before introducing her to his child. if she feels like it wont last she has a right to express her wishs

BαtMαɳ Gotham, __, United States 67651 posts
status 13th Nov '12
Quoting Ruby Runion-Brown:" she has a right to say when another female meets her child. he needs to be serious about her before introducing her to his child. if she feels like it wont last she has a right to express her wishs"


No actually she doesn't. Who her child's father decides to bring into HIS child's life is his choice. Unless she can prove that the people he has around the child are a danger to him in anyway, she has no say so at all.

Ruby Runion-Brown Due July 25 (girl); Greenville, South Carolina 1067 posts
13th Nov '12
Quoting BαƚMαɳ:" No actually she doesn't. Who her child's father decides to bring into HIS child's life is his choice. ... [snip!] ... choice. Unless she can prove that the people he has around the child are a danger to him in anyway, she has no say so at all."

that's not the case here unless your married at the time of the childs birth. it's the way i feel about it. i didn't tell her how i felt about it to argue with someone else.

First Time Momma(: 1 child; Columbus, Ohio 688 posts
13th Nov '12
Quoting BαƚMαɳ:" No actually she doesn't. Who her child's father decides to bring into HIS child's life is his choice. ... [snip!] ... choice. Unless she can prove that the people he has around the child are a danger to him in anyway, she has no say so at all."


Right now he really has NO rights to the baby he's not even on the birth certificate...

BαtMαɳ Gotham, __, United States 67651 posts
status 13th Nov '12
Quoting First Time Momma(::" Right now he really has NO rights to the baby he's not even on the birth certificate..."


Well then idk what to tell you.

Leannah Carrasco 3 kids; Yuba City, California 346 posts
13th Nov '12

I say that you have every right to feel uncomfortable with the situation but give her a chance til you know something isnt right like her playibg mommy to your baby .... When me and my husband split he was seeing someone else and I sent my kids over there with a smile on my face im not "threatened" by another women or how ever people put it but if someone had played mommy to kids I would be playin count her teeth ... But you dont have to let you baby go anywhere with either one of them especially this young! When you arent comfortable thats for certain..... But try and meet them somewhere so that you can get to know her first...

Ruby Runion-Brown Due July 25 (girl); Greenville, South Carolina 1067 posts
14th Nov '12
Quoting Leannah Carrasco:" I say that you have every right to feel uncomfortable with the situation but give her a chance til you ... [snip!] ... When you arent comfortable thats for certain..... But try and meet them somewhere so that you can get to know her first..."

i agree you should meet her before allowing LO to. 11wks is really young to have someone take your child. DD is 15wks & i wont even let no one keep her more than a couple hours here & there. if DH & myself were to split up & he had a new girlfriend i wouldn't want my child around her until i knew he was 100% certain him & the new woman were going to be together for awhile & i'mnot talking about just a year or 2. but i feel the same way about myself i wouldn't put anyone in her life from myside unless i knew they were going to be around for awhile, but i had people ripped out of my life at a drop of a dime. & i've watched my niece & nephews go through it. so i seen & felt the emotions envolved 1st hand, it's not easy for a LO to get attached & wonder why someone wasn't around anymore.