You say DH is no help, but he bathes them and changes them AND feeds them? I would say that's a pretty good deal of help for most men...
Quoting E.P. Mom:" You say DH is no help, but he bathes them and changes them AND feeds them? I would say that's a pretty good deal of help for most men... "
This was my thought!!!
OP~ I do it alone 20days each month. I have 4yr old twins and a 2yr old little boy. I would give anything to have my husband here to feed and bathe my kids for me. I get that it can be overwhelming especially if you are a SAHM and you don't "get out". Try not to discredit what he does do to help out. Regardless if he gives tude or not.
Quoting The failed abortion.[+2]:" I did it alone for months before my husband came along, I know what it's like to be in all by yourself. ... [snip!] ... really. I don't get out, I am a SAHM. I love him and thank him, but him being rude just hurts my feelings sometimes, is all."
That's your problem. You don't get out. You need to find a mommy group to join. When the walls around you close in and you have no out, you can get resentful of your spouse who "gets" to leave the house. Often they would love to be in your shoes. To them, they go to work to come home to "work". My husband and I fought about that alot. We went to a counselor and well, he was set straight. Not because the counselor TOLD him that he was wrong. Just that he learned that staying home isn't watching soap operas and eating bon bon's all day. It is work without a paycheck.