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Confused!!! ugh! Mary J. Rodriguez Due September 27 (girl); 3 kids; Palmdale, California 177 posts
14th Nov '12

I just had our 4th baby Sept 30th idk if its because its postpartum depression or what but one moment I'm happy one moment I don't want to be with him usually I'm the one whom works and he watches the kids and he finally got a job last week works from 5am to 5pm M-F which is great but sucks I'm so use to him being home with me but what bothers me is that when i worked M-F 7-5 I use to come home and want to spend time with him because I missed him but he wouldn't want to and say he's just tired of being home with the kids all day well now that he works he comes home cares more about feeding his sisters stupid lizard all the damn time he doesn't help me with the baby which makes me sad because he doesn't spend time with her he cares more about a damn lizard and makes time to feed it other then spending time with me for the last 2yrs 1/2 our sex life has SUCKED he never wants to have sex I am VERY unhappy with our sex life I've told him so many times but nothings changed I know he loves me so much and he's family but a part of me isn't happy idk what to do how would you ladies feel in this situation what would you do? I know this is bad but I keep getting the urge to contact an ex of mine just to talk because he always makes me feel important unlike my husband makes me feel unwanted and lowers my self esteem because of our sex life.... Does this sound real or could it be my hormones?

♥Sami [better off] Due August 7; 1 child; 1 angel baby; La Vergne, TN, United States 3099 posts
14th Nov '12
Quoting Mary J. Rodriguez:" I just had our 4th baby Sept 30th idk if its because its postpartum depression or what but one moment ... [snip!] ... makes me feel unwanted and lowers my self esteem because of our sex life.... Does this sound real or could it be my hormones?"


It's understandable that you're upset. DO NOT go finding comfort in your ex though. That just has trouble written all over it. Talk to your husband. If you feel like maybe there is more going on, talk to your OB/GYN about it. They can point you in the right direction if you do in fact have PPD. Ask your husband why he's not interested in sex. Maybe he's stressed because of his new job and his new role as breadwinner. It may have absolutely nothing to do with you. Men's sex drives can be affected by a number of factors, just like ours. Good luck.

Mary J. Rodriguez Due September 27 (girl); 3 kids; Palmdale, California 177 posts
14th Nov '12

But it cant be because he works he's been like this for 2yrs 1/2 I always ask him why he never wants to and he tells me that I expect him to jump on it and that's not how it works that he needs to be in the mood and I try I touch him start kissing him but he stops me so how the hell am I suppose to get him in the mood of he doesn't let me

Chamayne Due December 12 (boy); 2 kids; Maryland 42 posts
14th Nov '12

Baby girl this sucks. I was in this situation at one time but I was in his role. I was going through things within myself. Feeling disappointed in the direction i was going in life things lije that. I also felt like i was settling for less with him and I just didnt want to be touched by him. Let alone have sex. It caused so many issues and it went on for a long time. I mean i will defiantly say NO to the ex reach out. Just talk to him. Ask is he not happy? How did he feel about your last pregnancy. Your going on almost 3 years of this, there had to be something to it. Wishing you some answers because your not happy, he seems Moody, unhappy mommy is un happy house hold you know.

MrsWilliams154 Due June 24; 17 kids; Oxford, United Kingdom 1094 posts
14th Nov '12

Try to find out why he is acting like this and discuss how unhappy you are. Maybe arrange a date night for you both with no kids at least once a month.



I was at the same point and considered talking to an old friend who had feelings for me but decided against it - yeah I'd have probably felt better for a little while but the problems would still be there with my husband and I.



Also, try to get a girls night out once in a while with you and your friends - staying at home all day with kids is not easy 24/7.