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Dealing with a 3 year old. JoAnna &hearts's Jett 1 child; Dallas, Texas 5661 posts
14th Nov '12

So Jett was an awesome baby, never fussed, was always happy. But now as he's nearing 4 he acts like a complete brat. I hate to admit it but some days I don't like him. I love him, I just don't like him some days. He acts like he's entitled to everything. We don't spoil him, I cant remember the last time we bough him a toy, candy,whatever. I just don't understand where he gets this attitude from. My husband and I are very passive, and sometimes I feel like he knows this and tries to step all over us.



Sometimes I feel like its my fault, because he's lonely. We aren't close to family and friends so we spend out time usually at home bored. His dad works a lot. And we see him a total of 4-5 full days a month, the rest is just in passing. He wants a sibling so bad but my husband doesn't want anymore at all. I just feel like I've failed him.:(. Anyone else ever feel this way, or have a child like mine?

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
14th Nov '12

First of all, I love his name.
Secondly, 3 year old's are the biggest child dick heads, ever. Seriously, whoever said 2 was worse was on crack or something.
Thirdly, you haven't failed him by not giving him a sibling! Can you enroll him in a daycare program? Even if it's only 2 days a week. He needs that stimulation, routine and social time with other children his age. And you get a break too so it's a win-win! I work full time and I miss my Son so bad it hurts sometimes. I feel though I am a better Mother this way because the time spent with my Son is positive and appreciated. Sometimes quality does outweigh quantity.



Good luck and god speed!

Chloe'smommie Due June 18; 17 kids; Petal, Mississippi 3 posts
14th Nov '12

My daughter is soon to be 5 and acts like this it just started an she is very bossy when it comes to things but I noticed the more she plays with other kids it helps and I noticed if she goes to bed early and gets out an plays some she isn't that bossy but we have found out we are pregnant again an she has started being whiney but I think its just a stage they go through

LolaMcKitten Due May 30; 27 kids; Beverly Hills, California 15496 posts
14th Nov '12

^^ I agree - my 3 year old is a total a*****e sometimes - sounds mean, but it's really true. No rhyme or reason for it, he just acts like a little jerk. I love him more than anything else, but damn.....



I agree, though, could you possibly get him into a daycare program a couple days a week? That could help a LOT. When my son got to go to Head Start for a while, he was A LOT better! Even just that few hours a day and being with other kids....

JoAnna &hearts's Jett 1 child; Dallas, Texas 5661 posts
14th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" First of all, I love his name. Secondly, 3 year old's are the biggest child dick heads, ever. Seriously, ... [snip!] ... the time spent with my Son is positive and appreciated. Sometimes quality does outweigh quantity. Good luck and god speed!"</blockquote>




Thank you! His dad actually picked his first name out :)
And that's the thing, he is in preschool for two days. And he acts super bad in class. I actually went to his thanksgiving party today and he acted like such a brat. I was so embarrassed. And you know, I always said that I never wanted to put him in daycare. But sometimes I feel like for my own sanity, he needs to go and I have to find myself a job. I honestly feel like we'd both be happier.

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
14th Nov '12

Put him in school or somthing, jades an ass I love her to death, but I dred when she's at home all day like on weekends... lol he'll make friends and it will help ur realtionship, because it gives u time apart to actually *miss* him...

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
14th Nov '12
Quoting JoAnna &hearts's Jett:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" First of all, I love his name. Secondly, 3 ... [snip!] ... I feel like for my own sanity, he needs to go and I have to find myself a job. I honestly feel like we'd both be happier."

My Son is at an awesome daycare, like it's a god send. It's a super nice place with tons of physical activities for them to do as well as learning in a class room setting. My Son asks to go to School, lol. If you do your research, there are wonderful places out there. Even if it's a temporary thing until he gets a handle on his emotions, it's worth looking into. Like you said, you both might be happier this way.

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
14th Nov '12

This is at my Son's daycare
They do lots of physical activities with the kids and I swear that is what psycho little 3 year old's need!
culc_4.jpgGym with rock climbing wall. I also have my son signed up for Basketball which happens every Friday. They don't "play" but it's basically to teach them to work together as a team, etc. and focuses more on the value of it vs the sport
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One of the play grounds (have several to accommodate the child's age)
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They have events that happen there such as the Fire Dept coming out every so often, etc. They have cameras in the rooms. I just wanted to show you all of this because of the horrible stigma that daycare's have. There are actually really good places out there :)

JoAnna &hearts's Jett 1 child; Dallas, Texas 5661 posts
14th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" Put him in school or somthing, jades an ass I love her to death, but I dred when she's at home all day ... [snip!] ... on weekends... lol he'll make friends and it will help ur realtionship, because it gives u time apart to actually *miss* him..."</blockquote>




I guess it's just that I'm so burnt out on having to deal with him 24/7. His dad is here but never present. He's gone all the time working.

JoAnna &hearts's Jett 1 child; Dallas, Texas 5661 posts
14th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" This is at my Son's daycare They do lots of physical activities with the kids and I swear that is what ... [snip!] ... to show you all of this because of the horrible stigma that daycare's have. There are actually really good places out there :)"</blockquote>




Thats so awesome! I wish they had places like that here. I hate freakig Oklahoma. I really do, it's part of why we live in misery. It sucks here.

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
14th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting JoAnna ♥'s Jett:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" Put him in school or somthing, ... [snip!] ... just that I'm so burnt out on having to deal with him 24/7. His dad is here but never present. He's gone all the time working."</blockquote>




That's how I get with Jade, my husband is in school again for his bsn, and working pt, so we see less of him now, I would die if she didn't have school to go to... she seriously makes me want to drink, lol