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*A&N's Mama* 2 kids; Halifax, Nova Scotia 4627 posts
14th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" Take into account of location as well. People are talking about emergency trips to the ER, well here ... [snip!] ... bonus we get per kid, they are being paid to have children, so they have them. That right there is just... My breaking point."</blockquote>



This is true. It's all free here in Canada too :)

*A&N's Mama* 2 kids; Halifax, Nova Scotia 4627 posts
14th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting TheNuge:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting NevviesMom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting TheNuge:</b>" ... [snip!] ... etc, who is anyone to judge them?"</blockquote> I agree. But what you just wrote differs from your first post :)"</blockquote>



How so? That I don't want spoiled kids who expect everything given to them? I don't think providing them with food shelter and medicine would corrupt them would it? Lol

Mummy-2-2-Monsters 2 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 8970 posts
status 14th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting The (super kinky) Master:</b>" Yeah the baby bonus thing pisses me off ... I think offer paid maternity leave OR like gift vouchers ... [snip!] ... also here you can have full ante-natal care, classes, the birth, post-natal care, lactation consultants etc etc all for free."</blockquote>



Exactly, when Marcus was born we had to go on assistance because hubs lost his job, we were already pay check to pay check with no savings, heavily in debt and bam his job was gone. That's one thing that saved us, the free health cover.. All of his specialists, surgeries, exams, X-rays, mris, etc.. Covered. Only thing we struggled with for him was his medications which cost us $200 each and he had six of them. Shit happens.. But we are way way better off now.

Mummy-2-2-Monsters 2 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 8970 posts
status 14th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting TheNuge:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:</b>" Take into account of location as well. ... [snip!] ... most kids that's dont have insurance. IMO, there is a BIG difference between being paycheck to paycheck and being truly poor."</blockquote>



There is a big difference you are right. At least being pay check to pay check you can afford basic needs. Luxuries are more expensive than needs and most people don't realise this.

user banned Minneapolis, Minnesota 612 posts
14th Nov '12
Quoting Mummy-2-2-Monsters:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The (super kinky) Master:</b>" Yeah the baby bonus thing pisses ... [snip!] ... for him was his medications which cost us $200 each and he had six of them. Shit happens.. But we are way way better off now."


must be nice! I pay for everything and I mean everything!!! I can't wait for an overhaul

Mama McNeely 2 kids; Bremerton, Washington 5117 posts
14th Nov '12

Yes if you can't feed your kids then you shouldn't have more. I went hungry as a child so I feel very strongly about this.

Layla-and-Faith 2 kids; Nova Scotia 656 posts
14th Nov '12

Funny this should come up, I just finished having a long 3 hour talk with a 92 year old woman. She told me it's sad the way people focus so much on "stuff" these days instead of people and love. She said she was poor in terms of money but they always had a home, food and clothing and they always had each other. She said at the end of life all you have left are the memories and Hearse don't pull uhauls. It's up to each person what memories they want to have in their older years. If you would rather be left with memories of fancy vacations/cars and fat bank accounts, then so be it but for her and for me, I would rather memories of a happy family. People lived on a lot less once upon a time, they knew the differences between needs and wants and still lived happy lives.



To answer your question. As long as a family can shelter, feed, dress and love/care for a child, they should be able to make those memories without judgment from others. Everyones life is there own, everyone is making their own memories.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
14th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Layla-and-Faith:</b>" Funny this should come up, I just finished having a long 3 hour talk with a 92 year old woman. She told ... [snip!] ... able to make those memories without judgment from others. Everyones life is there own, everyone is making their own memories."</blockquote>




....we had "fancy vacations and a fat bank account" and I had a VERY happy childhood.

Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
14th Nov '12

Personally? Yes, I do feel it is. Do I stress this to others? No, not my life.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22487 posts
15th Nov '12

I think it is to try for the baby but if it happens then it happens. If they're living paycheck to paycheck how are they going to feed another mouth? Diaper another person?

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
15th Nov '12
Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" I think it is to try for the baby but if it happens then it happens. If they're living paycheck to paycheck how are they going to feed another mouth? Diaper another person?"


I'm curently living paycheck to paycheck and will do til about Feburary ... we're going to start TTC next month. I will easily be able to diaper another person because my 19 month old will mostly be potty trained by the time a new one arrives and I intend to breastfeed, If I can't breastfeed I'll make sure to work overtime to afford formula.

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
15th Nov '12

I think it depends on what the amount of the pay to pay is, really!



And how selfish the parents are in what is important in their families lives.



I would say more of my thoughts, but not in the mood. lol

TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 22981 posts
15th Nov '12
Quoting Coupon Lady:" I think it depends on what the amount of the pay to pay is, really! And how selfish the parents are ... [snip!] ... the parents are in what is important in their families lives. I would say more of my thoughts, but not in the mood. lol"


Yes, the paycheck and expnses matter greatly in this arguement.
I was raised in a middle, middle-class family. My parents would have described themselves as "paycheck-paycheck" and most of their friends would have described themselves that way. We werent poor, but nearly all of their pay was spent every month, they got behind every once in a while and had credit card debt. they also had months when they were ahead and that allowed them to pay more of the credit cards and set some money aside for things that were nice to have or nearly required like new clothing for school and jackets in the winter.
so, "paycheck to paycheck" is very subjective.

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31318 posts
15th Nov '12
Quoting ag iompar clainne (17w):" <blockquote><b>Quoting Layla-and-Faith:</b>" Funny this should come up, I just finished ... [snip!] ... own memories."</blockquote> ....we had "fancy vacations and a fat bank account" and I had a VERY happy childhood."


Same here & I do the same for my son. Just because something provided is 'fancy' doesn't mean people pawn their kids off & don't spend quailty time with them & their memories suck.



user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
15th Nov '12
Quoting TheNuge:" Yes, the paycheck and expnses matter greatly in this arguement. I was raised in a middle, middle-class ... [snip!] ... have or nearly required like new clothing for school and jackets in the winter. so, "paycheck to paycheck" is very subjective."



Same.



My parents own a huge kick ass house with a pool and 4 bedrooms, and they bought it in 1986 (cost was lower then) lol but they were young early 20's I was 3 and my brother was 6.
But they have always lived paycheck to paycheck and still do know. And they both work mon-fri My dad gets paid from 8am to 4pm at 25.00 an hour plus overtime and all those nice extras, and my mom makes slightly more then my dad and works mon-fri from 8:30am to 4:30pm.



But still live pay to pay. lol when I was a kid we went on trips did fun things sports etc.....but still did pay to pay.



I live pay to pay and still put at least 300 in savings a month for years, I have crazy savings now. lol And my kids are happy healthy and they do sports and and we do movies twice a week. and eat well and they wear clothes etc....



It is very subjective when it comes to pay to pay. But it also depends on how parents spend their money, is it on the neccesities their family needs or the wants of the family.



I think if a couple is barely living off of their income every month and needs huge amounts of handouts, it would not be the best time to TTC. If it happens it happens.
But I hate wehn parents have kids, cause they think their money troubles will be over due to "more" assistance or better child tax etc....Its not right at all. lol