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Issues... *L's Mommie* 17 kids; Abilene, Texas 367 posts
14th Nov '12

I just got some trust issues and I cant shake them off. Its hard when my dh says "she is just a friend". Also i am home alone and nobody to talk too:( sorry just a vent. nothing but that.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
14th Nov '12

well. did he do anything wrong?!

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44071 posts
14th Nov '12

I have trust issues too mama. I've been lied to too many times I am always wondering when will be te next lie and will I find out about it.

*L's Mommie* 17 kids; Abilene, Texas 367 posts
14th Nov '12

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" well. did he do anything wrong?!"



He doesn't respect my wishes. Otherwise on the cheating part no.



*L's Mommie* 17 kids; Abilene, Texas 367 posts
14th Nov '12
Quoting lolajessup:" I have trust issues too mama. I've been lied to too many times I am always wondering when will be te next lie and will I find out about it."

Yeah well never been cheated on by him. I'm just damaged from another relationship. It sucks badddd!

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44071 posts
14th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting *L's Mommie*:</b>" Yeah well never been cheated on by him. I'm just damaged from another relationship. It sucks badddd!"</blockquote>



I've never been cheated on either. He was just a compulsive liar when I met him an it's ruined a lot of my trust. It's hard cause it's been a few years since any issues but I still have tht in the back of my mind.

*L's Mommie* 17 kids; Abilene, Texas 367 posts
14th Nov '12
Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *L's Mommie*:</b>" Yeah well never been cheated on by him. I'm ... [snip!] ... ruined a lot of my trust. It's hard cause it's been a few years since any issues but I still have tht in the back of my mind."

Well alot of people said that my dh was a liar, when i got with him. But he has never lied to me. but I would like to ask a question. Lets say the way i am: not having trust and always wondering and waiting for him to fuck up, and you were the man in the relationship, would you feel like you shouldnt do anything or add girls"friends" too make me worry. (sorry if that was confusing)

mandee831 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Georgia 532 posts
14th Nov '12

I don't know what kind of friends you're referring to, but I don't think a married man should have female friends outside of work. Another couple is on thing, but a single or even attached female is a no no. I would feel the same way. Ask him which relationship is more important, your marriage or his friendship with this woman.

*L's Mommie* 17 kids; Abilene, Texas 367 posts
14th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting mandee831:</b>" I don't know what kind of friends you're referring to, but I don't think a married man should have female ... [snip!] ... no. I would feel the same way. Ask him which relationship is more important, your marriage or his friendship with this woman."</blockquote>




Something that I agree upon! But his excuse is you have friends, or do you have something that your hiding? No I don't have guy friends, and no I would never cheat on you!

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
14th Nov '12
Quoting mandee831:" I don't know what kind of friends you're referring to, but I don't think a married man should have female ... [snip!] ... no. I would feel the same way. Ask him which relationship is more important, your marriage or his friendship with this woman."


Why not lol?

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
14th Nov '12
Quoting *L's Mommie*:" "


What do you mean he doesn't respect your wishes?

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44071 posts
14th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting *L's Mommie*:</b>" Well alot of people said that my dh was a liar, when i got with him. But he has never lied to me. but ... [snip!] ... would you feel like you shouldnt do anything or add girls"friends" too make me worry. (sorry if that was confusing)"</blockquote>



Yeah SO had a work friend that he hung out with without me terr and he knew it made me uncomfortable. He felt guilty one time cause I got upset and bought
Me flowers over it. He hasn't hung out with girls alone since that aren't like our couples friends.

mandee831 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Georgia 532 posts
14th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MysticWitchKat:</b>" Why not lol?"</blockquote>



Because it's not right, period. Anyone who is married understands what I'm saying. Being friends at work is one thing, but talking regularly or hanging out outside of work is a big no. You just don't do it.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
14th Nov '12
Quoting mandee831:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MysticWitchKat:</b>" Why not lol?"</blockquote> Because ... [snip!] ... Being friends at work is one thing, but talking regularly or hanging out outside of work is a big no. You just don't do it."


Actually most of my married friends have friends of the opposite sex outside of work. That's a pretty much 1950's era attitude on things i'm sorry. Sounds like perhaps you have some hangups you need to work on :-P.

mandee831 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Georgia 532 posts
14th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MysticWitchKat:</b>" Actually most of my married friends have friends of the opposite sex outside of work. That's a pretty ... [snip!] ... a pretty much 1950's era attitude on things i'm sorry. Sounds like perhaps you have some hangups you need to work on :-P."</blockquote>




Sure, have it your way. I'm tired and typing on my tablet is a pain in the ass. Friends of the opposite sex are OK, but hanging out with them without your spouse isn't cool. Suffice it to say, when you're married you'll be qualified to give a real statement on the issue. As it stands, you really don't have any idea what you're talking about.