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How to talk SO about the next step sooner rather then later? ~Meeka~ Noahs Mom 17 kids; Fort Lauderdale, Florida 387 posts
14th Nov '12

My ex just got engaged to his gf of like less then a year tonight.. Me n my SO have been together 9 years in april.. This makes me sad.. How do I talk to my SO about takin that next step?
A lil back story.. He went to college.. Does Not have a job with his degree but does have one with the city.. We live with his mom n now have a one year old.. I work at subway in the mall but training for Dunkin Donuts now.. More hours n money..



Honestly I would rather have a ring n live here then watch everyone around me get what they wanted as a girl...



Trying not to cry so he doesnt see me but im tired of ppl gettin married before me.. This is all you think about as a lil girl.. N now I'm someones BM.. After 8 years I thought things would be different..

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
14th Nov '12

If you two have been together for that long then i'd just sit him down & talk to him about it. You've already spent years together so its not like you can't tolerate being together. Just be up front about wanting to take the next step & explain that it has been on your mind for awhile

I had a BabyBumpBelly 17 kids; American Fork, Utah 34384 posts
14th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Meeka~ Noahs Mom:</b>" My ex just got engaged to his gf of like less then a year tonight.. Me n my SO have been together 9 years ... [snip!] ... BM.. Just cause im black doesn't mean this is what wanted for my life.. After 8 years I thought things would be different.."</blockquote>




What does being "black" have ANYTHING to do with it......
Tell him how you feel and what you want.

Rette Mich 1 child; Texas 27603 posts
14th Nov '12

So black people dont get married? Damn I need to tell the girl down the stree that got married last month shes doing it all wrong O.O

*~* Superwoman *~* 1 child; Moreno Valley, California 2045 posts
14th Nov '12

Im also curious as to how your race plays a role in your next step in life.

AidensMama101107 18 kids; Wichita, Kansas 3453 posts
14th Nov '12

I know exactly how you are feeling. I watched most of my friends get married before me. We have been together for 6 years almost 7. We have been married for 4 months. mind you for the first 2 years of our relationship i was a minor and couldnt get married. I hated the fact that everyone around me was married or getting married. after whining at him for 3 years i started to throw fits. Needless to say i won we got married. i would talk to him if you have been together that long and he still doesnt want to get married something is holding him back and you need to find out what it is.

pennylove 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Australia 1352 posts
14th Nov '12

i just plainly asked him to marry me a little while back & he goes "its not the time or the place" whatever that meant. we have been together 4yrs im not sure if we will get married im sorta not fussed but still, i gave our son his last name why can i have his last name as well.

~Meeka~ Noahs Mom 17 kids; Fort Lauderdale, Florida 387 posts
14th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting sarah* sarah:</b>" i just plainly asked him to marry me a little while back & he goes "its not the time or the place" ... [snip!] ... sure if we will get married im sorta not fussed but still, i gave our son his last name why can i have his last name as well."</blockquote>




That how I feel! I dont b***h about it at ALL.. Our son has his last nane. Why cant I?! Its not fair.. N btw.. I have asked lime 2 or 3 years in to marry n me responed the same way... What the hell do I do now?! 4 or 5 year later? Do I just have to buy a ring and ask him again! It makes me feel like im just not good enough or something.. Makes me want to throw up..