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I might lose it Mrs.Hart 'IBakeBoysOnly Due June 2; TTC since Sep 2013; 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Michigan 3502 posts
15th Nov '12

My 2 and a half year old does not listen to me at all. He gets up before 8 am and won't go to sleep till 10pm. No naps in between. Destroying the house all day. If I put him in time out he throws stuff at me and hits me. I feel like I scream all day long. I honestly feel relieved when my DH gets home. I can't get anything done during the day because my son is up my ass. The Dr put me on Xanax but that just makes me tired. How can I get him to chill out and listen? I am going crazy. When his step sister is here its so nice bc he plays with her and acts somewhat not crazy. I can not wait till my LO is older to keep my son distracted from being a tornado. When I bring him around anyone I hear "you have your hands full" or "wow terrible two plus ADHD". I do try. He just won't listen. I need advice. I'm willing to try anything at this point. Well besides hitting.

britty06 Due March 5 (girl); 3 kids; St. Paul, MN, United States 492 posts
15th Nov '12

my son is the same way.

my bf is home all day and our son doesn't try any funny business with him. but me, he tests me all night long and on weekends. it sucks when my 2 year old like "beats me up" haha sad but true. i've been doing this new thing where i just ignore it. if he throws something at me... he doesn't get it back. if he hits me, i stand up and walk away. seems to be working a little bit.

Mrs.Hart 'IBakeBoysOnly Due June 2; TTC since Sep 2013; 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Michigan 3502 posts
15th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting britty06:</b>" my son is the same way. my bf is home all day and our son doesn't try any funny business with him. ... [snip!] ... he throws something at me... he doesn't get it back. if he hits me, i stand up and walk away. seems to be working a little bit."</blockquote>




I never thought about taking away the toy away. He likes to spill his drinks now. So I make him watch me pour it out after. He flips.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
15th Nov '12

Every single time he hits or misbehaves, put him in time out. Say you're in time out for-----. Make him stay his 2 minutes. If he moves keep putting him back, even if it takes 20 times. Don't look at him while there, or laugh, or yell. Give no reaction other than placing him back in. He will eventually understand that he has to stay there. Don't give a reward after telling him not to do something. Never give a warning more than once. Be strict, but loving.

britty06 Due March 5 (girl); 3 kids; St. Paul, MN, United States 492 posts
15th Nov '12
Quoting NkW:" <blockquote><b>Quoting britty06:</b>" my son is the same way. my bf is home all ... [snip!] ... thought about taking away the toy away. He likes to spill his drinks now. So I make him watch me pour it out after. He flips."


and you know how you said you feel like you're yelling all the time? i felt the same way but i just don't yell anymore. i noticed if he's loud or being naughty and i yell... he just acts out more or gets louder.

lamr - 02-08-13-21 2 kids; Crazytown, ON, Canada 6007 posts
15th Nov '12

Is there things you can get him involved in? We have drop in centers here where they can go and play with other kids and the moms can sit back and watch. My son is 2.5 and I have him in preschool (because he doesn't get a lot of kid interaction otherwise). Maybe swimming lessons? Skating lessons?



Probably bad, but I just the kids (school) as leverage. "ugh oh, if you can't listen then i guess we can't go see the kids". Works like a charm.

Mrs.Hart 'IBakeBoysOnly Due June 2; TTC since Sep 2013; 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Michigan 3502 posts
15th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting lamr - 02-08-13-21:</b>" Is there things you can get him involved in? We have drop in centers here where they can go and play ... [snip!] ... I just the kids (school) as leverage. "ugh oh, if you can't listen then i guess we can't go see the kids". Works like a charm."</blockquote>




I was going to put him in preschool twice a week since sports don't start around here till 3. Preschool would probably help him and me.

lamr - 02-08-13-21 2 kids; Crazytown, ON, Canada 6007 posts
15th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting NkW:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lamr - 02-08-13-21:</b>" Is there things you can get him involved ... [snip!] ... to put him in preschool twice a week since sports don't start around here till 3. Preschool would probably help him and me."</blockquote>




It's the best thing in the universe. His first day he was at school, my youngest was napping and I was sitting on the couch in awe of the silence!

familyLivin' 3 kids; Windsor, Ontario 173 posts
15th Nov '12

My son was the same way the day before he turned 2 it was like he was given a lisence to drive me crazy lol. I agree with Crystal no other reaction, when they are acting like that they are trying to get a rise out of you so if you show him you are upset he wins and will keep doing it. Although my pediatrician told me that they cannot diagnose ADD, ADHD, ODD, etc until at least 5 correctly. I'm not saying that you are doing the wrong thing by taking him to the doctor, you are just taking care of him. I'm just wondering if it may be a little early for meds. I would try to take a more natural approach, like changing my diet, unless you've already done that. GL it WILL get better :)

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
15th Nov '12

At that age most kids act out because they are exploreing new ideas and thoughts or they are just bored.



Boredom is the big kicker. Really it is.



What is your day and routine like? Do you have a routine at all?



Lots of activities in the day at ceratin times will definately help ease out of misbehaving. Also catching them when they are "good" and praising them for it works wonders, instead of being a constant yelling nagging mom. lol Been there done it all. lol
I felt bad cause I nagged and yelled all the time, then they got louder so I got louder it was horrible. lol



But after some thoughts lol And getting down on there level and speaking firmly at that age and getting them to repeat what I just said, it seemed to work better.

Mrs.Hart 'IBakeBoysOnly Due June 2; TTC since Sep 2013; 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Michigan 3502 posts
15th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting familyLivin':</b>" My son was the same way the day before he turned 2 it was like he was given a lisence to drive me crazy ... [snip!] ... I would try to take a more natural approach, like changing my diet, unless you've already done that. GL it WILL get better :)"</blockquote>




I didn't take him to the Dr. People like family and friends think he has ADHD. I will never put him on meds. Me and his father were both on meds for ADHD and we both hated it.