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Barnett Babies Due February 22; 10 kids; Indiana 1770 posts
15th Nov '12
Quoting LadyTurner1:" That's precisely how I feel. My son doesn't need to be around the negativity"

Especially NOT if she child is going to be negative about you in any form while your child present. Otherwise, I too am a Grama- I would sacrafice whatever I had to if it meant being in my Grand children's life and so will w/ good intentions!

LadyTurner1 Due December 26 (boy); Milford, Connecticut 11 posts
15th Nov '12
Quoting snglemama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LadyTurner1:</b>" I definitely appreciate everyone's feedback... ... [snip!] ... I'd have been glad they didn't come if they didn't like me. It's selfish to cut her out just because she doesn't like you"


I beg to differ... he was there. He just was in my womb. Not to mention, I received nothing for myself (not that I expected anything). I believe he not showing up was a good thing but also a precursor of how she can act in the future toward her flesh and her son's son. It's not only my son it's his too so I have a problem with her offending my husband as well. Thanks for your input.

LadyTurner1 Due December 26 (boy); Milford, Connecticut 11 posts
15th Nov '12
Quoting Barnett Babies:" Especially NOT if she child is going to be negative about you in any form while your child present. Otherwise, ... [snip!] ... am a Grama- I would sacrafice whatever I had to if it meant being in my Grand children's life and so will w/ good intentions!"


Those were my thoughts and my mother's as well.

Barnett Babies Due February 22; 10 kids; Indiana 1770 posts
15th Nov '12
Quoting Barnett Babies:" Especially NOT if she child is going to be negative about you in any form while your child present. Otherwise, ... [snip!] ... am a Grama- I would sacrafice whatever I had to if it meant being in my Grand children's life and so will w/ good intentions!"


sorry typos- So will she w/ good intentions* I think you could make out the rest!!

Barnett Babies Due February 22; 10 kids; Indiana 1770 posts
15th Nov '12
Quoting LadyTurner1:" I beg to differ... he was there. He just was in my womb. Not to mention, I received nothing for myself ... [snip!] ... son's son. It's not only my son it's his too so I have a problem with her offending my husband as well. Thanks for your input."

:!: Your intentions are NOT to be keeping him from his Grandma-You will have to at some point if this does not get any better let her know what YOU expect and you will not tolerate the disrespect toward you her son or her Grand Son- !!!!

LadyTurner1 Due December 26 (boy); Milford, Connecticut 11 posts
15th Nov '12
Quoting Barnett Babies:" :!: Your intentions are NOT to be keeping him from his Grandma-You will have to at some point if this ... [snip!] ... get any better let her know what YOU expect and you will not tolerate the disrespect toward you her son or her Grand Son- !!!!"


Thanks! That's what I will have to do. I don't mind admitting when I'm wrong and don't having a problem with mending fences (when necessary), however, I refuse to be in a power struggle with my MIL and definitely refuse to have my son subjected to unnecessary drama.

OmegaDucks! Japan 615 posts
15th Nov '12
Quoting LadyTurner1:" I beg to differ... he was there. He just was in my womb. Not to mention, I received nothing for myself ... [snip!] ... son's son. It's not only my son it's his too so I have a problem with her offending my husband as well. Thanks for your input."


So you are thinking of punishing her now for something she may do in the future?

LadyTurner1 Due December 26 (boy); Milford, Connecticut 11 posts
15th Nov '12
Quoting OmegaDucks!:" So you are thinking of punishing her now for something she may do in the future?"


She didn't "almost" not go... she didn't go, so I think that's "punishment" for the present not for the future. When I say it's a precursor of her further actions as well.

Mann Makin' Mama[BBM] 18 kids; Dalton, Georgia 11563 posts
15th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting LadyTurner1:</b>" She didn't "almost" not go... she didn't go, so I think that's "punishment" for the present not for the future. When I say it's a precursor of her further actions."</blockquote>




My MIL didn't attend baby showers, nor my eldest's birthday parties. When she sees my kids we are adult enough to let go of all the pettiness so they can spend time together. Personally I think you're only gettin what you want to hear from one person in this thread (no offense intended), but hey, to each of their own.

Addi's Momma Due January 23; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Florissant, Missouri 5297 posts
15th Nov '12

I say trust your gut. I keep DD away from MIL despite my husband's disapproval. She has caused a lot of problems in our marriage to the point DH and I have almost divorced. My MIL though has a sick attraction to my husband and makes sexual innuendos about him constantly. It is quite sick. She also hates me, called CPS on me, and tried to have a DNA test done on my daughter.

Barnett Babies Due February 22; 10 kids; Indiana 1770 posts
15th Nov '12

That is not what she wants to hear- It is how she feels ..I 'am sure every mother has some one she would not risk having their child around for certain reasons! Who is to say it is not a Family member- Its real life and its facts I have had to deal with it- My MIL just doesn't care enough to respect her son and I so therefore its not worth her seeing her Grand kids that is not MY fault! Yet, she does not even care!

LadyTurner1 Due December 26 (boy); Milford, Connecticut 11 posts
15th Nov '12
Quoting Mann Makin' Mama[BBM]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LadyTurner1:</b>" She didn't "almost" not go... she didn't ... [snip!] ... you're only gettin what you want to hear from one person in this thread (no offense intended), but hey, to each of their own."


I believe we all know the purpose of the forum (no offense). If I weren't expecting opposing views I would have never posted on a public forum. I'd be writing in my journal. I don't mind the feedback and like everyone else it's always good to know when you have others that can relate...
Essentially, at the end of the day I will do what I think it's best for me and my family. I was just venting and I believe I'm adult enough to accept the opinions of strangers based on a snippet of reality that I've posted. Thanks!!

Barnett Babies Due February 22; 10 kids; Indiana 1770 posts
15th Nov '12
Quoting LadyTurner1:" I believe we all know the purpose of the forum (no offense). If I weren't expecting opposing views I ... [snip!] ... and I believe I'm adult enough to accept the opinions of strangers based on a snippet of reality that I've posted. Thanks!!"

Well said!!

LadyTurner1 Due December 26 (boy); Milford, Connecticut 11 posts
15th Nov '12
Quoting Addi's Momma:" I say trust your gut. I keep DD away from MIL despite my husband's disapproval. She has caused a lot ... [snip!] ... about him constantly. It is quite sick. She also hates me, called CPS on me, and tried to have a DNA test done on my daughter."


I can totally understand

Barnett Babies Due February 22; 10 kids; Indiana 1770 posts
15th Nov '12
Quoting Mann Makin' Mama[BBM]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LadyTurner1:</b>" She didn't "almost" not go... she didn't ... [snip!] ... you're only gettin what you want to hear from one person in this thread (no offense intended), but hey, to each of their own."

Sounds like a two way street!! NOW, our point is -:does not work for everyone! Sadly!!