Cast Your Vote:
- Tell the father -- Votes: 32
- Don't tell the father -- Votes: 57
You are pregnant from a one night stand or from a friend. Not in a relationship
You decide you ARE going to get an abortion.
Do you have an obligation to tell the father? Or would you just do it and not even tell him you were pregnant?
I don't care if you are antiabortion. This decision is made
All of this is a hypothetical situation of course
If I had 100% decided, I wouldn't tell him.
I say I wouldn't tell the father because they could think that you (general you) robbed him of fatherhood
I wouldn't tell him if I knew nothing would change my mind.
Depends one night stand no
Within a friend. How close are we. Maybe.
He has a right to know and take in part of the decision process, it's his child too.
Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" I say I wouldn't tell the father because they could think that you (general you) robbed him of fatherhood"
I could see that.
I'd feel horrible though if I didn't tell him. The guilt of him not knowing would kill me.
I wouldn't say anything.
I wouldn't myself just to spare my friend the pain and stress. And what if he has a different opinion on what should happen? Don't want to deal with that drama when it is already a very difficult situation to be in.
I wouldn't. There are no ties. Why bother?
If I were the guy, I would want to know, so I would tell. Even if it was a one night stand, the man should know what you intend to do with what would be his future offspring.
It's a little different because they were in a relationship, but that is why SO left his ex-wife. Not because she had an abortion 25 years ago (his baby) but because she didn't ever tell him. He was going through old medical records before their move and he found some documents from the abortion clinic she went to. He was heartbroken.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Raωkeℓ:</b>" I could see that. I'd feel horrible though if I didn't tell him. The guilt of him not knowing would kill me."</blockquote>
Eh not me because nothing he could say would change my mind
Quoting Kristina98785:" He has a right to know and take in part of the decision process, it's his child too."
While I agree if you're undecided...
It's (by law) the woman's choice and she has the ultimate decision. So the point of the thread is, IMO, if you had ALREADY made the choice, would you tell him?