Cast Your Vote:

    • Tell the father -- Votes: 32
    • Don't tell the father -- Votes: 57
Telling the father about an abortion *D&D* Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55087 posts
status 16th Nov '12


You are pregnant from a one night stand or from a friend. Not in a relationship

You decide you ARE going to get an abortion.

Do you have an obligation to tell the father? Or would you just do it and not even tell him you were pregnant?

I don't care if you are antiabortion. This decision is made
All of this is a hypothetical situation of course

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57578 posts
16th Nov '12

If I had 100% decided, I wouldn't tell him.

Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
16th Nov '12

Hmm, I would..

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
16th Nov '12

Do not tell him.

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
16th Nov '12

I would tell him..

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 21595 posts
16th Nov '12

I say I wouldn't tell the father because they could think that you (general you) robbed him of fatherhood

empire state of mind New York, New York 12203 posts
16th Nov '12

I wouldn't tell him if I knew nothing would change my mind.

J+K= Bri&Colton:) 2 kids; Windsor, PA, United States 8479 posts
status 16th Nov '12

I wouldn't. You weren't in a relationship.

Rachie.luv♡ 2 kids; El Paso, Texas 14533 posts
16th Nov '12

Depends one night stand no
Within a friend. How close are we. Maybe.

Soon to be FOUR ;) Due February 8; 1 child; Wisconsin 355 posts
16th Nov '12

He has a right to know and take in part of the decision process, it's his child too.

Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" I say I wouldn't tell the father because they could think that you (general you) robbed him of fatherhood"

I could see that.

I'd feel horrible though if I didn't tell him. The guilt of him not knowing would kill me.

user banned 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
16th Nov '12

I wouldn't say anything.

Jane.Doe. Fukushima, Japan 2805 posts
16th Nov '12

I wouldn't myself just to spare my friend the pain and stress. And what if he has a different opinion on what should happen? Don't want to deal with that drama when it is already a very difficult situation to be in.

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25368 posts
16th Nov '12

I wouldn't. There are no ties. Why bother?

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
16th Nov '12

If I were the guy, I would want to know, so I would tell. Even if it was a one night stand, the man should know what you intend to do with what would be his future offspring.

It's a little different because they were in a relationship, but that is why SO left his ex-wife. Not because she had an abortion 25 years ago (his baby) but because she didn't ever tell him. He was going through old medical records before their move and he found some documents from the abortion clinic she went to. He was heartbroken.