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Cast Your Vote:

    • Tell the father -- Votes: 32
    • Don't tell the father -- Votes: 57
khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting Just Ames:" Dramatic much? "


Nope. Pro-life much. He had two girlfriends in high school prior to his ex-wife that had aborted his children and it killed him. He believes that abortion is murder and he did not want to sleep with someone who killed his child.

Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting khigh:" Nope. Pro-life much. He had two girlfriends in high school prior to his ex-wife that had aborted his ... [snip!] ... children and it killed him. He believes that abortion is murder and he did not want to sleep with someone who killed his child."


Fetus.*

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting Raωkeℓ:" Fetus.*"


Fetus, parasite, alien life form. Whatever you want to call it, it does not change the feelings nor the moral beliefs of someone who is prolife.

Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting khigh:" Fetus, parasite, alien life form. Whatever you want to call it, it does not change the feelings nor the moral beliefs of someone who is prolife."


I completely agree.

Cass Hole 3 kids; Shiloh, IL, United States 7588 posts
16th Nov '12

I was actually in this situation. I got pregnant at 17 and didn't tell the father. I had an abortion at 9 weeks. It really was the best decision for me and felt he didn't need to know. Well, he found out about it (I met him through a mutual friend who knew about the pregnancy and abortion) He was heartbroken. I felt so bad for him. I'm sure he hates me to this day for what I did but I don't regret my decision.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting Just Ames:" I would have thought that after 25 years, you could work through something like that but I guess in his case (because of his moral standards) that didn't apply."


You also have to think. He got three women pregnant and all three women aborted the fetus. He has no living children. He goes to therapy now because he can't understand why he is such a good, loving person and all the women who could have given him children killed them.

He can't have anymore chances at having children because he had a vasectomy and it's too late to try for anymore.

JKBC♡ 2 kids; Windsor, PA, United States 9268 posts
16th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Cass-Hole:</b>" I was actually in this situation. I got pregnant at 17 and didn't tell the father. I had an abortion ... [snip!] ... He was heartbroken. I felt so bad for him. I'm sure he hates me to this day for what I did but I don't regret my decision. "</blockquote>



He may have been heartbroken but both have to be ready to become parents and you made the best decision.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11978 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting Just Ames:" Dramatic much? "



dramatic for being upset that his WIFE aborted his baby without telling him? I think he has a right to be

Rette Mich 1 child; Texas 27603 posts
16th Nov '12

One night stand? Nope, it wouldnt be his decision so what would it matter? Why have them hurt too?



Relationship? Yes, you made the decision to be with someone so you should honor that and not lie to them.




I actually know of a guy *friend of friend type thing* that took his one night stand to court after he heard she was going to get an abortion. Got his church all up in arms. Judge of couse told him that he didnt have a say so but it took a toll on the girl. She was from China and went back there because of all the BS. I never found out if she went through with it or not. He then claimed she took his "baby" with her.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting Just Ames:" A vasectomy can be reversed and a man can father a child up until any age. So it is possible however I realize it's not feasible for many."

He turns 50 next week. It's just not feasible.

user banned Zwolle, Louisiana 101 posts
16th Nov '12

I would tell, no point in holding off telling people like you have something to hide (and i do believe guys have a right to know and not find out through a billion other people down the track). If you have made a decision, then any other opinions wont matter. And if the guy doesnt want said person having an abortion then he should invest in contraception.

Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting khigh:" You also have to think. He got three women pregnant and all three women aborted the fetus. He has ... [snip!] ... them. He can't have anymore chances at having children because he had a vasectomy and it's too late to try for anymore. "


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That's a sad story.

Nut ღ Meg Beverly Hills, CA, United States 40239 posts
16th Nov '12

In this scenario, no I wouldn't tell him.

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
16th Nov '12

This is a serious question. I am not being a smartass or rude. For those who say i wouldn't tell him cause then he would tell his friends and blab. If your doing whats best for you and in your heart doing nothing wrong. Then it shouldnt matter if he blabs and others know. Why would you care if others knew?

user banned Due September 18 (boy); 1 child; California 21617 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:" This is a serious question. I am not being a smartass or rude. For those who say i wouldn't tell him ... [snip!] ... and in your heart doing nothing wrong. Then it shouldnt matter if he blabs and others know. Why would you care if others knew?"


I didn't say that, but I was thinking it so I'll answer..
Personally, i know how some pro-life people get and having an abortion would be hard enough. I wouldn't want people constantly harassing me and trying to make my life hell because of a decision I made for my body and my life. Yeah, I'd know that what I did was the right decision, but that doesn't make it easy.