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Cast Your Vote:

    • Tell the father -- Votes: 32
    • Don't tell the father -- Votes: 57
Aℓℓison♥ 3 kids; Zimbabwe 18256 posts
16th Nov '12

When *I* was in that situation, he was the first person i told... I basically said "look, im pregnant. Im not keeping it." And he agreed that that was the best decision. He offered to pay half, and even take me... I took his money lol but had my BFF go with me instead.

His momma! Due May 28; 1 child; San Antonio, Texas 328 posts
16th Nov '12

I would tell him. Regardless




People are still going to do/say what they want.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting Just Ames:" Dramatic much? "


Nope. Pro-life much. He had two girlfriends in high school prior to his ex-wife that had aborted his children and it killed him. He believes that abortion is murder and he did not want to sleep with someone who killed his child.

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting khigh:" Nope. Pro-life much. He had two girlfriends in high school prior to his ex-wife that had aborted his ... [snip!] ... children and it killed him. He believes that abortion is murder and he did not want to sleep with someone who killed his child."

I would have thought that after 25 years, you could work through something like that but I guess in his case (because of his moral standards) that didn't apply.

Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting khigh:" Nope. Pro-life much. He had two girlfriends in high school prior to his ex-wife that had aborted his ... [snip!] ... children and it killed him. He believes that abortion is murder and he did not want to sleep with someone who killed his child."


Fetus.*

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting Raωkeℓ:" Fetus.*"


Fetus, parasite, alien life form. Whatever you want to call it, it does not change the feelings nor the moral beliefs of someone who is prolife.

Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting khigh:" Fetus, parasite, alien life form. Whatever you want to call it, it does not change the feelings nor the moral beliefs of someone who is prolife."


I completely agree.

Cass Hole 3 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 7531 posts
16th Nov '12

I was actually in this situation. I got pregnant at 17 and didn't tell the father. I had an abortion at 9 weeks. It really was the best decision for me and felt he didn't need to know. Well, he found out about it (I met him through a mutual friend who knew about the pregnancy and abortion) He was heartbroken. I felt so bad for him. I'm sure he hates me to this day for what I did but I don't regret my decision.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting Just Ames:" I would have thought that after 25 years, you could work through something like that but I guess in his case (because of his moral standards) that didn't apply."


You also have to think. He got three women pregnant and all three women aborted the fetus. He has no living children. He goes to therapy now because he can't understand why he is such a good, loving person and all the women who could have given him children killed them.

He can't have anymore chances at having children because he had a vasectomy and it's too late to try for anymore.

J+K= Bri&Colton:) 2 kids; Windsor, PA, United States 8479 posts
16th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Cass-Hole:</b>" I was actually in this situation. I got pregnant at 17 and didn't tell the father. I had an abortion ... [snip!] ... He was heartbroken. I felt so bad for him. I'm sure he hates me to this day for what I did but I don't regret my decision. "</blockquote>



He may have been heartbroken but both have to be ready to become parents and you made the best decision.

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting khigh:" You also have to think. He got three women pregnant and all three women aborted the fetus. He has ... [snip!] ... them. He can't have anymore chances at having children because he had a vasectomy and it's too late to try for anymore. "

A vasectomy can be reversed and a man can father a child up until any age. So it is possible however I realize it's not feasible for many.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11958 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting Just Ames:" Dramatic much? "



dramatic for being upset that his WIFE aborted his baby without telling him? I think he has a right to be

Rette Mich 1 child; Texas 27601 posts
16th Nov '12

One night stand? Nope, it wouldnt be his decision so what would it matter? Why have them hurt too?



Relationship? Yes, you made the decision to be with someone so you should honor that and not lie to them.




I actually know of a guy *friend of friend type thing* that took his one night stand to court after he heard she was going to get an abortion. Got his church all up in arms. Judge of couse told him that he didnt have a say so but it took a toll on the girl. She was from China and went back there because of all the BS. I never found out if she went through with it or not. He then claimed she took his "baby" with her.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting Just Ames:" A vasectomy can be reversed and a man can father a child up until any age. So it is possible however I realize it's not feasible for many."

He turns 50 next week. It's just not feasible.

user banned Zwolle, Louisiana 101 posts
16th Nov '12

I would tell, no point in holding off telling people like you have something to hide (and i do believe guys have a right to know and not find out through a billion other people down the track). If you have made a decision, then any other opinions wont matter. And if the guy doesnt want said person having an abortion then he should invest in contraception.