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    • Tell the father -- Votes: 32
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Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting The Doctor:" I absolutely agree that it's not generally the first conversation that you have with someone. That's ... [snip!] ... birth control if he doesn't want a woman to have an abortion after he comes inside her with no protection. IMO, of course."



Both parties need to be responsible... especially if they are engaging in recreational sex.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
16th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" I absolutely agree that it's not generally the first conversation that you have with someone. That's ... [snip!] ... birth control if he doesn't want a woman to have an abortion after he comes inside her with no protection. IMO, of course."</blockquote>




I get that and I take precautions because I don't want more children. SO knows my stance but that's because we are both members of NRCL. So, pretty much any guy I date will know because of my affiliations. Not many women are that out.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59959 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" Both parties need to be responsible... especially if they are engaging in recreational sex."


I agree. No matter whether you're pro choice or pro life... responsibility is important, I think.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22957 posts
16th Nov '12

Now if I was in a relationship I would tell my SO

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59959 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" I absolutely agree that it's not generally ... [snip!] ... we are both members of NRCL. So, pretty much any guy I date will know because of my affiliations. Not many women are that out."


Okay. But, again, I think the question being posed here is why he was irresponsible on multiple occasions, and then blames the women for breaking his heart (sorry, "killing him"). Just as many people ask the same of women who didn't use protection and ended up pregnant, and then are upset that their child(ren)'s father is not around.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
16th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Okay. But, again, I think the question being posed here is why he was irresponsible on multiple occasions, ... [snip!] ... same of women who didn't use protection and ended up pregnant, and then are upset that their child(ren)'s father is not around."</blockquote>




I think the only reasonable answer I can give is he was in high school. His wife was the one thatreally hurt.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59959 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Okay. But, again, I think the question being ... [snip!] ... I think the only reasonable answer I can give is he was in high school. His wife was the one thatreally hurt."


Yeah, and I absolutely understand that. Dishonesty is absolutely unacceptable to me in a relationship, I would rather know the truth, even if the truth hurts.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22957 posts
16th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Okay. But, again, I think the question being ... [snip!] ... I think the only reasonable answer I can give is he was in high school. His wife was the one thatreally hurt."</blockquote>



And your SO's situation is the reason I won't sleep with a pro-lifer because I don't want the potential sex partner to be hurt by my decision

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59959 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Okay. But, again, I think the question being ... [snip!] ... I think the only reasonable answer I can give is he was in high school. His wife was the one thatreally hurt."


Oh! And can I ask you a kinda personal question that I've been wondering about? This seems like the opportune moment. haha

Milk Monster 2 kids; Arizona 9089 posts
16th Nov '12


I wouldn't tell him. Of course I'm biased. This is kind of similar to what happened to my uncle, only difference is he was in a relationship. She aborted and told him. He was so hurt by it...

Crystallized Due February 24; 1 child; California 431 posts
16th Nov '12

I wouldn't tell him.
What would be the point if I'm going to do it regardless of what he says or thinks about it?

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
16th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Oh! And can I ask you a kinda personal question that I've been wondering about? This seems like the opportune moment. haha"</blockquote>




Sure. I don't mind answering personal questions.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59959 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Oh! And can I ask you a kinda personal question ... [snip!] ... about? This seems like the opportune moment. haha"</blockquote> Sure. I don't mind answering personal questions."


Okay. I'm not even sure "personal" was the right word...



But I've wondered.



You're libertarian. Is being pro-life something that comes from your religion, just from your gut? It's always seemed so strange, to me, that someone could be libertarian, and have such strong views on controlling what someone else does/doesn't do, yaknow? I was just wondering if you could tell me, I guess, how you kind of deal with the conflict of interest (or whatever you call it)?

Milk Monster 2 kids; Arizona 9089 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting The Doctor:" The wife one.... I absolutely agree that was wrong. But, correct me if I'm wrong... the ones in high ... [snip!] ... using protection? Or is it okay for a man to sleep around and the women should not abort, because that would break his heart?)"



How do you know he didn't use protection and know the girl beforehand? A pregnancy really does change everything, even the people involved in creating that fetus. They could have been together for a long while, used protection, etc. Doesn't change the fact that he may have wanted those babies.



Of course he has every right to be heart broken over what could have been his child and end the relationship if he wants to. Just like she has every right to abort and not tell him.

Milk Monster 2 kids; Arizona 9089 posts
16th Nov '12
Quoting The Doctor:" Okay. But, again, I think the question being posed here is why he was irresponsible on multiple occasions, ... [snip!] ... same of women who didn't use protection and ended up pregnant, and then are upset that their child(ren)'s father is not around."


Ahhh I see what you are getting at! I am readign through the entire thread.. May have read some stuff wrong though! :oops: