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Cast Your Vote:

    • Tell the father -- Votes: 32
    • Don't tell the father -- Votes: 57
user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting Kristina98785:" He has a right to know and take in part of the decision process, it's his child too."

I don't think he has any right to be part of the decision making progress personally.

Atticus & Rhys's Mommy 2 kids; Westfield, Massachusetts 7406 posts
19th Nov '12

If it was a 1 night stand, no I wouldnt tell the father. If it was a close friend, possibly depending on how close we were, but if I was 100% sure I was going t abort regardless I dont think I would tell anyone.

My Brain On Drugs TTC since Sep 2013; 33 kids; Elephant Butte, New Mexico 15751 posts
19th Nov '12

If the "father" was clearly a horrible person who I had no desire to ever speak with again, ever, then I might not mention it.



But what am I doing sleeping with the dregs? Was I raped?




I'd tell the guy. You have to. Let him have a say in what happens, or believe that he does. Especially if he's a good person. Of course, if he were any good he wouldn't want me to have the abortion, in which case, that's a tough one right there...
I'd already 100% decided to do it, right?



Yeah, I don't know. That's a really bizarre hypothetical situation.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting Kristina98785:" He has a right to know and take in part of the decision process, it's his child too."


My body My rules.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting [JadeLee]:" Maybe your SO should have used a condom if he did not want his fetuses terminated. Three times he knocked people up, you would think he would have learned."

Oh Snap!

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:" wow..that made no sense at all. Of course its the mans fault. pffttt"


No it's both of their faults or neither if it was a bc failure. However in general you find that men more often place the burden of bc on women then the other way around. IMO both should take responsibility. Yes she told him to bang her without protection, but no one said he had to. He plays just as much responsibility as she does in that matter.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting [JadeLee]:</b>" Maybe your SO should have used a condom if he ... [snip!] ... people up, you would think he would have learned."</blockquote> Always the man's fault, huh? One was his wife."


No but he doesn't really have right to be upset if he keeps having continual unprotected sex either.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
19th Nov '12

No because I really have no desire to create a drama filled situation. I would not keep the fetal unit anyway, so there is no reason to bring it up.

Tarynosaurus Rex San Antonio, Texas 1271 posts
22nd Nov '12

I wouldn't tell. What would the point be? If he's okay with the abortion then fine but if he's not I wouldn't want him trying to change my mind.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
22nd Nov '12
Quoting Tarynosaurus Rex:" I wouldn't tell. What would the point be? If he's okay with the abortion then fine but if he's not I wouldn't want him trying to change my mind."


*fist bump*

thisunrest India 10364 posts
22nd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" Scenario You are pregnant from a one night stand or from a friend. Not in a relationship You decide ... [snip!] ... I don't care if you are antiabortion. This decision is made All of this is a hypothetical situation of course"</blockquote>




I wouldn't. What good would it do him, why give him a chance to sway my emotions.



And if he's anti choice he'll think I'm murdering his baby and I'd want to spare him that misguided-but-authentic-to-him anguish.



No one in my Catholic, anti-choice family knows of mine, and it's been a lonely secret to keep but I did it for them as much as me.