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16th Nov '12

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Bosco123 1 child; Oklahoma City, OK, United States 1421 posts
16th Nov '12

If they're not getting married till September, I'd just leave it be. They morethan likely won't still be together by then.

Cass Hole 3 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 7531 posts
16th Nov '12

Some people need to learn from their own mistakes. I agree its a shitty situation but your friend is going to do what she wants regardless. She knows how you feel and I would leave it at that. That's just MY opinion though.



Good luck to your friend.

Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6465 posts
16th Nov '12

Honestly, you've done all you can do. You gave her advice and if she's not willing to listen to it, then unfortunately she'll have to make her own way.



I agree with you though. It's not a good idea at all.

cfxfdfdfdsfdafdsf Vacaville, California 71166 posts
16th Nov '12

I don't really think it makes her crazy. It seems like she's more "in a rush" to fill a void. It isn't right, necessarily, but she's got to make those decisions herself. My boyfriend and I have been together less than 3 months and we say "I love you". That isn't that big of a deal to me, if you love someone you love them. What would bother me is the multiple men in and out of the child's life and the fact that she wants to get married so soon.



Her BD couldn't sue her for fraud but he could request a DNA and have it changed

O ♥ G 2 kids; Pride, Louisiana 10723 posts
16th Nov '12

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Fusselinchen 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Fort Bragg, NC, United States 16176 posts
16th Nov '12

september is still pretty far away and if this is something she tends to do then i would just wait and see. if she still says the same things in august you can still talk to her about it.

Jay Bee Vee Due March 9; San Antonio, Texas 7 posts
16th Nov '12

Seems like she can't be alone and wants the "family life". I have a friend like that as well she was never single for more than two weeks was engaged three times with three different guys her longest relationship was a yr on and off (that's the one she married) planned the wedding in literally a month! I would try to tell her to enjoy herself but she felt being single was "sooo lonely"

Cass Hole 3 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 7531 posts
16th Nov '12

Legally I don't think she could get in trouble for adding his name to the BC. Non bio dads are added to BC's all the time. Unless the child's father has no issues with it then I don't see why it should matter. Bio dad should have an issue but he himself isn't even on the BC so he probably wont give a shit.

MommyingWithGrace Beverly Hills, California 2427 posts
16th Nov '12

While her choices are poor, it is none of your business. Its not fraud for her to add him to the BC. If BD found out and wanted to fight it, then he can do that. Paternity would be established in court. If that was the case, all the women on Maury would be going to jail.

*Mary Moon* 1 child; New York 3595 posts
16th Nov '12

Be a friend and step back. When it all blows up, if it does she will need a friend and if she can't stand you because you said stuff she didn't like she won't like you much more when you end up being right. You can't fight her battles. She is an adult and if she doesn't have the common sense she will learn it.

cfxfdfdfdsfdafdsf Vacaville, California 71166 posts
16th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting O ♥ G:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lovelyyy KD*:</b>" I don't really think it makes her crazy. ... [snip!] ... that's wrong and then letting someone you've known for less than 3 months SPANK your kid or even discipline him at all. JMO tho"</blockquote>



Ohhh yeah. That's a bit much. Patton is my responsibility and my responsibility only. For sure. I don't allow (or encourage) Patton to call anyone Daddy. He calls D by his name. If we were to ever get married on the future I would allow it but if and until then, he is his name

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