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Tarynosaurus Rex San Antonio, Texas 1271 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting four winds:" No one should EVER call a woman a slut. Especially another woman. I see it as as incredibly degrading ... [snip!] ... Being open with your sex life, sleeping with many men/women, and not being embarrassed by that does NOT make you a "slut"."


Agreed.

Tarynosaurus Rex San Antonio, Texas 1271 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting Supafly★:" Some woman ARE sluts, though. If you're going to sleep with my husband, my best friend's husband, and ... [snip!] ... to have something nice to say to you. As for those who are single and sleep with 100 single men, they are not sluts to me. "


No, that doesn't make her a slut. That makes her a shady person, but that doesn't mean you get to label her a slut for that. Sleeping with someone who is taken 1) It takes two to tango, and 2) calling her a slut is a copout when really you should be calling it what it is and just saying she's a dishonest and crappy person.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23103 posts
Nov 25th '12

What about those women who sleep with a man who is married but separated?

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23103 posts
Nov 25th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" As long as he has the green light to hook up with other girls, why not? "</blockquote>




I was curious thanks for answering!

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23103 posts
Nov 25th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" No problem. The reason why I have such distaste for girls(and guys, of course) willing to cheat or ... [snip!] ... to hurt someone so bad like that again and can't see why people think it's okay to blatantly ignore another person's feelings. "</blockquote>




Yea it makes sense

Tarynosaurus Rex San Antonio, Texas 1271 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting Supafly★:" I'm not explaining to every single person who decides to join after 13 pages. Go back and read my responses to everyone who said the same exact thing as this. "


I read every single reply of yours and you still have made no sense on this.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting Supafly★:" It makes perfect sense. You just don't agree with me. And you think she's shady and crappy but not a slut? What is a slut to you then? "

Nothing, taryn and I have the same mind on the concept of slut shaming.

Tarynosaurus Rex San Antonio, Texas 1271 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting Supafly★:" It makes perfect sense. You just don't agree with me. And you think she's shady and crappy but not a slut? What is a slut to you then? "


I do not believe in the term slut. I think it is degrading and only meant to oppress women's sexuality.

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 7096 posts
Nov 25th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" She and you don't think they exist. I do. I'm not "shaming" anyone. I've never called a girl a slut in my life, I don't think. But I've thought it in my head. "</blockquote>




You aren't alone. That's why it's an actal word with an actual dictionary definition. People may not like the word, but that doesn't make the word unreal.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
Nov 26th '12

I think we forget REALLY easily that until VERY recently a woman who slept around was likely to get pregnant (thank you birth control) and if she did, no man was going to take credit for the child & that child was not going to be in a very good position for survival nor would the mother, etc, etc. DNA & birth control have changed a lot of things. You can't expect culture to change overnight & if you do, then you're short sighted & bound to find yourself disappointed.



I've been with 1 man. I am old enough to be half you ladies' momma I suspect. LOL I have never regretted that or felt bothered by it. I have friends who could put you ladies with the higher number to shame. At some point I have had nearly every single one make a point to tell me they wish they had what I have & think deep down most people do. I have one man who loves me & has for a very long time now. He knows what works for me sexually in every single possible aspect & same for him. I can't fathom liking sex more outside of a relationship because a stranger can't really know you or what really turns you on. If I wanted to have a "d***o" as I read earlier, I'd buy one. I'd much rather have someone who knows every single button to push without me having to say anything & if I do want something else - I can say so...any.time.



When you are really in a good relationship, there is something very freeing in it. It is NOT restrictive. Find someone you can really be yourself with in every way, sexually & otherwise, and then it is a gift, not a shackle. If it has always been a shackle for you, then perhaps somewhere along the lines you got some mixed messages growing up that make it hard for you to make a good choice in a partner. I don't know. I am not a princess in my house, I'd don't get pampered, I am not a maid, I don't do his laundry...I am a partner. I never get asked where I am going, what I am doing, who I talked to...I *may* get asked if I had a good time....we don't have that kind of thing with each other & never have. We talk about things, we just don't treat each other like we need to be answered to. For real - don't settle in your life for less than the real deal....it is worth it.



IDK what I'd do if Dh died or left or whatever. If I couldn't find something like I've had, I think I'd be alone until I could find it. Nothing else seems worth my time.



And yes - if a woman or man knowingly goes after a married person I do think it's immoral & slutty behavior, especially if that person is nothing more to them than a sexual conquest. I've known a few people who just want to see "if they can" and I think it's despicable behavior. The reason it is immoral is because EVERY person has weak times, times they are having low self esteem, times they may be overly intoxicated, times their relationship isn't at it's best & if someone chooses that time to try to seduce you - they are being a predator at that point. That isn't to say that you aren't responsible too for your own actions - but I myself had someone target me once. We were in a rough patch due to just life stuff & neither of us was doing anything "wrong" we were just having some growing pains in the relationship. Luckily I kept my head on & got myself away from that person with nothing happening, but I can't even like that person now. He should have actually been my friend like I thought he was & cared about me & helped me through the situation, not tried to capitalize on a rough time in my life by trying to make a play.



Sorry for the novel - I guess after reading 13+ pages I had a lot to say. :P

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting Supafly★:" She and you don't think they exist. I do. I'm not "shaming" anyone. I've never called a girl a slut in my life, I don't think. But I've thought it in my head. "


Good for you I guess?

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting Supafly★:" Yeah, I know. I would like to see what these people would call the woman who broke up their marriage ... [snip!] ... and her 2 kids though that. Please go ahead and tell me that the situation was perfectly fine and she did nothing wrong. :)"

No she could be described as a skuzzball though, as could he. But I also don't know the reality of the situation either, so I could not even say.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting Supafly★:" Yeah, I know. I would like to see what these people would call the woman who broke up their marriage ... [snip!] ... and her 2 kids though that. Please go ahead and tell me that the situation was perfectly fine and she did nothing wrong. :)"


And to be honest I would just leave because someone like that is garbage, and not worth my time if they can't be honest with me.

κατι 1 child; Memphis, Tennessee 3143 posts
Nov 26th '12

I've been with 2.

Crystallized Due February 24; 1 child; California 431 posts
Nov 26th '12

2 men. 2 women.