Reply
What do I say?? Jamie & Baby Aria 1 child; Ahmeek, Michigan 2565 posts
status 18th Nov '12

So I come to my grandparent's pretty often, and usually my grandpa goes and smokes in the bathroom with the fan on since I never bring Aria in there anyway. Lately, the past few days he does that half the time and the other half he just lights up with her in the next room. I don't know what to say, I still like spending time here, she's the only great-grandchild of two that they actually get to see. And I don't want to be rude. Also, he has a personality just like my dad did and saying to stop something in his own home would probably escalate it.



Leaving isn't really an option most times because either SO has the vehicle and is doing whatever and taking 6 stupid hours to get back; or like right now we just flat out have nowhere else to go.



So how would you say something nicely? I mean its not like he forgets she's here. Sometimes he starts in the same room as her and I have to go into the next room, and try to stay as far away as I can but the downstairs isn't very big and I can't go upstairs, there's nowhere up there to go.



Note, its freezing outside so a walk is out of the question. And my grandpa WON'T go outside to smoke. At all.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
18th Nov '12

Do you not have your own place? Like, do you live there? How do you have nowhere else to go?

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 21924 posts
18th Nov '12

I'd talk to your grandma and have talk to him about it. I'd just tell her something like I love bringing LO over but the smoking in the house is not good for her health (even the bathroom with the fan on is not good) and its making me feel like I shouldn't bring her over here anymore

Gabrielle Hamblin Due June 26 (girl); 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Buffalo, Texas 393 posts
18th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jamie & Baby Aria (::</b>" So I come to my grandparent's pretty often, and usually my grandpa goes and smokes in the bathroom with ... [snip!] ... up there to go. Note, its freezing outside so a walk is out of the question. And my grandpa WON'T go outside to smoke. At all."</blockquote>




Just ask your grandpa if he could smoke in the bathroom ask nicly and with a please.

Jamie & Baby Aria 1 child; Ahmeek, Michigan 2565 posts
status 18th Nov '12
Quoting Mayhem ♥:" Do you not have your own place? Like, do you live there? How do you have nowhere else to go?"

We don't have our own place anymore, we just had to move out of our apartment and looks like we might be going to my mom's. But she smokes too so either way it's not good. The only thing is my mom will go outside if she knows Aria is living there again.

Jamie & Baby Aria 1 child; Ahmeek, Michigan 2565 posts
status 18th Nov '12
Quoting Spencer Pratt:" I'd talk to your grandma and have talk to him about it. I'd just tell her something like I love bringing ... [snip!] ... her health (even the bathroom with the fan on is not good) and its making me feel like I shouldn't bring her over here anymore"

She's kind of worse than him :S when I was pregnant she told me that I better not be so uptight (or however she worded it) because otherwise they'd never get to see Aria. I told her the risks of 2nd hand smoke and how sick I got when I was little (both my parents were smokers until my mom quit for a few years) from being around it. She told me its BS cause she smoked while she was holding all of her babies and none of them had any issues from it.



Basically if it comes down to it I'm just going to have to stop coming here, once I have somewhere else to go.

Gabrielle Hamblin Due June 26 (girl); 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Buffalo, Texas 393 posts
18th Nov '12

Hope all works out for you.

Jamie & Baby Aria 1 child; Ahmeek, Michigan 2565 posts
status 18th Nov '12
Quoting Gabrielle Hamblin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jamie & Baby Aria (::</b>" So I come to my grandparent's pretty ... [snip!] ... to smoke. At all."</blockquote> Just ask your grandpa if he could smoke in the bathroom ask nicly and with a please."

Doesn't really work. In his mind he pretty much can do as he wants. If he wants to smoke in there he will, if he wants to smoke right here with my daughter 25 feet away, he will. :/

Gabrielle Hamblin Due June 26 (girl); 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Buffalo, Texas 393 posts
18th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jamie & Baby Aria (::</b>" Doesn't really work. In his mind he pretty much can do as he wants. If he wants to smoke in there he will, if he wants to smoke right here with my daughter 25 feet away, he will. :/"</blockquote>




Shakes head. I'm sorry hunn. My husband goes outside no matter how cold it is. He wont smoke in the house less he is at his dads. Even then they respect

Take me as I am 18 kids; Wyoming 1669 posts
18th Nov '12

Im sorry but its his house. Don't like it don't go there.

Jamie & Baby Aria 1 child; Ahmeek, Michigan 2565 posts
status 18th Nov '12
Quoting Gabrielle Hamblin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jamie & Baby Aria (::</b>" Doesn't really work. In his mind ... [snip!] ... My husband goes outside no matter how cold it is. He wont smoke in the house less he is at his dads. Even then they respect"

Its okay. I just wish he didn't think its okay. He's not even trying to be disrespectful, he just doesn't think smoking around kids is a big deal. He does it at other people's houses, and I know this is his house. But still you'd think he could do something else just temporarily.

Jamie & Baby Aria 1 child; Ahmeek, Michigan 2565 posts
status 18th Nov '12
Quoting Take me as I am:" Im sorry but its his house. Don't like it don't go there."

Well right now we don't have anywhere else to go. And at first he was better about it, but he just thinks smoke is okay. They don't believe it has any affect on children whatsoever they think its BS made up by the government or something :roll:

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
18th Nov '12

Can you guys afford one of those smoke eater machine thingies?

Jamie & Baby Aria 1 child; Ahmeek, Michigan 2565 posts
status 18th Nov '12
Quoting Mayhem ♥:" Can you guys afford one of those smoke eater machine thingies?"

Never heard of one, I'll look it up. But I'm assuming not since we're pretty broke right now.