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**mummy** Doncaster, United Kingdom 149 posts
Nov 18th '12

Hello, I had a c-section after 3 days of labor and she got stuck and to be honest the c-section was the easy bit, its just a bit hard like getting up in the night a few days after because it takes ages getting out to bed because your scared of using your stomach muscles.
I had a c-section 4 months ago and the scar is really fading now, and I found that I was more worried of hurting my stomach than it actually hurting.
I was a bit gutted that I went labored all that time and to got to 10cm to have a c-section but the c-section was a walk in the park compared to labor I couldn't wait for them to do it lol.
I didnt think it was painful just frustrating when you find it hard to get up/bend etc. If you think it will be better for you and baby go for it! x

Bon QuiQui 18 kids; Princeton, New Jersey 348 posts
Nov 19th '12

I think you need to have a meeting with your doctor to discuss your options.

I feel like a section may be the way to go to avoid further stress on you and baby, as long as you're aware that the recovery and healing isn't anywhere near a vaginal birth.

Ultimately, it's your decision and good luck due date buddy!

Chels :3 Florida 2017 posts
Nov 19th '12

I've heard c-section recoveries are a lot easier when SO is there to help out. I was a nanny for a women who had a c-section and she was crazy didn't take pain meds or anything, but she had help. My SO's last child was born via c-section, and she was moving furniture a few days later (NOT RECOMMENDED) He got pissed. But he was the one who would get up at night and such. I've never had one, if it weren't a selfish route for a first time mommy like me I'd think about it x: I figured I should give labor a try. Stories like yours are why a c-section even crosses my mind. Good luck. Talk to your OB.

BekaMommyofTwoBoys 2 kids; Tulsa, Oklahoma 499 posts
Nov 19th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" I've heard c-section recoveries are a lot easier when SO is there to help out. I was a nanny for a women ... [snip!] ... I figured I should give labor a try. Stories like yours are why a c-section even crosses my mind. Good luck. Talk to your OB."</blockquote>




How is it a selfish route? My first child was born c-section, i dont think it was selfish at all. Im having a c-section this time too. So selfish to get sliced open to bring ur child into the world? No i dont rhink so.

Bon QuiQui 18 kids; Princeton, New Jersey 348 posts
Nov 19th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rebekah Hankinson Trimmer:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" I've heard c-section recoveries are a lot easier ... [snip!] ... all. Im having a c-section this time too. So selfish to get sliced open to bring ur child into the world? No i dont rhink so."</blockquote>




Pretty selfLESS, maybe. I'll take a thousand vaginal births over a section and recovery.

Chels :3 Florida 2017 posts
Nov 19th '12
Quoting Rebekah Hankinson Trimmer:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" I've heard c-section recoveries are a lot easier ... [snip!] ... all. Im having a c-section this time too. So selfish to get sliced open to bring ur child into the world? No i dont rhink so."


I meant more so to completely rule out vaginal without any medical issues. Just because of the scariness and the tearing. That's all. Not meaning to offend I'm sorry. I didn't say it was selfish to get a c-section. I said to not even consider vaginal birth for my own issues I'm afraid of tearing and my body. :( I didn't mean to upset anyone. I just figured more people would get upset if I had flat out said I wanted a c-section instead of vaginal. I don't even know if you have the option for your first time do you?

Chels :3 Florida 2017 posts
Nov 19th '12

Wouldn't you be more offended if I said I didn't even try vaginal birth and opted right out for a c-section ? My first post wasn't meant to be judgmental. Sorry.

**mummy** Doncaster, United Kingdom 149 posts
Nov 19th '12

A c-section is not that difficult after...

*TiffanyMae* 2 kids; Montana 6002 posts
Nov 19th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bon QuiQui:</b>" I think you need to have a meeting with your doctor to discuss your options. I feel like a section ... [snip!] ... the recovery and healing isn't anywhere near a vaginal birth. Ultimately, it's your decision and good luck due date buddy!"</blockquote>



I have talked to my doctor and she says she is willing to do whatever I choose since she knows how rough my last delivery was.. I have an ultrasound in 2 weeks to check fetal growth since the size of my first daughter caused some of my complications.. the point of this post was to just get stories about inductions and c sections so I am aware of the pros and cons of each option

BekaMommyofTwoBoys 2 kids; Tulsa, Oklahoma 499 posts
Nov 20th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ravey Candyass:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rebekah Hankinson Trimmer:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... get sliced open to bring ur child into the world? No i dont rhink so."</blockquote> Not selfish just f**king stupid"</blockquote>




Whatever. Ur alowed ur opinion but when it comes ro the health of my child i will decide whether its stupid to stress him out trying for a vbac, especially when its 90% or more gauranteed to end in an emergency c-section. Dont judge what u dont know. some women r lucky enough to have vaginal births and not stress their babies. Others like me have to make the decision ahead of time for medical reasons. Im so tired of others saying how stupid c-sections r especially when theyve never been in the position of having to have one. U r so judgmental its ridiculous!

Elizabeth Prince 2 kids; Bedford, Indiana 118 posts
Nov 20th '12

I was induced with my daughter and most likely will be in the same boat if she don't come this week on her own (medical reasons) and I have to say I've had contractions both natural now and with pit. With how u have describbed ur first labor if that wad natural contractions that put ur bodyin that much stress then I'd have to say you don't want pit contractions cause they are more intense from my experience. And also a lot of other women who have had natural births and inductions have also said there inductions was so much worse. I don't know about a c section but with how ur body stressed out last time it couldn't of been healthy for u or ur baby. Also the blood loss u suffered putting you in even more risk. Weighting ur options is a smart idea but I'd honestly say beingput on pit could stress ur body out more cause of the more intense contractions you go throw. Good luck mamma

BekaMommyofTwoBoys 2 kids; Tulsa, Oklahoma 499 posts
Nov 20th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" I meant more so to completely rule out vaginal without any medical issues. Just because of the scariness ... [snip!] ... had flat out said I wanted a c-section instead of vaginal. I don't even know if you have the option for your first time do you?"</blockquote>




I was scared to death, and still am, about a vaginal delivery. Crazy rihht. I had a very slim chance at vaginal first time around but didnt happen. Im not one of those that gets all crazy saying a c-section is stupid versus vaginal. There r things that can go wrong in both. Getting a 6" scar versus tearing on my vag, ill take the scar. I dont think its selfish, stupid or irresponsible to make the choice that is less terrifying for u. Yes vaginal deliver is natural but not always the best option. A doctor is not going to do a c-section, usually, unless there is a good reason. I dont even have a choice in the matter this time around and im perfectly fine with that. Im not scared of having a c-section and im definitly not stupid as others in this thread have stated. If not for medical intervention we wouldnt have alot of life saving medicines and procedures. I see c-sections as one of those life saving procedures that keep women and their babies alive, not something u should be put down over.

**mummy** Doncaster, United Kingdom 149 posts
Nov 20th '12
Quoting Ravey Candyass:" <blockquote><b>Quoting **mummy**:</b>" A c-section is not that difficult after..."</blockquote> Uh yes it is. You're cut right down the middle. Those muscles are used allot"


Well i didnt think it was x

BekaMommyofTwoBoys 2 kids; Tulsa, Oklahoma 499 posts
Nov 20th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting **mummy**:</b>" Well i didnt think it was x"</blockquote>




I dont know about the UK but here u r cut about 6" just above ur pelvic bone not vertical like in the past, about 30+ yrs ago. Its not that bad. Im having a c-section and then turning around 6wks later and having a hystorectomy.

**mummy** Doncaster, United Kingdom 149 posts
Nov 20th '12

we are cut horizontal above pubic bone, but we have dissolvable stitches not staples maybe thats it? but after 3 days of slow labor and pushing for 2 hours the c-section felt like heaven lol x