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Gemmas mommy! 1 child; Deposit, New York 1893 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting Ryloonjimama:" Does signing over your rights = you never have to pay child support? If so, I will never understand ... [snip!] ... End of a story. She should've dumped your ass the moment you threatened to leave if she didn't abort. You're disgusting."


im pretty sure he will have to pay child support either way if she takes him to court for it.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
19th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" Does signing over your rights = you never have to pay child support? If so, I will never understand ... [snip!] ... End of a story. She should've dumped your ass the moment you threatened to leave if she didn't abort. You're disgusting."</blockquote>




no. he just has no say over anything and can't get visitation.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18868 posts
19th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Clk:</b>" Women do the exact same thing though without such anger against her on here. It's just sad yet funny to me the double standard. Not necessarily saying specifically you, but in general."</blockquote>




Honestly, people can jump all over me for this but I don't think it's fair that a woman can go and have an abortion without the father getting any say in the matter if he wants it, because while it may be "her body, her choice, it's THEIR baby.



But again, that's just how the cookie crumbles. Life isn't always fair.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23102 posts
19th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" Does signing over your rights = you never have to pay child support? If so, I will never understand ... [snip!] ... End of a story. She should've dumped your ass the moment you threatened to leave if she didn't abort. You're disgusting."</blockquote>




Nope until said child is adopted he is financially responsible.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23102 posts
19th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Clk:</b>" Women do the exact same thing though without such ... [snip!] ... it may be "her body, her choice, it's THEIR baby. But again, that's just how the cookie crumbles. Life isn't always fair."</blockquote>




Just how it works.

MX23 Japan 674 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting Gemmas mommy!:" yes it took both of you, shes stepping up. your not. if all you plan on doing is paying child support ... [snip!] ... dad, gone. thats what your doing to your child... can you imagine how painful thats going to be for your kid to go through... "


well actually my parents werent around much cause they were always busy working. they started a business and were always there and still work a ton of hours or travel alot. yeah they bought me tons of shit and i get whatever i ask for. they are even gone this week. i was gonna spend thanksgiving at my gfs house but i dont think i will now.

*TaraT&3peas* Due March 31; 2 kids; Ohio 359 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting MX23:" well actually my parents werent around much cause they were always busy working. they started a business ... [snip!] ... whatever i ask for. they are even gone this week. i was gonna spend thanksgiving at my gfs house but i dont think i will now."


yeah I wouldnt spend thanksgiving with someone who you deep down do not want to be with, clearly.

MX23 Japan 674 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting veggie86:" You're 17 years old, you shouldn't be getting drunk in the first place. You seem to make one mistake after another. You really need to start growing up, you have a big responsibility on the way."


lots of people my age drink. it should be legal at 18 at least anyways.



besides me drinking doesnt have much to do with this and i dont need a lecture on not drinking..

veggie86 TTC since Mar 2014; Somewhere, CA, United States 86 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting MX23:" lots of people my age drink. it should be legal at 18 at least anyways. besides me drinking doesnt have much to do with this and i dont need a lecture on not drinking.."

Doesn't mean they should. Obviously most kids don't posses the maturity to handle drinking at that age. My point is you're trying to excuse your behavior away to being drunk. You made the decision to drink, you made the decision (actually, it was a reoccurring thing) to have sex, pregnancy is a possible outcome. You knew that, you took the risk. Now it's time to take responsibility. You don't have to be with her to help with the baby, but as many girls here have already said, don't act impulsively. Your first instinct is "I don't want this, I can't handle it, get it away from me." As you grow up, you'll realize that that behavior is childish and impulsive. You really need to sit down and talk with your parents. Or maybe a counselor at school. You need to get an adult involved because both of you obviously don't have the skills to deal with such a life changing experience. Best of luck.

MX23 Japan 674 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting *Expecting #3*:" Life really does not suck with kids, I mean I see that you are 17 and all you can think about right now ... [snip!] ... and want to be in ur childs life and someday it may be too late and ur child will hold hate for u for not being around!!! "


well some of that sounds cool and fun
like it would be fun if it was a boy to teach him to play sports and put him on a 50cc bike and hit the track for the day but its the other stuff that would drive me crazy especially in the beginning.



and i do still love her and i would love to be with her but i wish we could just agree on what to do and not fight all the time about it

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23102 posts
19th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MX23:</b>" lots of people my age drink. it should be legal at 18 at least anyways. besides me drinking doesnt have much to do with this and i dont need a lecture on not drinking.."</blockquote>




The point is its not legal.

MX23 Japan 674 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting veggie86:" Doesn't mean they should. Obviously most kids don't posses the maturity to handle drinking at that age. ... [snip!] ... adult involved because both of you obviously don't have the skills to deal with such a life changing experience. Best of luck."


well my parents are gone for a while now so cant even talk to them. i think im just gonna go talk to her and her parents tonight. see what they say and take it from there. i hate admitting this but im so nervous. i talked to my friends and they all just say to dump her now

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23102 posts
19th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MX23:</b>" well my parents are gone for a while now so cant even talk to them. i think im just gonna go talk to ... [snip!] ... and take it from there. i hate admitting this but im so nervous. i talked to my friends and they all just say to dump her now"</blockquote>




That is a d**k move

LolaMcKitten Due May 30 (girl); 27 kids; Beverly Hills, California 15496 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting MX23:" well my parents are gone for a while now so cant even talk to them. i think im just gonna go talk to ... [snip!] ... and take it from there. i hate admitting this but im so nervous. i talked to my friends and they all just say to dump her now"


Yes, you should definitely be asking advice from other immature, 17 year old boys.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23102 posts
19th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting LolaMcKitten:</b>" Yes, you should definitely be asking advice from other immature, 17 year old boys. "</blockquote>




Right?