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*TaraT&3peas* Due March 31; 2 kids; Ohio 359 posts
Nov 19th '12
Quoting Marissa [4 days]:" oh please :? don't go all prolife. its a womans right if she WANTS TO. Its just the fact that is ... [snip!] ... Its just the fact that is OP's girlfriend doesn't want that she should not be pressured. nothing wrong with an abortion though."


oh trust me hunny im not going all prolife---- i had one once and highly regret it ----and im just letting OP know what an abortion is like... since he seems to be so casual with wanting his girlfriend to get one.... just making sure he knows all of the facts!!!!!!!!!! kthanksbye

Tay L 1 child; St Paul, Minnesota 719 posts
Nov 19th '12

1. you should see a councelor!! It'd probably help you a lot! Go see a family one. So they can tell you the truth about being a parent, where you can get help, they'll tell you about the baby, what life will be like. They'll explain how traumatizing an abortion can be.
2. You really going to listen to your friends? Would you jump off a bridge if they told you to?



Also an abortion costs 900, not 300. And they want 650 up front! I called planned parenthood 5 months ago. I was looking at all my options.

MX23 Japan 674 posts
Nov 19th '12
Quoting Katie[ღ]Siℓas:" Well, did you meet with her and her parents tonight like you said you were going too? How did that go? "


ya so i went over there and she told them



her mom was upset and disapointed with her



dad was really pissed off but cooled off eventually



they asked what are plans are



said we were to young blah blah blah. wanted to know about school and jobs and college and all that shit



thats when she said i wanted her to abort but she wanted it. i told them im still not sure what i want. i was nervous



told them i didnt think either of us were ready for this



they agreed with that but said we had to come to a decision soon and they would support her no matter what she decides. siad it would be a big life changer and all that stuff.



her dad asked if we planed to stay together and if i was going to support her and the baby. i didnt know what to say and he figured it out that i wasnt sure



it went bad from there cuz he said something and i guess i rolled my eyes or so he says and then he started to yell. her mom tried to calm him down and they started yelling and he told me to leave and that i needed to really think about this and make an adult decisioin soon and he hopes for my sake that i choose the right one



so it started ok but didnt end good
i dont know what to do anymore. i wanna do the right thing but i just need some time but no one will give me any time to go over all this.

MX23 Japan 674 posts
Nov 19th '12

the money for an abortion isnt a problem



ill pay it and have it right now so no big deal. i work and dont have any bills or have to buy things with my money

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Los Angeles, CA, United States 8830 posts
Nov 19th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MX23:</b>" ya so i went over there and she told them her mom was upset and disapointed with her dad was really ... [snip!] ... what to do anymore. i wanna do the right thing but i just need some time but no one will give me any time to go over all this."</blockquote>




I'm actually glad u went and were with her when she told them... give her time, if she wants to keep baby, let her... u have at least 30 weeks to warm up to the idea, and get ur shit together.... wether that means u stay with her and have the baby together, or u support the baby finacially untill she finds some1 to help her take care of the baby and u let them go now...

Noahs Mommy ❤ 16 kids; Arizona 628 posts
Nov 19th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting dat uterus tho:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Bianca ♔:</b>" Dont really give a shit cause look what ... [snip!] ... time. You should probably start giving a shit and learn how to use contraception correctly before giving out awful advice."</blockquote>




uh b***h im stepping up to my shit, stfu and sit down.
Snooping through my shit, dumb hoe.

Tay L 1 child; St Paul, Minnesota 719 posts
Nov 19th '12

Well it sounds like she wants to keep it. So why don't you use that money to help her get things for the baby?



Crib is 300, pack n play is 200, crib mattress is 50, changing table 200-300, stroller/carseat is 200-300, baby swing is 100-200, bouncer 100-200, clothes can cost hundreds, diapers, wipes, burp rags, bibs, bottles, nukkies, toys, shampoo, body lotion, oil, nose sucker, baby first aid kit, baby nail clippers, destin (for diaper rash), baby powder, vasilene.



I'm pretty sure I have a couple thousand dollars worth of stuff in the babies room and that's for things I need. Not just stuff I want him to have like toys. My friend spent 200 for diapers, 6 bottles, prenatal vitamins, a couple bibs, 3 outfits. She said the diapers alone were 80, she got a couple of big packs though.



If she wants to keep it, I think you should support her, seeing you are the father, you've been together for 2 years. So instead of being a d**k to her, help her go to the store and go shopping! Especially since you said you want to do the right thing.

Katie[ღ]Siℓas 17 kids; Grand Haven, Michigan 2071 posts
Nov 19th '12
Quoting MX23:" ya so i went over there and she told them her mom was upset and disapointed with her dad was really ... [snip!] ... what to do anymore. i wanna do the right thing but i just need some time but no one will give me any time to go over all this."


Sounds like it ended well to me. Everything that girls dad said is the truth, you need to figure out what you want to do, and quickly. Depending on how your girlfriend feels towards you, you possibly have 31 [if she is 9 weeks like you said in your earlier post, and depending on when the baby decides he/she is ready to come] to figure it out but if she decides she's done with your ass before you come to a decision, your shit out of luck so you may want to think quickly.

Tay L 1 child; St Paul, Minnesota 719 posts
Nov 19th '12

I only named a few things, there are tons of things you need. Not to meantion you need a lot of a few items. Diapers and wipes and bath soap you run out of and need to keep buying more. If she plans to breastfeed she'll need a breastbump $100-200, she's gonna need maternity clothes (one of my maternity shirts cost 30, I got it for 20 on sale. They aren't cheap!), she's gonna need nursing bras and nursing pads so her milk doesn't leak through her clothes.



You should start doing some research! You obviously have a computer! Go to google and just type in baby and see what comes up! Also you and her should look into prenatal and parenting classes!



If you honestly want to do the right thing, start now! With research and help her get things for your child!

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Nov 19th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bianca ♔:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting dat uterus tho:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Bianca ... [snip!] ... advice."</blockquote> uh b***h im stepping up to my shit, stfu and sit down. Snooping through my shit, dumb hoe."</blockquote>




Um...who's snooping :lol: I tend to remember dumbass teens in my vicinity incase they try chatting me up :roll:

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Nov 19th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tay L:</b>" Well it sounds like she wants to keep it. So why don't you use that money to help her get things for ... [snip!] ... of being a d**k to her, help her go to the store and go shopping! Especially since you said you want to do the right thing."</blockquote>




Half that shit is completely unnecessary. Don't pad the list to try and scare him straight or some bullshit.

*TaraT&3peas* Due March 31; 2 kids; Ohio 359 posts
Nov 19th '12
Quoting Tay L:" I only named a few things, there are tons of things you need. Not to meantion you need a lot of a few ... [snip!] ... classes! If you honestly want to do the right thing, start now! With research and help her get things for your child!"


well and him being 17 he has jobs but we're not sure of his income.... there are people that will help and resources where this girl can get all of this for FREE.... she'll get a lot of stuff at her baby shower and different churches and job and family services can help out A LOT... there are pregnancy services out there that also have a lot of stuff that she will need..... also she can sign on to WIC, they will give her a breast pump, or if she decides to do formula they will give it to her every month!!!! sooo no worries and no excuses!!!

LolaMcKitten Due May 30 (girl); 27 kids; Beverly Hills, California 15496 posts
Nov 19th '12
Quoting dat uterus tho:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tay L:</b>" Well it sounds like she wants to keep it. So why ... [snip!] ... Half that shit is completely unnecessary. Don't pad the list to try and scare him straight or some bullshit."


I agree. You can get a perfectly safe crib at wal mart for half that........

Noahs Mommy ❤ 16 kids; Arizona 628 posts
Nov 19th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting dat uterus tho:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Bianca ♔:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting dat ... [snip!] ... Um...who's snooping :lol: I tend to remember dumbass teens in my vicinity incase they try chatting me up :roll:"</blockquote>




Wanna cookie? LOL

user banned Due April 8; 1 child; Washington 11352 posts
Nov 19th '12
Quoting Bianca ♔:" <blockquote><b>Quoting dat uterus tho:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Bianca ... [snip!] ... I tend to remember dumbass teens in my vicinity incase they try chatting me up :roll:"</blockquote> Wanna cookie? LOL"


Oh god.