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Nanna Boo Boo's Mommy 2 kids; De Pere, Wisconsin 2627 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" I really hope you will stay OP."


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Kelly+Brandon=Blake 1 child; Maryland 1260 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Clk:" Women do the exact same thing though without such anger against her on here. It's just sad yet funny to me the double standard. Not necessarily saying specifically you, but in general."

I agree

Gemmas mommy! 1 child; Deposit, New York 1893 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting mmayala:" I understand that you're 17 years old and don't feel ready for a baby. But you can't literally think ... [snip!] ... child, she's going to hate you and eventually, you will open up to this child and it'll be too late. I'm so sad for this girl:("


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user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
20th Nov '12

Wow i just saw this...




If you want nothing to do with your kid thats your fault. I dont know my bio dad becuase he dipped out on my mom when she wouldnt abort. He had another child who died and now he wants to be BFF with me and i dont even want to meet im.



Something you should think about. There may bea time in yournlife when you have kids and WANT them and think about that one baby you justlet go because you were too scared for whatever reason. Man up..




Or dont have sex. Its not rocket science

MX23 Japan 674 posts
20th Nov '12

so i was gonna skip school today cuz its stupid to go in 4 just 2 days and since my parents arent home it be easy but i went in to talk to my guidence conselor about this and she said it be best for me to talk to an expert that they send teens to with problems like this



she called and they said i could go next week but while i was in class they called me down and said i could go to them now cuz they had someone cancel and they would let me out of school early so that was cool.



when i got there i was expecting some old lady but it was a guy that wasnt that old so that was cool. he was awesome to talk to and im so glad i went.



he said its normal to be scared and nervous but she is gonna feel the same as me and to think of her feelings and just gave me some good ideas on how to deal with her and things i should do



he said i should talk to her about spending thanksgiving with her family if they would let me so im not a lone plus so we can spend time together. im not sure im ready for that. i dont mind being with her but not sure about her father. i might see if she will come to my house after if she can. i wanna work things out with her.



i do feel bad about what i said to her. i just reacted to how i felt then and was just scared.



he didnt pressure me to do anything and said i had to make this decision and that he and anyone else i talk to can just give advise but i needed to careful who i listened to. he suggested not to bring it up to my friends because they really arent the right people to get this type of advise from. he said i really need to talk to my parents when they get home cuz they need to know and will be there for me. i doubt they will tho.



i dont wana go over everything we talked about but it was just so good to talk to him especially cuz he was a guy. we got along so good and hes even into the same stuff i am cuz he asked what happened to my wrist cuz I have a cast on. told him i crashed on a dirt bike jump and he is actually into that. said he likes to ride to just not any crazy stunts. we even talked about football and hockey so i feel so much better.



he even said if she felt like it i could bring my gf so we could all talk about everything together so i hope she will come with me next time cuz he really helped clear my head



i told my friends that i went but that was a bad idea. im just getting harassed now that im seeing a shrink but i dont think he is or if he is, he is cool enough for me. then they said that i have a crush on him and ill be leaving Jess for him next so i just need to keep them out of this stuff for now like he says



i do wanna be there for my gf but scared to death. i wanna talk to her and him again and hopefully tthe three of us so i can really decide what i should be doing.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23103 posts
20th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MX23:</b>" so i was gonna skip school today cuz its stupid to go in 4 just 2 days and since my parents arent home ... [snip!] ... to death. i wanna talk to her and him again and hopefully tthe three of us so i can really decide what i should be doing."</blockquote>




It sounds like you are thinking about doing the right thing and staying with her. I'm glad you went to someone and it went well.

Chris's Mommy 1 child; Seaside, California 2618 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting MX23:" so i was gonna skip school today cuz its stupid to go in 4 just 2 days and since my parents arent home ... [snip!] ... to death. i wanna talk to her and him again and hopefully tthe three of us so i can really decide what i should be doing."


I am sure she is just as scared as you are. Hopefully with this guy's help you can talk things through. Wish you the best of luck

BekaMommyofTwoBoys 2 kids; Tulsa, Oklahoma 499 posts
20th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MX23:</b>" so i was gonna skip school today cuz its stupid to go in 4 just 2 days and since my parents arent home ... [snip!] ... to death. i wanna talk to her and him again and hopefully tthe three of us so i can really decide what i should be doing."</blockquote>



Ur headed in the right direction. Good job going to see him. Keep talking with him even if she doesnt go. You both have alot to deal with and a counselor is a great place to start. Dont let ur friends harrass u they arent the ones dealing with this.

Bawse Litchfield, NY, United States 76234 posts
status 20th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MX23:</b>" so i was gonna skip school today cuz its stupid to go in 4 just 2 days and since my parents arent home ... [snip!] ... to death. i wanna talk to her and him again and hopefully tthe three of us so i can really decide what i should be doing."</blockquote>



I'm glad you went and talked to someone.



And your friends are dumbasses.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting MX23:" so i was gonna skip school today cuz its stupid to go in 4 just 2 days and since my parents arent home ... [snip!] ... to death. i wanna talk to her and him again and hopefully tthe three of us so i can really decide what i should be doing."


Thats awesome. you know we all freak out sometimes and say hurtful things we dont mean. We ALL do it, its very good you are taking insentive to try and figure out what you really want to do. thats very smart. Good luck to you and your GF at the next meeting with that guy, I think its a great idea. GOOD LUCK. you will do the right thing

Kelly-Ann Louise 1 child; 1 angel baby; Australia 867 posts
21st Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting LolaMcKitten:</b>" Sex equals babies - if you are having sex then you are old enough to be aware of the consequences. ... [snip!] ... and you don't HAVE to stay with her, but if you love her and care about her, you won't just abandon her. Step up and be a man. "</blockquote>
This!

Ashley&Kai Due July 14; 1 child; Missouri 119 posts
21st Nov '12
Kelly+Brandon=Blake 1 child; Maryland 1260 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting MX23:" so i was gonna skip school today cuz its stupid to go in 4 just 2 days and since my parents arent home ... [snip!] ... to death. i wanna talk to her and him again and hopefully tthe three of us so i can really decide what i should be doing."


I'm glad you're seeing this guy and hope your gf can get past the past and work things out with you. Keep your head up! Your doing good :)

Kelly+Brandon=Blake 1 child; Maryland 1260 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting Ashley&Kai:" He may be 17 and a "child" but he is also a dumbass. He did bully her and give her an ultimatum. Thats ... [snip!] ... ruin your life. But if you feel that way, go ahead and get a vasectomy. That way you can never "ruin" your worthless life ;)"


Wow I think you are being extremely harsh and a little too judgemental. He is 17, of course he's scared! There are plenty of "men" way older than him reacting the same way and being dead beat dads. At least he's TRYING to fix things and realized he was acting on his emotions. He made a mistake to give her an ultimatum like that but he's coming around all within a couple days. He needs support to keep doing good, not to be trash talked by someone who probably hasn't been in HIS shoes. YOU are disgusting. And name calling? Your cool....grow the f**k up and take your miserable bullying ass somewhere else.

Ashley&Kai Due July 14; 1 child; Missouri 119 posts
21st Nov '12

I realized I was being harsh and deleted it. I can't stand men who can't take responsibility for their actions. I did just finish reading what he said and it is good that he is trying to change his actions. I was harsh but anyone who acts like that deserves to be told what a dumbasst they are being. I'm sorry if that offfends you but thats my opinion..