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Tay L 1 child; St Paul, Minnesota 719 posts
19th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MX23:</b>" yeah my head is going nuts now i think i need to work with my gf first and decide from there cuz i said some mean shit to her. i kinda feel bad about some of the stuff i said"</blockquote>




I hope you two talk about things and you decide to stay! She most likely really needs you! Not to meantion that kid is going to need you!
I don't know what i'd do with out my bf! He's a big help, physically, emotionally, mentally!



You'll most likely feel better in the long run if you stay with her, work things out, and help take care of her and that child!

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22453 posts
19th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tay L:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting dat uterus tho:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tay ... [snip!] ... doesn't give me one. (What hospital gives out free breastpumps?) I just keep being thrown in a loop! Its very irritating."</blockquote>




Wear your baby or carry it

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22453 posts
19th Nov '12

I really hope you will stay OP.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
19th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tay L:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting dat uterus tho:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tay ... [snip!] ... doesn't give me one. (What hospital gives out free breastpumps?) I just keep being thrown in a loop! Its very irritating."</blockquote>



Uh...I carry them or strap them to my body like every other woman for millions of years before spoiled consumerism became a "necessity".

♥MomToSilas+1♥ Due December 9; 1 child; ., IL, United States 10866 posts
status 19th Nov '12
Quoting Tay L:" <blockquote><b>Quoting dat uterus tho:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tay ... [snip!] ... doesn't give me one. (What hospital gives out free breastpumps?) I just keep being thrown in a loop! Its very irritating."


I carry my son. I have 2 strollers and they are a waste. They sit in storage doing nothing. I used 1 of them once and ended up carrying him anyways. And you shouldn't need a breast pump until after baby is born anyways.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22453 posts
19th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sami&Baby Silas:</b>" I carry my son. I have 2 strollers and they are a waste. They sit in storage doing nothing. I used 1 ... [snip!] ... I used 1 of them once and ended up carrying him anyways. And you shouldn't need a breast pump until after baby is born anyways."</blockquote>




Right? I don't know many mothers who NEEDED a breast pump. Only my cousin because her baby wouldn't latch correctly

Tay L 1 child; St Paul, Minnesota 719 posts
20th Nov '12

I was told i'd most likely need a breast pump cause I plan on breastfeeding and I'm only taking 4 weeks off of work. Was told that a breastpump will help with storing it and putting it in bottles. That way he can get breastmilk even when I'm not able to be with him, so when his dad is watching him or my mom or at a daycare while I'm at work.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22453 posts
20th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tay L:</b>" I was told i'd most likely need a breast pump cause I plan on breastfeeding and I'm only taking 4 weeks ... [snip!] ... breastmilk even when I'm not able to be with him, so when his dad is watching him or my mom or at a daycare while I'm at work."</blockquote>




Then obviously you need one. But not everyone does

mmayala 1 child; Fort Dodge, Iowa 237 posts
20th Nov '12

I understand that you're 17 years old and don't feel ready for a baby. But you can't literally think that giving your g/f an ultimatum to abort it or you're leaving her is the right thing to do? I'm really trying to see your side of things here, because I don't know what it's like to be 17 and expecting but I do know what it's like to be 27 and expecting and I can tell you that I'm scared. And the funny thing is, we TRIED for this baby. We were on medications to make us pregnant and it still scares the shit out of me. Have you ever stopped to think how scared she is? Did the thought of what's going on through her head ever occurred to you? She's going through this too and right now, she needs ALL your support and any love you can give. While she may be "bitching" to you a lot, that's her way of being scared. Just like you're sitting here like an immature kid complaining about how you don't want to lose your awesome party life. Don't you think she will lose anything? You can leave, you can send a check every month and be normal again, she will NEVER be normal again. EVEN if she decides to abort, this will f**k her up for the rest of her life. If you think shes a b***h to you now...wait until the decision is made to abort(pushed on to her by you) shes going to f**king hate your guts for doing that to her. Ultimately, it is her decision, but if the kid she loves isn't standing besides her at this time of need she might feel having you as a boyfriend is much more important than having a kid. I understand you're young, I know shit sucks, but you fucked this girl. You can't think that her aborting it or putting it up for adoption will make things "normal" again....chances are you will f**k her again...with the pull out method and knock her up again. YOU HAVE TO MAKE A CHANGE if you're not ready for the responsibilities of sex. Shit sucks, I know, I was having sex at your age too, but there was NO way in hell no protection wasn't used. We hated condoms too, but I bet we would have hated being in this same exact situation even more. YOU made your bed, and now you need to lie in it. You're ALMOST 18 years old...which means a legal adult. You're so far from an adult and so out there from reality it's sad. I know, not all kids mature at the same rate, but take a good hard look at the situation and reevaluate the situation before making the biggest mistake of your life. If she decides to have this child, she's going to hate you and eventually, you will open up to this child and it'll be too late. I'm so sad for this girl:(

Nanna Boo Boo's Mommy 2 kids; De Pere, Wisconsin 2610 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" I really hope you will stay OP."


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Kelly+Brandon=Blake 1 child; Maryland 1260 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Clk:" Women do the exact same thing though without such anger against her on here. It's just sad yet funny to me the double standard. Not necessarily saying specifically you, but in general."

I agree

Gemmas mommy! 1 child; Deposit, New York 1893 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting mmayala:" I understand that you're 17 years old and don't feel ready for a baby. But you can't literally think ... [snip!] ... child, she's going to hate you and eventually, you will open up to this child and it'll be too late. I'm so sad for this girl:("


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user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
20th Nov '12

Wow i just saw this...




If you want nothing to do with your kid thats your fault. I dont know my bio dad becuase he dipped out on my mom when she wouldnt abort. He had another child who died and now he wants to be BFF with me and i dont even want to meet im.



Something you should think about. There may bea time in yournlife when you have kids and WANT them and think about that one baby you justlet go because you were too scared for whatever reason. Man up..




Or dont have sex. Its not rocket science

MX23 Japan 674 posts
20th Nov '12

so i was gonna skip school today cuz its stupid to go in 4 just 2 days and since my parents arent home it be easy but i went in to talk to my guidence conselor about this and she said it be best for me to talk to an expert that they send teens to with problems like this



she called and they said i could go next week but while i was in class they called me down and said i could go to them now cuz they had someone cancel and they would let me out of school early so that was cool.



when i got there i was expecting some old lady but it was a guy that wasnt that old so that was cool. he was awesome to talk to and im so glad i went.



he said its normal to be scared and nervous but she is gonna feel the same as me and to think of her feelings and just gave me some good ideas on how to deal with her and things i should do



he said i should talk to her about spending thanksgiving with her family if they would let me so im not a lone plus so we can spend time together. im not sure im ready for that. i dont mind being with her but not sure about her father. i might see if she will come to my house after if she can. i wanna work things out with her.



i do feel bad about what i said to her. i just reacted to how i felt then and was just scared.



he didnt pressure me to do anything and said i had to make this decision and that he and anyone else i talk to can just give advise but i needed to careful who i listened to. he suggested not to bring it up to my friends because they really arent the right people to get this type of advise from. he said i really need to talk to my parents when they get home cuz they need to know and will be there for me. i doubt they will tho.



i dont wana go over everything we talked about but it was just so good to talk to him especially cuz he was a guy. we got along so good and hes even into the same stuff i am cuz he asked what happened to my wrist cuz I have a cast on. told him i crashed on a dirt bike jump and he is actually into that. said he likes to ride to just not any crazy stunts. we even talked about football and hockey so i feel so much better.



he even said if she felt like it i could bring my gf so we could all talk about everything together so i hope she will come with me next time cuz he really helped clear my head



i told my friends that i went but that was a bad idea. im just getting harassed now that im seeing a shrink but i dont think he is or if he is, he is cool enough for me. then they said that i have a crush on him and ill be leaving Jess for him next so i just need to keep them out of this stuff for now like he says



i do wanna be there for my gf but scared to death. i wanna talk to her and him again and hopefully tthe three of us so i can really decide what i should be doing.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22453 posts
20th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MX23:</b>" so i was gonna skip school today cuz its stupid to go in 4 just 2 days and since my parents arent home ... [snip!] ... to death. i wanna talk to her and him again and hopefully tthe three of us so i can really decide what i should be doing."</blockquote>




It sounds like you are thinking about doing the right thing and staying with her. I'm glad you went to someone and it went well.