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MX23 Japan 674 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting Nanna Boo Boo's Mommy:" There probably are classes that you can take, but not until she is about 30 weeks i think....I took a ... [snip!] ... bonded with the other moms had i taken the teen class. I loved that i took it, and it helped me to control alot of the pain."


ok thats good to know. ill look at the hospital website and see what they have. i hope they have a teen class. i would feel better in a class with just teens.

MX23 Japan 674 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting LolaMcKitten:" I am pretty sure most hospitals offer classes of some sort, when you guys make a birth plan, be sure ... [snip!] ... and make a list of questions to ask. Most people do this when they are 7 - 8 months along. Tours are generally free, too. "


thanks. i had to google what a birth plan is and found a sample. now i get it. ill just have to keep a list of all the questions as i think of them so i can ask the hospital.

Peyton'sMommy♥ 1 child; Germantown, OH, United States 16811 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting MX23:" ok thats good to know. ill look at the hospital website and see what they have. i hope they have a teen class. i would feel better in a class with just teens."


Oh and along with classes, there are a ton of books geared towards dad's. I'll find you a few links:
I found these all on Amazon, they are for first time dads and they are not too expensive!
http://www.amazon.com/Dude-Youre-Gonna-Be-Dad/dp/1440505365
http://www.amazon.com/The-Expectant-Father-Dads---Be/dp/0789210797
http://www.amazon.com/Show-Dad-How-Parenting-Magazine/dp/1616281111
http://www.amazon.com/Pacify-Me-Handbook-Freaked-Out-New/dp/1439128871
And there a ton of others too, I just searched for first-time dad when I was on Amazon and a ton of stuff popped up

MX23 Japan 674 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting Peyton'sMommy♥:" Oh and along with classes, there are a ton of books geared towards dad's. I'll find you a few links: ... [snip!] ... And there a ton of others too, I just searched for first-time dad when I was on Amazon and a ton of stuff popped up"


good idea! ill have to get one of those.

Peyton'sMommy♥ 1 child; Germantown, OH, United States 16811 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting MX23:" good idea! ill have to get one of those."


How's your gf doin?

Tay L 1 child; St Paul, Minnesota 719 posts
7th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MX23:</b>" thanks so much! congrats on having your baby to. i actually never thought about any of that yet but ... [snip!] ... someone here said they took cuz i dont know anything. scares me so much to have to take care of a baby and not no anything."</blockquote>




Thanks. Yeah they keep the baby in the room, well most hospitals do. They've done research showing its better to have the baby in the room with the parents. So that's what the hospitals around me do.



Its honestly over-whelming, but everyone says it gets easier over time. Its my first night home and I'm kind of freaking out. Cause idk what to do, he just seems to want to cry. He finally stopped and is sleeping now.



I didn't take classes. I took prenatal and parenting classes, but those didn't really show how to take care of a newborn. The parenting showed mostly toddlers and I think maybe a video on babies, but not much. And I didn't go to a birthing class either. But I know hospitals have them. You just have to ask the dr (her OB dr) or call the hospital and ask them about the classes

Nanna Boo Boo's Mommy 2 kids; De Pere, Wisconsin 2627 posts
7th Dec '12
Quoting MX23:" thanks. i had to google what a birth plan is and found a sample. now i get it. ill just have to keep a list of all the questions as i think of them so i can ask the hospital."


Oh OP i am so excited for you. This is a big change from 20days ago. really congrats on everything that is going for you. You seem to be very excited about everything now. How is your GF doing? Have you talked about where you are going to be living?

MX23 Japan 674 posts
7th Dec '12
Quoting Nanna Boo Boo's Mommy:" Oh OP i am so excited for you. This is a big change from 20days ago. really congrats on everything that ... [snip!] ... You seem to be very excited about everything now. How is your GF doing? Have you talked about where you are going to be living?"


thanks so much! mostly everyone on here really helped me alot. my gf is doing really good now. shes been coming over after school this week to drop off my homework and we are doing much better now. we hang out for a little while each night.



both our parents asked about where we were gonna live to. there isnt alot of room at her house so we talked to my parents cuz there is plenty of room here and they did say we could live here if we wanted to. my gf said she would but isnt sure how her parents would take that or if they would let her. she hasnt talked to them about it yet and is scared to tell them. we would tell them together but i think i wanna wait a while cuz i dont want them mad at me again. i dont know if its better to wait and tell them later or tell them soon. i hope they let her to or else im not sure what i would do.

Kelly+Brandon=Blake 1 child; Maryland 1260 posts
7th Dec '12
Quoting MX23:" thanks so much! mostly everyone on here really helped me alot. my gf is doing really good now. shes ... [snip!] ... know if its better to wait and tell them later or tell them soon. i hope they let her to or else im not sure what i would do."


Ahhh I'm so happy for you guys!!! Again, I'm so proud of how far you came in such a short period of time. And you know I'm here if you ever need me :) Definately if you guys can live at your parents, do it! We're still living with SO's mom and we have our own apartment, pretty much the whole basement haha but we're saving up for a house. Rent is soo expensive, if you're given help definately take it. Things are hard on your own, you never really realize how much bills actually are until you go out on your own lol. I'm just glad because it seems you both have great parents who care and will support you guys. Just use what they do for you to be successful on your own. Keep up the good work bud!

MX23 Japan 674 posts
7th Dec '12
Quoting Kelly+Brandon=Blake:" Ahhh I'm so happy for you guys!!! Again, I'm so proud of how far you came in such a short period of ... [snip!] ... who care and will support you guys. Just use what they do for you to be successful on your own. Keep up the good work bud!"


thanks! i hope her parents let her live here. it be awsome having her here all the time. yeah there would be way to many bills if we moved out. plus it be easier for us if we lived here if we both go to school. i definitely wanna take all the help we can get. my parents have been really supportive. im so surprised. dad is still angry but not yelling. guess its more like still disappointed.

LolaMcKitten Due May 30 (girl); 27 kids; Beverly Hills, California 15496 posts
8th Dec '12
Quoting MX23:" thanks! i hope her parents let her live here. it be awsome having her here all the time. yeah there ... [snip!] ... have been really supportive. im so surprised. dad is still angry but not yelling. guess its more like still disappointed."


Thats what you think NOW LOL!

No more b***hes No, NJ, United States 1659 posts
8th Dec '12

OP, I am very proud of you and also very happy for you and your gf. <3

veggie86 TTC since Mar 2014; Somewhere, CA, United States 86 posts
8th Dec '12
Quoting i ♥ nora:" OP, I am very proud of you and also very happy for you and your gf. <3"

:!::!:

*Mrs. Mom* Due April 25 (boy); 3 kids; Ohio 1969 posts
8th Dec '12
Quoting MX23:" i really need help ive been with my chick for like 2 years now and now she is pregnent and i dont know ... [snip!] ... you do about it update! i changed my mind. i am gonna be with my gf and the baby so please read everything before you post."


Being a dad is not so bad your life will change but it's for the better you might not see it now. Also dont be one of those guys that dont want anything to do with the baby if it's a girl.

MX23 Japan 674 posts
8th Dec '12

i asked my parents if i could be allowed to go over to my gfs house to apoligize to her sister and they said i could go out for 2 hours if my gf picked me up and brought me back.



i was hoping her parents would be home so they could see i was doing what they asked but they werent. i told her sister i was really sorry for what i said. it wasnt nice and i want to make things better between us cuz i am gonna be around my gf and the baby so we are going to see each other and i dont wanna hate each other.



well then she flipped out again at me. i really dont know what her problem is. she is insane. i was nice to her and even didnt yell back at her. i think she was waiting for it and it prolly pissed her off that i didnt start a fight with her so she kept yelling at me calling me a loser low life stuff like that.



her bf was there to and he was yelling at me. i told my gf to just bring me home and her bf shoved me like he wanted to fight me. i wasnt gonna fight him there plus hes alot bigger than me and hes 25. i know he would kick my ass. i think me walking away pissed him off to cuz he caught me off guard and punched me in the head. just when my headaches were just about better and now they are back :evil: he said he wasnt done with me and said theres more where that comes and ill see him next week.



im so pissed at her bf. i would love to try to kick his ass even if i would lose. such a p***y to punch me like that. my gf said she will tell her parents everything cuz i did nothing wrong. she is mad at her sister now so at least she isnt mad at me.



at least i tried to do the right thing and didnt loose my temper there.