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user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
Nov 18th '12
Quoting Legendary Bonnie Beaver:" I'm with him."


we have agreed to wait, to make sure we really get a baby out of this. so either way he is waiting... i just wanted to make sure i wasnt the only one that felt that way.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8096 posts
Nov 18th '12
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" this is true i went to HS with agirl who lost her baby at 9 months to sids : ("

I'm still nervous about something happening to LO lol. It's completely normal and it's hard to cut off that "Well if I ever want another one..." option, it's really hard.
Do you think maybe subconsciously, you're not sure if you're done and wanting to see if the birth/first six months of the new baby will reassure you that you are done having children? THAT was a hard one for me lol.

Meli ❤ 1 child; Don't worry about it, CA, United States 31144 posts
Nov 18th '12

I would wait, because you never know what could happen. I would wait until the baby got a clean bill of health too like the other mama said. I think your point is very valid.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
Nov 18th '12
Quoting Vodka Knockers:" I'm still nervous about something happening to LO lol. It's completely normal and it's hard to cut off ... [snip!] ... the birth/first six months of the new baby will reassure you that you are done having children? THAT was a hard one for me lol."




we are done. for sure. 4 kids is enough for us. its the limit for us!

i told SO if for some reason i get a c-section im having them tie my tubes and he agreed too. i have even thought about essure procedure.. but if i want to be a surrogate still idk if that will effect me.. i dont THINK it would only because it clogs up your tubes and doesnt really do anythign to your uterus. but we will see.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8096 posts
Nov 18th '12
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" we are done. for sure. 4 kids is enough for us. its the limit for us! i told SO if for some ... [snip!] ... me.. i dont THINK it would only because it clogs up your tubes and doesnt really do anythign to your uterus. but we will see."

Oh I know all about the essure, they suggested it for my mother when she had endometrial ablation and I looked into it.
I don't think it would have any influence on surrogacy at all, though the stretching of the uterus could possibly do something to it, not really sure. I'd definitely talk to your doctor before ruling it out though, it's supposed to be an amazing method.

Rachie.luv♡ 2 kids; El Paso, Texas 14643 posts
Nov 18th '12
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" we are done. for sure. 4 kids is enough for us. its the limit for us! i told SO if for some ... [snip!] ... me.. i dont THINK it would only because it clogs up your tubes and doesnt really do anythign to your uterus. but we will see."

well if you get a csection you can't be a one can you?
And saying you guys agreed on this tube tying business is the same as him getting snipped after the baby...theres not really a later on down the road...KWIM?

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23103 posts
Nov 18th '12

You could wait until 6 weeks PP and not have sex until then...

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23103 posts
Nov 18th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Bonnie Beaver:</b>" I'm with him."</blockquote>




Me too...

Monique and Dominic's mom 2 kids; Wyoming 2769 posts
Nov 18th '12

I think you're making a valid point. We discussed (DH and I) him getting a vasectomy when DS is a year, but I've told him I don't think I'm ready to be done having kids. If we TTC it will be when DS is 2 and that baby will be our last.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23103 posts
Nov 18th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Amanda:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" even at 6 weeks PP though a baby still ... [snip!] ... be thinking about that too? I mean kids die at any age, to cut it off at 6 months rather than second trimester is weird to me."</blockquote>




Exactly!

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23103 posts
Nov 18th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Amanda:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ravey Candyass:</b>" I'm on his side. He should get it now."</blockquote> This, I mean you claim you "TNTC" this one, lol I wouldn't trust ya."</blockquote>




Yeah obviously she isn't good at TNTCing...

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
Nov 18th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rachie.luv♡:</b>" well if you get a csection you can't be a one can you? And saying you guys agreed on this tube tying ... [snip!] ... this tube tying business is the same as him getting snipped after the baby...theres not really a later on down the road...KWIM?"</blockquote>




Yes you can. You cant have multiple sections in ordere to not qualify..

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
Nov 18th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Amanda:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" even at 6 weeks PP though a baby still ... [snip!] ... be thinking about that too? I mean kids die at any age, to cut it off at 6 months rather than second trimester is weird to me."</blockquote>




Thats true. I still think its better to wait if the baby is born and healthy and stuff first.



My SO has agreed with this, so its the plan..




I might "suck TNTC but i managed to stay unpregnant for 10 months so i think i can do it again

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 23103 posts
Nov 18th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Amanda:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ ... [snip!] ... with this, so its the plan.. I might "suck TNTC but i managed to stay unpregnant for 10 months so i think i can do it again"</blockquote>




And if the baby isn't healthy will you have another one? Or not love it?

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
Nov 18th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting HopingforaMiracle:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Amanda:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ravey ... [snip!] ... you claim you "TNTC" this one, lol I wouldn't trust ya."</blockquote> Yeah obviously she isn't good at TNTCing..."</blockquote>




Its not my fault i get pregnant easy... : / we tried a hell of a lot more this past month than usual to TNTC if it was gonna happen it should have happened last month. Ha