<blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting dat uterus tho:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Radame ... [snip!] ... to be intimate with someone, I shouldn't have to be just to please him. What satisfaction to I get out of that? None at all."</blockquote>
Right. Our relationship has been shit for months and I haven't wanted sex with him in a couple of weeks. He still does household chores and helps with my daughter, who isn't even his kid. I don't have to bribe him with p***y to get him to act like a functioning adult.
He shouldn't stop helping out because he's mad. Although, he is human and you have to look at it from his perspective too. She says she doesn't even like him looking at her. He obviously gets that vibe from her. Hes probably hurt and confused and reacting to that, even if it's childlike. He's obviously crazy horny and she's the only one in this world who he can turn to to release that (yes he can jack it but it's not the same). She's refused him for 2 months. He's feeling rejected in that department as well. If sex hurts and you're not in the mood, then you could give him a blow job or a h*****b. Yes, she shouldn't have to, but it will make him in a better mood and make him feel better and not so rejected/disconnected from her. if she had a horrible backache and he refused to rub her back for a long time then looked at her all disgusted, she'd be hurt and upset too. He's feeling emotionally and physically rejected. If you just don't like him, then that's a whole other avenue. Try going out on a date and reconnecting with him emotionally.
This whole thread got fucked the last two pages or so. Women should not have to just put up and shut up to keep their men happy around the house. f**k that shit. I refuse to just have sex with my DH just so he will help around the house/with our son etc etc. He's a big boy and can use his damn hand if I have something going on that decreases my libido. He should be respectful of that just as i would if the roles were reversed. I'm not some piece of meat that has to roll over and spread my legs whenever he wants sex just to keep him around. No, that's not how shit works. If you're in a relationship that you have to do that or feel the need to do that, I feel very sorry for you but don't advise other women to do the same thing because it's the only thing that makes your relationship "function."
Quoting Snotface♫[usmc]:" This whole thread got fucked the last two pages or so. Women should not have to just put up and shut ... [snip!] ... for you but don't advise other women to do the same thing because it's the only thing that makes your relationship "function." "
Guess what? I'm a person. I happen to have a vagina, but my husband doesn't help with the kids just so he can put his p***s in it.
That's insane. That people STILL in this day and age feel that women should basically be sex toys and give it up just because their husband happens to have a p***s. Really? That is my only use? And that isn't ALL men ask for or I wouldn't be caring for the kids, cooking meals, cleaning, keeping up the household, keeping everyone on schedule, and doing everything else that I do.
I'm a person. I'm his partner. I'm not just a vagina for him to use as he pleases.
For f**ks sake.
Quoting she nan igans:" EXACTLY. Guess what? I'm a person. I happen to have a vagina, but my husband doesn't help with the ... [snip!] ... else that I do. I'm a person. I'm his partner. I'm not just a vagina for him to use as he pleases. For f**ks sake. "
Yes! If all DH ever wanted was just sex, I wouldn't be here! That's not a relationship but what I have IS one. We are partners, friends, lovers etc. I am NOT just some sex toy for him whenever he is horny and then I'm nothing when he's not. No. That's not how life works for most. I do feel bad for the people that it does 'work" for.
My husband And I are in a give and take relationship.
If my back is super sore and I ask him for a backrub, even if he's tired he'll give me one. Why? Because he loves me.
If its my husbands turn to take out the garbage and I know he's had a long day at work, I'll take it out for him. Why? Because I love him.
If he sees my favourite chocolate bar and only has enough for one, he'll get it for me. Why? Because he loves me.
If my husband wants a little action, hasnt had it in a while and I'm not in the mood, I'll give him a bj. Why? Because I love him.
Because I give him a blowjob when Im not in the mood for sex, doesn't mean all I'm good for is p***y and my vagina is all he's after and blah blah blah. I think that's crazy that that's even a thought.
<blockquote><b>Quoting lamr - 02-08-13-21:</b>" My husband And I are in a give and take relationship. If my back is super sore and I ask him for a ... [snip!] ... all I'm good for is p***y and my vagina is all he's after and blah blah blah. I think that's crazy that that's even a thought."</blockquote>
And no one was talking to or about you, so....
Quoting lamr - 02-08-13-21:" My husband And I are in a give and take relationship. If my back is super sore and I ask him for a ... [snip!] ... all I'm good for is p***y and my vagina is all he's after and blah blah blah. I think that's crazy that that's even a thought."
You may choose to do something, and that's one thing. Him EXPECTING you to do it because he's a "man" and you have to, is another. That is the issue, the expectation that a woman should feel forced to do it.
I do not do anything sexual when I am not in the mood. I've gone through two difficult pregnancies and recoveries. I was on pelvic rest for almost an entire pregnancy which meant my husband got no sex (or anything else sexual) for 10 or 11 months I guess. We've also stopped having sex for other reasons for a few months. He doesn't turn into an a*****e just because he isn't getting sex. It is my CHOICE to have sex with him. If I choose to, cool! Honestly? If I didn't really want to he wouldn't want me to anyways. Where's the fun in that? He has a lot more respect for me then that.
Again, if you CHOOSE to give him a bj or whatever, that's your choice. You WANT to even if it isn't because you're sexually turned on at that point. You will want to. Feeling that a woman should be obligated is another story though.
Quoting Live Love Laugh ♥:" THIS is exactly how I feel. Even if I do give him sex, he will still complain he never gets it. I've ... [snip!] ... thinks that this would be a day that he is going to get 'lucky'...... I just don't get why it must ALWAYS come back to that :("
Sorry but he's an a*****e.