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MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
19th Nov '12

Also if anyone has bee molested or abused, this can affect your enjoyment or even desire to have sex. You have to work through that first before your body will respond to it in a positive way.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
19th Nov '12

I hate vaginal sex ... as in hate it. Its either super painful or just numb. I love everything else but the moment he tries to stick that thing in me I'm just 'hurry up and finish'. I've always been like this.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting The (super kinky) Master:" I hate vaginal sex ... as in hate it. Its either super painful or just numb. I love everything else but ... [snip!] ... everything else but the moment he tries to stick that thing in me I'm just 'hurry up and finish'. I've always been like this."


I would talk to your doctor then. There is an issue in which women have a flab of skin in the vagina that has to be removed to ensure good sex.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting MysticWitchKat:" I would talk to your doctor then. There is an issue in which women have a flab of skin in the vagina that has to be removed to ensure good sex."


up until recently it was my deprssion/anxiety and then the medications I was on for it that caused issues. Then my auto-immune disorder caused welts in my genital area that would bleed just from my clothes rubbing on them. And now the issue is compounded with scarring from the 4th degree tears I had when I had DS. I'm actually ok with not being able to have vaginal sex ... its not the b-all and end all.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting The (super kinky) Master:" up until recently it was my deprssion/anxiety and then the medications I was on for it that caused issues. ... [snip!] ... degree tears I had when I had DS. I'm actually ok with not being able to have vaginal sex ... its not the b-all and end all."


true I have a friends whose husband is a bit bigger and they just do foreplay things instead.

J+D=4 4 kids; Beverly Hills, California 14683 posts
19th Nov '12

I could care less about actually having sex.. I just want an orgasm. if it wasn't for the fact that I love my husband and want to be as close to him as possible, I wouldnt do it at all.

Perfectly Imperfect :P 1 child; California 146 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Does it not feel good at all?"

It takes a lot and I mean a lot for it to actually feel good, I end up just feeling so disgusted :( I was not like this before :(

J+D=4 4 kids; Beverly Hills, California 14683 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Also if anyone has bee molested or abused, this can affect your enjoyment or even desire to have sex. You have to work through that first before your body will respond to it in a positive way."


Hubby thinks that's my issue as well...

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting Anthony's Mommy :):" It takes a lot and I mean a lot for it to actually feel good, I end up just feeling so disgusted :( I was not like this before :("

Before you gave birth you mean? With the same guy or someone new?

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting J+D=4:" Hubby thinks that's my issue as well..."


You should find someone or a group or people to talk to. Letting it out will begin the healing process. Otherwise it festers and comes out in a variety of ways.

J+D=4 4 kids; Beverly Hills, California 14683 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting MysticWitchKat:" You should find someone or a group or people to talk to. Letting it out will begin the healing process. Otherwise it festers and comes out in a variety of ways."


yeah hubby didn't know anything til we had been together 5 years. we dont talk about it anymore. a lot of anxiety was lifted when I finally told him.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting J+D=4:" yeah hubby didn't know anything til we had been together 5 years. we dont talk about it anymore. a lot of anxiety was lifted when I finally told him."

*hugs*

J+D=4 4 kids; Beverly Hills, California 14683 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting MysticWitchKat:" *hugs*"


thank you

KissMeFinnNelson<3 1 child; 2 angel babies; Glasgow, Scotland, UK, United Kingdom 5359 posts
19th Nov '12

I was actually like this before I had my Son, sex was incredibly uncomfortable and most times quite painful too. It really frustrated me because I enjoyed everything else and was always very excited for the actual intercourse and then everytime it would just hurt :? My DH always said it felt really tight too, then I had my Son and it must have just sorted everything out down there because my sex life has been great since lol

KyliesMommy2012 Tokyo, Japan 1159 posts
19th Nov '12

I LOVE sex. I think I have more of a sex drive than SO :oops:



I enjoy it even more after having DD 8 weeks ago. It's so much better now, idk what it is. SO also says I feel tighter so that's a plus.