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Lack of sex drive/Pain during sex hayleyyf Due June 11; Japan 9 posts
19th Nov '12

Im around 10/11 weeks pregnant and since finding out I have had barely desire to have sex with my SO at all. I was relationship has been rocky & we were broken up when we found out we were pregnant but since have been working on things, so this could be why Im hesitant to have sex with him in the first place.
But we have tried a few times & everytime it just kind of hurts me and I cant get into it at all and after I feel all crampy and weird.
The last time we had sex was weeks ago & we've been having more problems than normal and I think he feels rejected by me because I turn down every advance he makes.
Has this happened to any of you? And how did/would you deal with it? I want us to be close again and I feel that being intimate could help at least a little.

Tea Bag McGee Due November 10; 2 kids; tardis, OS, United States 6885 posts
19th Nov '12

tell him what you just posted.. and you can watch movies have dinner ect.. its not just sex that brings people closer..

lynnsaymarie 17 kids; Buffalo, New York 2011 posts
19th Nov '12

I'm 18 weeks, when I got pregnant we went from crazy newlywed sex 3+ times a day to maybe 3 times a month! And its not even an energy thing I just dont want it at all. I was feeling seriously bad about it too so I talked with him. He was surprisingly understanding and we figured out other ways to be intimate (tons of conversation, a lot of hand holding, cuddling, laughing a lot more together).



My advice would be to let him know how you feel! Hormones can change a person a lot. Hopefully he understands, I'm sure he will.

10 days till baby comes Due January 25; 16 kids; Bolt, West Virginia 745 posts
19th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting hayleyyf:</b>" Im around 10/11 weeks pregnant and since finding out I have had barely desire to have sex with my SO ... [snip!] ... And how did/would you deal with it? I want us to be close again and I feel that being intimate could help at least a little. "</blockquote>



This happened to me as well minus the rocky realtionship. It also started bout the same time as well, it would hurt so bad and burn every time I peed after sex. Been tested for everything and all came back negative. I have just dealt with it and SO has eased up a lot with the pestering with sex. We have also substituted for oral/4-play pleasure cause it makes both parties happy and doesn't hurt me :) also the farther I got currently 30 weeks 2 days the more his desire also slacked off some men have a hard time with the whole idea of baby's head being on the other.sside of.the ccervix and your belly reminds them of it.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
19th Nov '12

Its normal. Some women get horny as hell, and want it more, others don't want it as all. As someone else said you can do other things besides sex.

hayleyyf Due June 11; Japan 9 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting Alexis's Mommy 2 Be:" <blockquote><b>Quoting hayleyyf:</b>" Im around 10/11 weeks pregnant and since finding ... [snip!] ... have a hard time with the whole idea of baby's head being on the other.sside of.the ccervix and your belly reminds them of it."


I hope we can find some other way to please each other again thanks for the advance

jess_Hunter 1 child; California 1257 posts
19th Nov '12

Well I guess you have to find the way to overcome that. You should not be your whole pregnancy without it. Sex is good because if you find how to enjoy it, it will relax you a lot. Watch pregnant porn, wear sexy clothes, try to do new things like having a shower together. All those can help to get you in the mood for it. Just don't give up it is matter of finding it.

10 days till baby comes Due January 25; 16 kids; Bolt, West Virginia 745 posts
19th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting jess_Hunter:</b>" Well I guess you have to find the way to overcome that. You should not be your whole pregnancy without ... [snip!] ... like having a shower together. All those can help to get you in the mood for it. Just don't give up it is matter of finding it."</blockquote>




This also very good advice, if you find something that relaxes you and gets things going then you will enjoy it so much more! Also if you go into it stressed and dreading or whatnot then your setting yourself up for a miserable time.. gotta have a clear relaxed mindset :)