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Extra violent toddler...HELP! Kathleen Briggs Due June 29; 3 kids; Littleton, NH, United States 13 posts
19th Nov '12

My daughter is 2 and a half...I understand all kids go through the terrible two stage but my daughter is extremely violent towards other kids and her little brother and even me and has been ever since she turned 1...biting, hitting, pinching, punching...you name it! I've tried time out and everything else her mental health worker had suggested but nothing has worked. I'm expecting my 3rd child the week after Christmas so I'm hoping to get this under control before her baby sister arrives...desperate for help :(

Barnett Babies Due February 22; 10 kids; Indiana 1770 posts
19th Nov '12

My 19 month old is the exact same way! He also bangs his head out of anger on walls, tables etc we Start evaluation this week , tfhat includes a hearing test and first steps also to rule out any under lying conditions! Gl, speak your concerns to the pediatrician, they can get you referrals to do the same for your child! I do not want him to grow on to this violence and behavior any longer -want to know what we can do to help the issues! He is the only 1 of my 10 that ever acted out this way and starting at 8/9 mos.

IOnlyMakeBoys (B.B.M) 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Texas 4754 posts
19th Nov '12

I would watch for her triggers that way you can predict the behaviors and redirect it. Also if time outs are not working you can give her a quite time in her room away from the other children unfurntuabtly there is not much you can do it's an age thing and they will eventually outgrow it my son started up a little in his twos then turn three and it has been fun.

I don't promote yelling but try speaking to her in a firm voice down at her level so she can be eye to eye with you they tend to listen better if they can see you verses you towering over them and they feel less threatned that way.

You can also take toys away warn her after she does it that if she does it again a certian toy will be taken away and given back to her the next day and have a certian spot for them my sons go on top of the washer and he doesn't like to be without even one of his toys so saying your going to take one away for the day is a big deal.

Nicola Debnath Warren Due October 18; 3 kids; Middlesbrough, United Kingdom 8 posts
19th Nov '12

my little boy was the same i went to doctors but it was just a stage he went through and now is fine, its not nice but it dont last forever i used to just put him in his bedroom and close his door till he calmed down and made him say sorry didnt take long and he was fine x

Barnett Babies Due February 22; 10 kids; Indiana 1770 posts
19th Nov '12

Like My son your daughter is way to young still to completely understand time outs yet, you can do time outs standing there making her stay there for 2 min and remind her why she is in time out etc. As for closing him/her in his room not sure what age i would be comfortable to do that! Maybe 4/5 older??

Mommy0928 Due January 11; 3 kids; Michigan 168 posts
19th Nov '12

2 1/2 is not to young to understand timeouts... Waiting until you think they are old enough to understand to teach them that what they are doing is wrong is only making them think it is ok behavior. Which will end up making the behavior harder to correct.
Redirecting and timeouts are prefect for two year olds it usually doesnt take much to make them side tracked.

Kathleen Briggs Due June 29; 3 kids; Littleton, NH, United States 13 posts
19th Nov '12

I already have several professionals in and out of my apt biweekly working with one or both of my kids. Time outs worked at first but then she got used to them and now thinks its a game. I'll try the toy thing...maybe that'll work. TY

Barnett Babies Due February 22; 10 kids; Indiana 1770 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting Mommy0928:" 2 1/2 is not to young to understand timeouts... Waiting until you think they are old enough to understand ... [snip!] ... to correct. Redirecting and timeouts are prefect for two year olds it usually doesnt take much to make them side tracked."

This is not appropriate for all 2 yr .olds some learn and comprehend later-I did not say it was wrong I gave her an idea on a way about going to do it!!LOL

Kathleen Briggs Due June 29; 3 kids; Littleton, NH, United States 13 posts
19th Nov '12

The main thing I'm worried about is that mental illness runs in my family hardcore. I have an uncle and 4 great aunts/uncles that all have schizophrenia and two of the same people also suffer from multi-personality disorder. My daughter seems as though she feels no pain...if you bite her she laughs..she loves it. If you spank her you get little to no reaction. So I'm hoping its just a stage and that she'll grow out of it.