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Not Sure if I should be mad or worry Mychildrenarecute 2 kids; Collingwood, Ontario 656 posts
19th Nov '12

I recently discovered my SO was texting another girl and hiding it. I confronted him on it and he basically said nothing happened but he never came clean until i found out about it. Then he said " we had not met yet" and then changed the story to she is an old family friend. I don't know if he was planning on cheating on me with her if he is cheating now I am confused and upset. I can't imagine my life with out him.

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22258 posts
status 19th Nov '12

what was the conversation between them like? With the story going from never met to an old family friend that would raise a flag for me

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
19th Nov '12

Umm yeah he's lying.

*C-Ya* 143 kids; Charles City, Iowa 6768 posts
19th Nov '12

I was always told if you have to hide it from your spouse or SO you've already had an emotional affair. Sorry but just from what you posted there were red flags for me. :(

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5480 posts
19th Nov '12

yea id be pissed its not ok to lie and hide things in relationship.

Mychildrenarecute 2 kids; Collingwood, Ontario 656 posts
19th Nov '12

In April we were apart for 2 weeks (broken up) and they had been talking about sex and hanging out again. I don't know his text history we have this cellphone though that keeps a history of when you text people even if you don't keep the actual conversation and he has been texting her for hours and claims it was nothing. He was texting her at times when he was working.

Jeronimo 2 kids; California 1436 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting Stinky Face's Mommy:" I was always told if you have to hide it from your spouse or SO you've already had an emotional affair. Sorry but just from what you posted there were red flags for me. :("


this...

Mychildrenarecute 2 kids; Collingwood, Ontario 656 posts
19th Nov '12

Ya I made him leave yesterday and he knows I am pissed and I am considering leaving

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting Mychildrenarecute:" In April we were apart for 2 weeks (broken up) and they had been talking about sex and hanging out again. ... [snip!] ... conversation and he has been texting her for hours and claims it was nothing. He was texting her at times when he was working."


Yeah, he's probably been cheating. You don't talk to a girl for that long without ever actually following through with it.

Mychildrenarecute 2 kids; Collingwood, Ontario 656 posts
19th Nov '12

I honestly think he has considered it but not sure he has yet

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting Mychildrenarecute:" I honestly think he has considered it but not sure he has yet"


Does it even matter? If I ever found out my SO was talking to another girl about sex even if we were broken up and then continued texting her for hours on end when we got back together, and hid it and lied about it, I'd be GONE.
Planning to do it is just as bad as doing it!

Jeronimo 2 kids; California 1436 posts
19th Nov '12

That doesn't justify it. The intent is there. You know, its like planning a murder and getting found out.. you still get in trouble even if your plans are spoiled & you never played em out...

Mychildrenarecute 2 kids; Collingwood, Ontario 656 posts
19th Nov '12

I already sent him on his way he has not been here since Yesterday morning at 4 am. He knows whats coming.

~*Flibbertigibbet*~ Helena, Montana 821 posts
19th Nov '12
Quoting Will☮Creedence:" Does it even matter? If I ever found out my SO was talking to another girl about sex even if we were ... [snip!] ... on end when we got back together, and hid it and lied about it, I'd be GONE. Planning to do it is just as bad as doing it!"


This.