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Would you be ok with this? ♥Sami [better off] Due February 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; La Vergne, TN, United States 3104 posts
20th Nov '12

Just curious.
So this guy who I've kind of known since February and started hanging out. We were just doing the whole FWB thing at first and we were both fine with that because we have a good time together and are attracted to each other. Then he went for training and we talked all day every day for 3 weeks and things went from light and friends to he now calls me his best friend and we have a lot of serious conversations about everything. We have sex, he takes me out to lunch/dinner, we stay the night at each other's houses (we've been doing that since the beginning), he's great with DD and seriously loves her (he has since we met), and have an agreement that (if only for safety reasons and to keep me off Maury) we sleep exclusively with each other and nobody else while we're sleeping with each other. So... it's almost like we're dating without the label. Would you be ok with that? Or would you want to be "official"?

heygirlheyyy♥ 1 child; Iowa 1303 posts
20th Nov '12

I'd be ok with it, I'm not really into labels though. If it bothers you let him know.

TootsMcGoots 1 child; Saskatchewan 3732 posts
20th Nov '12

I wouldn't be ok with introducing my kid to someone that I was messing around with, but not in a relationship with :?

♥Sami [better off] Due February 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; La Vergne, TN, United States 3104 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Ms.Eagles:" I wouldn't be ok with introducing my kid to someone that I was messing around with, but not in a relationship with :?"


I didn't. He met DD when she was only a couple months old while I was still with her Dad. In fact, her Dad introduced her to him lol.

user banned Des Moines, Iowa 1848 posts
20th Nov '12

I'd prefer having things official, just my personal view. I'd feel like I was not getting the respect I deserved if he wasn't willing to voice that he felt we were together if I felt we were.



However, that's great you guys aren't seeing others simultaneously.

♥Sami [better off] Due February 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; La Vergne, TN, United States 3104 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting heygirlheyyy♥:" I'd be ok with it, I'm not really into labels though. If it bothers you let him know."


I'm fine with it. Truth is I'll be leaving island in a few months and he deploys in the spring, neither of us wants to start a relationship on those conditions. So I was curious how many other people would be fine with things how they are lol.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
20th Nov '12

if you are fine with it, then that's all that matters.

heygirlheyyy♥ 1 child; Iowa 1303 posts
20th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥Sami [better off]:</b>" I'm fine with it. Truth is I'll be leaving island in a few months and he deploys in the spring, neither ... [snip!] ... to start a relationship on those conditions. So I was curious how many other people would be fine with things how they are lol."</blockquote>




So just have fun while you can girl! Lol if it's not going to be a serious thing I don't see the need for it to have a label.

user banned Des Moines, Iowa 1848 posts
20th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ms.Eagles:</b>" I wouldn't be ok with introducing my kid to someone that I was messing around with, but not in a relationship with :?"</blockquote>




This. I didn't even think of that, but completely 100%. If I didn't have a sure commitment I wouldn't have him near my child.

Queen Rowdy TTC since Jan 2013; 1 angel baby; Australia 972 posts
20th Nov '12

So long as you are both on the same page and honest that it is what it is, I wouldn't have a problem with it. I've been in a similar situation more then once and had no issues. Tbh the only time there have been issues is when the guy has lied to me and pretended he wanted something more than he actually did...

♥Sami [better off] Due February 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; La Vergne, TN, United States 3104 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Safka9973:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ms.Eagles:</b>" I wouldn't be ok with introducing my kid to ... [snip!] ... This. I didn't even think of that, but completely 100%. If I didn't have a sure commitment I wouldn't have him near my child."


I didn't introduce her to anyone. He's had a "relationship" for lack of a better word with her since she was just a few months old. Her Dad introduced them when we had a big BBQ that he came to. We were just passing friends then though since I was happily married.

♥Sami [better off] Due February 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; La Vergne, TN, United States 3104 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting heygirlheyyy♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥Sami [better off]:</b>" I'm fine with it. Truth is I'll ... [snip!] ... So just have fun while you can girl! Lol if it's not going to be a serious thing I don't see the need for it to have a label."


Lol all of our friends just keep asking us what we are and I'm like friends who like to have sex and cuddle? He has a daughter around DD's age too so they have playdates on the weekends he has her. It's just nice having someone on the same page on so many levels if that makes sense.

TootsMcGoots 1 child; Saskatchewan 3732 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting ♥Sami [better off]:" I didn't. He met DD when she was only a couple months old while I was still with her Dad. In fact, her Dad introduced her to him lol."


I'd still not want him in my child's life if we weren't a couple. I wouldn't even officially introduce him to my kid until I was dating the guy for at least a few months....regardless of whether or not they had already met when you were with the father when they were introduced the first time. Does that make sense?It's very late and I'm not sure if my words are matching what my brain is thinking...haha

user banned Des Moines, Iowa 1848 posts
20th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥Sami [better off]:</b>" I didn't introduce her to anyone. He's had a "relationship" for lack of a better word with her since ... [snip!] ... introduced them when we had a big BBQ that he came to. We were just passing friends then though since I was happily married."</blockquote>




Gotcha.

♥Manda♥ Swan Valley, WA, Australia 29454 posts
20th Nov '12

Who cares if we're ok with it? What matters is wether you are seeing as you are the one in the situation.



I couldn't do it personally, I would want commitment but I see nothing wrong with it.