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♥Sami [better off] Due August 7; 1 child; 1 angel baby; La Vergne, TN, United States 3099 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Ms.Eagles:" I'd still not want him in my child's life if we weren't a couple. I wouldn't even officially introduce ... [snip!] ... the first time. Does that make sense?It's very late and I'm not sure if my words are matching what my brain is thinking...haha"


Lol yeah I gotcha. It's not even that they just met. He and XH were friends so he spent time with her semi-regularly. We made the agreement when we split that we wouldn't be introducing her to anyone unless it was serious. She already knew, liked, and was comfortable with him. He actually helped us out A LOT when this whole separation thing happened.

♥Sami [better off] Due August 7; 1 child; 1 angel baby; La Vergne, TN, United States 3099 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Manda♥Bella:" Who cares if we're ok with it? What matters is wether you are seeing as you are the one in the situation. I couldn't do it personally, I would want commitment but I see nothing wrong with it."


I was just curious if I was the odd man out about that is all :) It seems like everyone else I know says they couldn't basically be in a relationship without calling it a relationship. In fact, I feel like he has a lot stronger feelings than I do. I'm the one who emphasizes how much I don't want to start something serious haha.

TootsMcGoots 1 child; Saskatchewan 3732 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting ♥Sami [better off]:" Lol yeah I gotcha. It's not even that they just met. He and XH were friends so he spent time with her ... [snip!] ... already knew, liked, and was comfortable with him. He actually helped us out A LOT when this whole separation thing happened."


How old is she? It might be confusing for her to see you with another guy that's not her Dad, but this guy isn't your boyfriend, but she sees you holding hands, or kissing and stuff...and having him spend the night and whatnot...I dunno. If you're comfortable with it, then all the power to you. I just know I wouldn't be able to have my LO around someone I wasn't dating, yet still sleeping with.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Ms.Eagles:" How old is she? It might be confusing for her to see you with another guy that's not her Dad, but this ... [snip!] ... all the power to you. I just know I wouldn't be able to have my LO around someone I wasn't dating, yet still sleeping with."


Children are not tuned to a two parent situation. Simply they respond to any figures that are in their lives daily. They don't differentiate based on how you interact as a couple, but rather you you interact with them.

♥Sami [better off] Due August 7; 1 child; 1 angel baby; La Vergne, TN, United States 3099 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Ms.Eagles:" How old is she? It might be confusing for her to see you with another guy that's not her Dad, but this ... [snip!] ... all the power to you. I just know I wouldn't be able to have my LO around someone I wasn't dating, yet still sleeping with."


She will be 11 months old in a week :( Understandable though. She actually has rarely seen her Dad since June. I'm actually kinda thankful he's around (as well as my cousin, he's basically filled the father role since her Dad walked out). But that's a whole different story haha.

TootsMcGoots 1 child; Saskatchewan 3732 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Children are not tuned to a two parent situation. Simply they respond to any figures that are in their ... [snip!] ... in their lives daily. They don't differentiate based on how you interact as a couple, but rather you you interact with them."


I get that small kids don't..but I don't know OP or the age of her DD...older kids (5 or so) might get confused. 11 months, no, not likely.



OP, if what you guys are doing works for you, then don't fix what's not broken...and make sure you can trust this guy enough to be around your DD on a regular basis. Sounds like you know him pretty good though, since he calls you his best friend and you've known him for almost a year. Good luck!