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Couples and polygraphs HelloMeanie 98 kids; USA 1341 posts
20th Nov '12

Say your SO had doubts about your fidelity, and despite there being no sufficient proof that you had indeed been unfaithful, you were told the only way to clear the accusations up would be to agree to a polygraph. Obviously declining to take it very well could fuel suspicions of cheating, then what would you do?




Would you take a polygraph test if your SO wanted you to? Why? Why not?

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15558 posts
20th Nov '12

Absofuckinglutely not. If he can't take my word, or vice verse, we don't need to be together.

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22259 posts
status 20th Nov '12

Nope, if you can't take my word for it and trust me then you can f**k off.

Perfectly Imperfect :P 1 child; California 146 posts
20th Nov '12

I took one but it was in a horrible situation, my son's dad turned violant and literally had me in his house until I took a polygraph test, of course I was not scared of taking it cause I had never cheated on him but now honestly would not allow myself to be put through that

S♡J=Malachi 1 child; 3 angel babies; Florida 3278 posts
20th Nov '12

Hell no & him asking for it is gOing to make me think that he has something himself to hide.

*mommy to 3* Due March 7 (girl); 2 kids; Virginia 1167 posts
20th Nov '12

If my DH EVER asked for one I would tell him no. I havent done anything wrong and if he cant trust me as his wife then we have no reason to continue our marriage anyways. And in the odd case that he caught me in a good mood and I agreed to take it I would make sure that he understood that my lie detector results would be coming with our divorce papers. If he cant persue other means of addressing his trust issues through counseling or whatever then I would feel no desire to continue our marriage. Not to mention I would seriously question his own fidelity if he was accusing me with no reason.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56009 posts
status 20th Nov '12

No way



if the doubts are THAT strong, not even a polygraph would get rid of them.

HelloMeanie 98 kids; USA 1341 posts
20th Nov '12

So how about everyone's thoughts of your SO looking at your phone records, going through your belongings while you are sleeping or not home.



I personally feel that if a man has to ask you to take a polygraph, and disrespect you by invading privacy, then there is either something he is doing wrong or there is no reason for the two to be together.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15558 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting HelloMeanie:" So how about everyone's thoughts of your SO looking at your phone records, going through your belongings ... [snip!] ... you by invading privacy, then there is either something he is doing wrong or there is no reason for the two to be together."

I'm not okay with that either. If he wants something, he can ask. Everyone is entitled to their own privacy, regardless of relationship status.

*mommy to 3* Due March 7 (girl); 2 kids; Virginia 1167 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting HelloMeanie:" So how about everyone's thoughts of your SO looking at your phone records, going through your belongings ... [snip!] ... you by invading privacy, then there is either something he is doing wrong or there is no reason for the two to be together."


My ex did this crap to me and let me tell you it quickly escalated to physical confrontations. He would go through my laptop, my phone, he would spy on me when we werent together. He called me names and degraded me. He told me that no one else would ever want me b/c i was 18/19 with a baby. I was soooo miserable. After I finally had my last straw and left I found out he had been cheating on me forever.

*A&N's Mama* 2 kids; Halifax, Nova Scotia 4627 posts
20th Nov '12

I would neeeverr take a polygraph. That'd be kind of a relationship killer. I was with a guy who was very controlling and would go through my shit and accuse me of cheating. It got old quick, and I did end up cheating on him before I dumped him lol :/

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
20th Nov '12

I would and so would he but it wouldn't get to that anyway.



As for the phone, eh who cares. I have nothing to hide and neither does he.

GoldenGirls 1 child; North Carolina 1225 posts
20th Nov '12

DH and I have each others passwords for everything. My XH cheated on me more times then I have fingers and toes. But I trust my DH. It took me a long time to look past the bad from the ex, and focus on me. When I met DH, I had lingering issues, but he is such an amazing man.



I think if DH ever asked for a polygraph, I would be out the door. Hecknows my views on cheating, and we both agree it is something that would come with divorce papers.

* Sara * 2 kids; Texas 18864 posts
20th Nov '12

Uh no. He needs to stay off my phone too.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56009 posts
status 20th Nov '12
Quoting HelloMeanie:" So how about everyone's thoughts of your SO looking at your phone records, going through your belongings ... [snip!] ... you by invading privacy, then there is either something he is doing wrong or there is no reason for the two to be together."


I would never allow that.



Not that I have anything to hide but I value trust and privacy. If he wanted to see something, I'm sure I'd have no problem showing him. But if he asked every day, and to go through everything, I would get sick of not being trusted and i would leave.