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My own mom.... TecoaJameson&Me Due September 7; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Charlottesville, Virginia 3058 posts
status 20th Nov '12

Ok so let me give you a little background. I have 2 kids. My daughter is 5. My son is 1. My daughter isn't my husbands biological child my son is. He has been in my daughters life since she was 8 months old. Has always been daddy and glady accepted the role. I have known him since I was in the 7th grade. He's my best friend and an amazing daddy! My mom and me have a horrible relationship. Always have but I have always tried. She really has called me eve name in the book she could. Has drug me through mud dirt the works. Well she lives with us. I told her on Sunday I couldn't take the abuse anymore! I am talkin in front of my kids everything. Shes obsessed with my daughter to the point of scary. So when I told her she wasn't welcome bam! Well Sunday night gettin my daughter in the bath I seen a scrape or scratch on my daughters hip and asked how she got it as she isn't terribly graceful and she did fall on playground at after school Friday and hit her head on a pole. Fricken high school kids watch them so who knows what really happened. Well my mom questioned my daughter and drilled her told me I was having my daughter lie for me! So next day gettin my son ready after putting my daughter on bus she attacks me again! I want to know which one of u hit her!!! I ignored her name calling etc and left. I get a call before I leave work from a social worker that someone called and said that tecoas step dad was hitting her and she got a bruise on her hip. She only knew about scratch and only knows my hubby is the step dad! I mean obvious! I has the lady come by and interview us and everything!!! My mom my own blood did this to my family out of hate for me! She denied it said it was my fault etc. I honestly believe that cuz my husband wants to adopt her and my mom is against it cuz if I die she is scared he will keep her away that she did this on purpose! Trying to keep him from doing it!

* Sara * 2 kids; Texas 18864 posts
20th Nov '12

Cut her out of your life for good. That's the only advice I have.

Chellie Due September 19; 2 kids; Vegas, Nv, United States 4170 posts
20th Nov '12

I think your mom is psycho. I would tell her she has 15 days to move out and if she does not you will put her belongings outside for her to pick up. Then change the locks and get a restraining order.



I cannot stand people like that and do not need their drama in my life. Maybe you don't want to do such extreme measures but you need to put your family's best interests ahead of your mom or anyone else.

Reise's Mommy 2 kids; Kentucky 1706 posts
20th Nov '12

Yeah... I would kick her ass onto the street and tell her she's not welcome in your life or your children's lives, end of story.

Wife and Mommy of 4 4 kids; California 804 posts
20th Nov '12

I am so sorry you are going through that. I think it would be in best interest of you and your family to move away from your mom.

grr, argh 1 child; Ohio 385 posts
20th Nov '12

If someone in my family tried to get my child taken from me, I would kick their ass to the curb and let them know that they are dead to me.

Leah+2 2 kids; Texas 5797 posts
20th Nov '12

Cut her out and move. I'm SO sorry she's acting like this. Especially it being the person that raised you and is supposed to love you unconditionally, I can't imagine how hard this is.

LynMarie.xo Due January 18; Ontario 113 posts
20th Nov '12

I don't know the situation as to why your momma is living with you, but from what I read it deffinitly sounds like its time for her to pack her bags. She is causing you alot of unnecessary emtional pain and will no doubt pass on her traits and morals to your daughter as she grows. She sure sounds like a threat to your children and undoubtely yourself! Good luck with everything going on girl, I know it would probly be tough because she is your mom, but it sounds like it should be done sooner than later! Best of luck!!! <3 xoxo

Sugarhiccup LLC 5 kids; Lahaina, Hawaii 2825 posts
20th Nov '12

I'd let her know she was going to be living in her own home for the holidays plain and simple. You and your family dont need a toxic person like that living with you.

XavierRose Due August 25; 2 kids; Gilbert, Arizona 1716 posts
20th Nov '12

Holy shit do we have the same mom?!?!?! I had to move 2500 miles to get away from mine. I feel your pain, but seriously cut her out of your life, she's poison

TecoaJameson&Me Due September 7; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Charlottesville, Virginia 3058 posts
status 20th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rhiannon Deason:</b>" Holy shit do we have the same mom?!?!?! I had to move 2500 miles to get away from mine. I feel your pain, but seriously cut her out of your life, she's poison"</blockquote>




I think I may have to!!! I called her yesterday afterwards and told her to take a long walk off a short cliff and she better hope nothing comes of this! It's bad enough my daughter was pulled out of class to talk to this women and then to be socked with the lowest blow she could come up with! She is out of the house! She's gone and I told my bro she better not show her face to mine cuz I won't see a mother anymore I will see blood! She's lucky to be still walking! She had this planned! She was clearing the way and laying down the road. She went to this place called region 10 cuz she was having suicidal thoughts. All because my husband paid off her ex to leave her alone cuz he owed him $1000. He gave it to him then she turned around 2 weeks later and tried to say she wanted him around again! U know a smack to my husbands face for helping you which she doesn't even consider she was doing wrong and cuz my husband got mad at her and yelled at her cuz he was upset she was doing this and that she wanted to bring that guy around our kids! I told her she will b lucky if she even talks to tecoa again! After saying what he did in front of her and doing this shit she is so lucky!!!! I'm heartbroken and feel a sense of betrayal! My own mom trying to take the only people in my life that keep me going and alive just to get back at me! Things will never be the same and if she doesn't get her shit by Saturday it will go on the curve!!!!

XavierRose Due August 25; 2 kids; Gilbert, Arizona 1716 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting TecoaJameson&Me:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rhiannon Deason:</b>" Holy shit do we have the same mom?!?!?! ... [snip!] ... just to get back at me! Things will never be the same and if she doesn't get her shit by Saturday it will go on the curve!!!!"


Mine is in the psych ward right now. Didn't tell anyone she was going, just got up and went....refuses to talk to anyone, lol. but I have to be nice and try and check on her so when she eventually gets pissed at them and signs herself out she can't get mad at me for not asking every second of every day how she's doing.

TecoaJameson&Me Due September 7; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Charlottesville, Virginia 3058 posts
status 20th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rhiannon Deason:</b>" Mine is in the psych ward right now. Didn't tell anyone she was going, just got up and went....refuses ... [snip!] ... gets pissed at them and signs herself out she can't get mad at me for not asking every second of every day how she's doing."</blockquote>




Your better then I am! She has PTSD and she thinks that my daughter will be used and abused like she was as a kid. I get her ok... I know the risk but I dont go crazy and am not obsessive over this! I mean it's a risk with all kids! But it's my job as a parent to prevent harm and I'm doing it! She has a father who loves her and a mother it's our jobs to protect her at all cost! It's screwed up and it hurts but we will get throug this! Thanks ladies

Kass. Due November 30; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Ottawa, Ontario 11312 posts
20th Nov '12

She would be f**king GONE! This is not playing around, this is not annoying mom bullshit, this is beyond that. She would be completely cut out of my life and that would be the end of it. If she didn't want to leave, I would call the police to have her removed and if need be - a restraining order. If you want to keep your family together, get rid of your mom. It's so sad to say, but that is completely insane.

Mom2William&Michael 2 kids; 1 angel baby; New York 7600 posts
20th Nov '12

I'm so, so sorry you're going through that. Put her shit out the door and wash your hands of her.