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I feel so violated... Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8066 posts
20th Nov '12

I'm going to make a long story short.
Yesterday, I found out that DH had installed a f**king key logger onto my computer. Yes, downloaded a key logger, installed it, and even went to the extreme of hiding the file. The only reason I found out? I was using the computer and I get a notification saying that my free trial is expiring and it can no longer monitor sessions longer than 40 minutes, I'm like "The f**k is this?" look it up and it's a key logger.
I took some time, thought on it. I had to figure out the best approach because DH is a tricky b***h. Around 7PM, I asked him to delete the key logger off my computer, he acts dumb. I let him play dumb, but insist he takes it off. I tell him about the notification, hand him the computer and say "I'm leaving, but remember your honesty is vital." I go outside, walk around, come back in. "I may have installed one on your computer, I don't remember" he says. I say "I think you need time to think. I'll come back later." I leave, walk around, come back. Again he says he may have, but doesn't recall, I tell him to stop bullshitting me, he confesses.



I was in relationship that was psychologically and physically abusive before DH...He'd go through my myspace, e-mail, phone, and he'd do it right in front of me, he didn't give a shit. But he NEVER went so far as to put a key logger on my computer and monitor my every. f**king. keystroke.
Honestly, I'm f**king terrified right now. That is a whole new level of f**king obsessive and crazy, and I'm scared of what else he's capable of to pry into my life that way...
I honestly don't know what to do. I can't think straight, I can't eat, this is just f**king me up in the head, it's f**king with me bad...
I don't know what to do anymore, my stomach is in f**king knots.

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
20th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" I'm going to make a long story short. Yesterday, I found out that DH had installed a f**king key logger ... [snip!] ... is just f**king me up in the head, it's f**king with me bad... I don't know what to do anymore, my stomach is in f**king knots."</blockquote>




If its f**king with you that bad leave?

user banned Due September 14 (boy); 1 child; Rhode Island 6726 posts
20th Nov '12

Wow thats f**king nuts. I would be all set with that relationship...

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8066 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Brink:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" I'm going to make a long story short. Yesterday, ... [snip!] ... don't know what to do anymore, my stomach is in f**king knots."</blockquote> If its f**king with you that bad leave?"

I can't leave, this is my home. And he's already told me before if I want him out (This is not the first marital problem we've had, but it's the first one that has went on this long without my knowledge) then I have to legally evict him and all the money is his.

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
20th Nov '12

what do you think he was trying to find out with the key logger?

user banned Birmingham, Alabama 18 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Vodka Knockers:" I'm going to make a long story short. Yesterday, I found out that DH had installed a f**king key logger ... [snip!] ... is just f**king me up in the head, it's f**king with me bad... I don't know what to do anymore, my stomach is in f**king knots."


I'd leave, he nuts.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8066 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Samanthaaaa ♥:" Wow thats f**king nuts. I would be all set with that relationship..."

We've had issues with him invading my privacy before. He'd go through my phone, ask who so and so was, why I called them, what we talked about for so long, why I texted so and so so much, etc. He'd go through my facebook, read all of my conversations, but I thought we'd cleared all that shit up in marriage counseling...
Now I find out he found another way to spy on me.

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
20th Nov '12

And single!!!!

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
20th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" I can't leave, this is my home. And he's already told me before if I want him out (This is not the first ... [snip!] ... it's the first one that has went on this long without my knowledge) then I have to legally evict him and all the money is his."</blockquote>




File a protection order. You said you're terrified of him and he is showing his crazy side he wouldn't be allowed at the house with a PO

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8066 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Captain Obvious:" what do you think he was trying to find out with the key logger?"

If I'm guessing the time frame it was installed in correctly, that was back when he had his last affair and you know what they say about a guilty conscious...I can literally sit here and say with pride I've never cheated on him. I literally asked him what I did to deserve this and it started a huge argument.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8066 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Brink:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" I can't leave, this is my home. And he's ... [snip!] ... order. You said you're terrified of him and he is showing his crazy side he wouldn't be allowed at the house with a PO"

How quickly would they be able to vacate him from premises with that? And how long would it keep him away from me legally?

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
20th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" How quickly would they be able to vacate him from premises with that? And how long would it keep him away from me legally?"</blockquote>




My friends crazy ass ex filed one he was immediately taken from the home and hasn't seen his kid in like 3 months. She put the order to include her and their son. They've gone to court a few times and she's renewed the order

Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Smartass *TTC*:" And single!!!!"


Seriously, this is f**king crazy.
I am so sorry OP. After reading your other responses, he's had an affair, checked on all your shit, went through counseling, and he's still checking up on you...... :cry:
This just sounds like a disaster. I really hope whatever decision you choose you're happy with it... I can't imagine how you feel right now.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8066 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Brink:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" How quickly would they be able to vacate ... [snip!] ... in like 3 months. She put the order to include her and their son. They've gone to court a few times and she's renewed the order"

Where would I go and what would I do to get one in place?

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8066 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Raωkeℓ:" Seriously, this is f**king crazy. I am so sorry OP. After reading your other responses, he's had an ... [snip!] ... like a disaster. I really hope whatever decision you choose you're happy with it... I can't imagine how you feel right now."

It's stressing me all to shit. I seriously think I have a stomach ulcer between this mess and BD's bullshit. I'm surprised my hair hasn't started falling out again. Christ alive...I need this guy out of my house and simultaneously trying to figure out how to pay for my kid's shit since his father won't pay child support and I'm a full time student with separated SI joints (Makes it hard to walk or stand for long periods). I'll get a part time job if need be, but I don't know who I could get to watch LO and who would do it so that I could afford to pay them on minimum wage...