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Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50789 posts
20th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" Where would I go and what would I do to get one in place?"</blockquote>




http://www.womenslaw.org/laws_state_type.php?statelaw_name=Restraining%20Orders&state_code=NC



I don't know specifics on that but the site above should help. It tells you info for your state.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Brink:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" Where would I go and what would I do to ... [snip!] ... I don't know specifics on that but the site above should help. It tells you info for your state."

Reading now. Thank you.

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50789 posts
20th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" It's stressing me all to shit. I seriously think I have a stomach ulcer between this mess and BD's bullshit. ... [snip!] ... need be, but I don't know who I could get to watch LO and who would do it so that I could afford to pay them on minimum wage..."</blockquote>




State should help with daycare

Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Vodka Knockers:" It's stressing me all to shit. I seriously think I have a stomach ulcer between this mess and BD's bullshit. ... [snip!] ... need be, but I don't know who I could get to watch LO and who would do it so that I could afford to pay them on minimum wage..."


:(



I really hope you figure something out. I'm so sorry.
Is he saying anything? Does he know you want him out yet?

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting Brink:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" It's stressing me all to shit. I seriously ... [snip!] ... who would do it so that I could afford to pay them on minimum wage..."</blockquote> State should help with daycare"

I'm getting assistance for 'education' right now, but I was told they won't do it for education and work. Plus, his daycare only stays open til 6:30 and I'd still be working because I'd only have not even a four hour window between school and work and I'd need more hours than that.
I asked my mom and she said she can't do it because my dad works third and when LO is at their house, he won't sleep either because LO is too noisy or it's just a distraction knowing that his grand child is in the next room and he's not with him.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting Vodka Knockers:" I can't leave, this is my home. And he's already told me before if I want him out (This is not the first ... [snip!] ... it's the first one that has went on this long without my knowledge) then I have to legally evict him and all the money is his."


Not if you 2 are married it isn't. But seriously Why would you stay with this guy after all this?

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Not if you 2 are married it isn't. But seriously Why would you stay with this guy after all this?"

I never said I was staying, you implied it.
I actually managed to get away long enough today to go speak with a friend who worked for a few years as a Domestic Violence Advocate at the local shelter before it shut down, and we're making a plan to get him out of my home while keeping me and my son SAFE. Doing it the right way...

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
21st Nov '12

I personally would put school off for awhile or do what I could online and get a full time job til I was on my feet

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting The (super kinky) Master:" I personally would put school off for awhile or do what I could online and get a full time job til I was on my feet"

If I put off school, I have to start paying $350 a month's rent.
It is my house in the fact that my name and my name alone is on the lease, but the lease agreement (Since my parents own the house) is that in order for me to live in the home rent free (I still have to pay electricity, gas for the car, car insurance, etc) that I have to remain in school until I finish and obtain a certificate or degree and obtain steady employment.
If I get a part time job and can figure something out while staying in school, no rent. If I quit school and obtain full time employment, I have to be put on a waiting list for childcare assistance for employment (It took me six months to get accepted for education), or I won't have anyone to watch LO.
It's really, really, really complicated, but me and my friend are working on the details.

Layla's Momma ♥ 17 kids; California 4457 posts
21st Nov '12

Well he's probably reading this right now... :D

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting Layla's Momma ♥:" Well he's probably reading this right now... :D"

Right now he's at work, but I had him remove the key logger yesterday from my computer.
Whether or not he installed another one while I was gone, not sure. But right now I'm also at my mom's to jack her printer for school so he can't read this particular part, lol.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
21st Nov '12

I would be pissed but that's it.... But I'd probably feel like you, if I had something to hide. Not trying to be offensive, just honest.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting Rd.:" I would be pissed but that's it.... But I'd probably feel like you, if I had something to hide. Not trying to be offensive, just honest."

There is nothing to hide. But the thought of him reading on a screen every single key stroke I made, including my private blog that I use as a diary?
That's my personal, innermost thoughts that I want to keep to myself. It freaks me out to know that he's so delusionally paranoid that he's put software on my computer built to spy on people. His mind and the way it's working freaks me out.

Tarynosaurus Rex San Antonio, Texas 1271 posts
22nd Nov '12

I would leave. That's how stalkers start out, and I've heard of way too many crazy jealous spouses going off the deep end in these situations. I wouldn't feel safe if I were you.