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A&J. ♥ 1 child; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 5613 posts
21st Nov '12

PS. My sons father lives in a different state too. My local office did everything and cooperate with NY enforcement

Curlyheadedfck 2 kids; Illinois 45661 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Curlyheadedfck:</b>" He does not :("</blockquote> Maybe call DFS and see if they can do it through the state?"


I shamefully hate to admit this but I was on assistance when he was first born and they went after him for child support. He refused to cooperate with any information I needed adn they dropped the case.
I don't even know how to go about this :?

[Boats&Hoes] 2 kids; Youngstown, Ohio 62966 posts
21st Nov '12

I just went down to the Child Support office and gave them all my info, the baby's info and his info. They then filed an order for CS, but the judge set it to a $0 order. :? He was in jail at the time, so idk if that was why.

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59253 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Curlyheadedfck:</b>" I've tried repeatedly and he won't cooperate..."</blockquote> That's horrible! You didn't make your child on your own"


Exactly.
My daughter's father had visitation long before child support, and my parents were helping me out financially (while i was in school they paid for our place/our life/etc) and he hated them (for no good reason) yet they were the ones supporting his daughter, while he played with her a few hours a week. it wasn't even about the money to me, just the principal of it.
It can get so frustrating.



I hope it all goes smoothly for you, OP!

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20918 posts
21st Nov '12

What the... I thought you already did but the state like gave up

Curlyheadedfck 2 kids; Illinois 45661 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting KNZ.:" Exactly. My daughter's father had visitation long before child support, and my parents were helping ... [snip!] ... even about the money to me, just the principal of it. It can get so frustrating. I hope it all goes smoothly for you, OP!"


My sons father has never met him.
so I'll be damned if I keep struggilng while he sits in a cushy apartment being a wonderful part time daddy for his first child and doing whatever the hell he wants.
I didn't crawl ontop of myself and get pregnant.

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20918 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting Curlyheadedfck:" I shamefully hate to admit this but I was on assistance when he was first born and they went after ... [snip!] ... He refused to cooperate with any information I needed adn they dropped the case. I don't even know how to go about this :?"


that's so stupid

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
21st Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting [mama♥buggs]:</b>" my daughter is three...and i still havent done it, just doesnt seem worth it ! but id contact your local child support office and theyll contact him and wprk it all out for you"</blockquote>




Can I ask why you don't think it seems worth it?



I mean, you obviously have no problem providing for your daughter on your own, most people don't if that's what they have to do but I mean why should she miss out on what she's entitled to from her father, just because he's a piece of crap. &Why should he get away with being a deadbeat dad?

Curlyheadedfck 2 kids; Illinois 45661 posts
21st Nov '12
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HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22490 posts
21st Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Curlyheadedfck:</b>" I shamefully hate to admit this but I was on assistance when he was first born and they went after ... [snip!] ... He refused to cooperate with any information I needed adn they dropped the case. I don't even know how to go about this :?"</blockquote>




I don't think it is anything to be shameful of! And what an a*****e :?

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59253 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting Curlyheadedfck:" My sons father has never met him. so I'll be damned if I keep struggilng while he sits in a cushy apartment ... [snip!] ... part time daddy for his first child and doing whatever the hell he wants. I didn't crawl ontop of myself and get pregnant."


Oh, seriously. sounds like my son's dad. but, i dont want anything from him, haha- just to stay away forever.
I hope it goes smoothly and quickly!

Curlyheadedfck 2 kids; Illinois 45661 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Curlyheadedfck:</b>" I shamefully hate to admit this but I ... [snip!] ... know how to go about this :?"</blockquote> I don't think it is anything to be shameful of! And what an a*****e :?"


oh he's a special brand of a*****e hahah.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22490 posts
21st Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting [Boats&Hoes]:</b>" I just went down to the Child Support office and gave them all my info, the baby's info and his info. ... [snip!] ... They then filed an order for CS, but the judge set it to a $0 order. :? He was in jail at the time, so idk if that was why. "</blockquote>




Wow how is he supposed to support your child and help support with $0 a month

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22490 posts
21st Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" Exactly. My daughter's father had visitation long before child support, and my parents were helping ... [snip!] ... even about the money to me, just the principal of it. It can get so frustrating. I hope it all goes smoothly for you, OP!"</blockquote>




Wow I'm sorry

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20918 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting Curlyheadedfck:" I did! which is why I need to know how to do this where they WON'T give up. I'm tired of this Lex :( "


do you have anything on him now as opposed to before, like his address/job?



not that it should even matter, I mean I'm sure plenty of chicks still get their deadbeats served only w/ the name... shit dude idk. I'd be pissed