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How do you and SO?? Milk Monster 2 kids; Arizona 9089 posts
21st Nov '12

How do you and SO/DH split holidays?



Do you go to his families one year, yours the next?
Do the holidays at your house and invite everyone?
Celebrate on one day with his family, another with yours?
Got to both on the same day just diff times?




DH and I agreed to switch off years, if his family has us for Thx Giving one yr my family gets us for xmas that same year and it switches the next year.



Well this will be DS' 3rd christmas and we have NEVER spent Christmas with my family. This year we are spending Thanksgiving with his family since we spent it with mine last year. But DH is saying we can't spend Christmas with my family this year. :?:



But anyways, how do you do the holidays?

username1 1 child; Chicopee, MA, United States 30921 posts
21st Nov '12

thank god his family doesnt live in the state and i dont have to spend the holidays with them (i know im such an evil b***h)

heygirlheyyy♥ 1 child; Iowa 1303 posts
21st Nov '12

His family doesn't celebrate holidays and I have no family in the country. So holidays are pretty easy for us lol

bloopbloop♥ 1 child; Illinois 13682 posts
21st Nov '12

His family doesn't celebrate holidays...Lucky me. But on that note if you haven't spend Christmas with your family you should this year...:?

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
21st Nov '12

I don't have any living family. That makes it super easy.

hobbit* 3 kids; New Zealand 44783 posts
21st Nov '12

Myself and the kids have nothin to do with his family. And they live a few hours away. My family live here so it's pretty easy.

Leah+2 2 kids; Texas 5797 posts
21st Nov '12

Well this year for Thanksgiving my mom has to work so we celebrated early with her on Sunday. And on Thanksgiving day we'll go to DH's mom's house. But I get along great with my in laws so it wouldn't matter either way.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
21st Nov '12

My parents have spent the last two holidays in England and they now live there and his dad lives in Virginia (we are in CA and AZ before) and his mom is in AZ. The first year was insane our oldest was 6 weeks old we did xmas eve and early xmas morning at his moms, then drove two hours to my parents spent the rest of xmas day and boxing day with them then came home and his dad flew in the next day. Now that we live in CA no one ever comes to see us so no worries. This year we are going to AZ (ty southwest for 40% airfare) We will do xmas eve with my grandparents and xmas day with his mom.

Milk Monster 2 kids; Arizona 9089 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting heygirlheyyy♥:" His family doesn't celebrate holidays and I have no family in the country. So holidays are pretty easy for us lol"


I wish we had easy holidays. :/ It's always a fight deciding where we go and I always lose. We've spent basically every holiday with his family since he has the job, liscence, and vehicle. I always lose the battle.

almuuh 2 kids; California 1701 posts
21st Nov '12

We switch every year but we still pass by both to say "hello, happy ___" to the one's we aren't spending the holiday with. We only live like 15 mins away from his family so passing by both isn't a big deal.

Snow 1 child; Storybrooke, ME, United States 34017 posts
21st Nov '12

We don't spend any holiday with his family and I'm so thankful.

heygirlheyyy♥ 1 child; Iowa 1303 posts
21st Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Milk Monster:</b>" I wish we had easy holidays. :/ It's always a fight deciding where we go and I always lose. We've spent ... [snip!] ... We've spent basically every holiday with his family since he has the job, liscence, and vehicle. I always lose the battle."</blockquote>




That sucks:( is his family ok to be around though?

Jaye Lynn 1 child; Mobile, Alabama 630 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting Milk Monster:" How do you and SO/DH split holidays? Do you go to his families one year, yours the next? Do the holidays ... [snip!] ... last year. But DH is saying we can't spend Christmas with my family this year. :?: But anyways, how do you do the holidays?"


It always depends on the families sometimes DH's family will celebrate on a different day than the actual holiday so we can easily be with both families. Other times we end up running the roads all day to make it everywhere in one day and by the end of it I'm ready to pull my hair...DH stresses me out when we have to do everything in the same day because he never stops bitching about everything. I swear he was supposed to be born a woman.:D

Katie[ღ]Siℓas 17 kids; Grand Haven, Michigan 2071 posts
21st Nov '12

We usually stay with my family for holidays, this year though we are having 2 dinners on thanksgiving. We are going to Jordan's Oma's house [his grandma, Oma is grandma in dutch.] around 3, and we'll be eating around 4. Then we'll come back to my grandmas house and eat around 7.



For Christmas this year we are just staying home because we will have a newborn.

Reise's Mommy 2 kids; Kentucky 1722 posts
21st Nov '12

We do ours on different days, usually. His dad's side of the family always does Thanksgiving on Thursday and so does my side, but his aunt and I had some issues at the beginning of the year and my husband told her she will no longer be seeing him, myself or our children, so we no longer attend his dad's family's functions. His mom's side does things on Saturdays so we just do my family's stuff on the day of and his family's stuff on the weekend.



If you guys haven't seen your family for the holidays you really should this year. That's not fair :?