Thanksgiving we just do us since we have been gone for 4 years then Christmas we will be home so Christmas eve we do dinner with his family then dinner with mine and presents. Christmas day morning is just us then we go to my cousin's house for a party. Next year on Thanksgiving we will go to his family for Thanksgiving Dinner and mine since they eat at separate times.
Both of our families come together for holidays. Especially for Thanksgiving, we celebrate my daughters birthday that day (her actual birthday is the 26th) So we already have the entire family together so it works for us.
My fiance and I weren't together last holiday season so this will be our first. He's spending Thanksgiving with his aunt and uncle since they live here, but he's going home to Alabama for Christmas because his parents live there.
My mom lives in Missouri and my dad lives in Washington, so we'll probably have to get creative in how we spend our holidays.
My wife cooks thanksgiving dinner every year.. so whoever can make it to our place does. And most holidays we seem to be the "host" for everything. Not that we mind. But if important ppl can't make it (like our parents or siblings) we try to visit the next day (thanksgiving wknd, or xmas day)...So i guess there's really no "split".
Go see your family for Christmas.
This is my first year with my SO. We were going to do Thanksgiving with his family, and Christmas with mine. However, we ended up going to see his family for his mom's birthday earlier this month instead (I opted to go twice, but they live almost six hours away, and he thought it was just to costly). So we'll be spending Thanksgiving with my family, and then probably Christmas too (unless he goes to see his family by himself).
My late fiance only had his parents in town, as far as family goes. So we just invited them to my side of the family for Thanksgiving. Then we spent Christmas Eve. with my dad's side of the family, Christmas Day with my mom's side, and Boxing Day with his parents. His parents were real snots about it every year though because they thought they "didn't deserve to be alone on Christmas". But it always seemed silly because we still saw them, had a dinner, and did the whole present thing anyway. Just seemed stupid to miss out on a big family gathering to cater to two assholes, just because they wanted to see us 24 hours earlier.
We have an argument every year about it :roll:
SO doesn't really like my family, we don't do Christmas "right" (since he now lives here instead of Wales it's summer and we do summery things for Christmas instead of all staying inside eating roast like his family does back hoome) and we don't have the right food so he always says we are going to his family's house for Christmas and staying there all day and that's that.
It's a work in progress. I thought one year we go to one family on Christmas Eve, other family Christmas Day. Swap over next year and so on and so forth. But SO can't live without seeing mummy on Christmas Day lol.