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having your SO in the room when you give birth ♥Mommii Kaytee!! 2 kids; California 3154 posts
21st Nov '12

ok so with my first kid i had my dad mom and two BFFs my daughters dad wasnt around at that point... this time im just having my dad and my SO im started to have second thoughts about having SO in the room with me im not sure that i want him to see all that madness i mean what if he doesnt ever wanna touch me again or something i might just be freaking out considering im STILL trying to get used to having someone who wants to support me and not having to go threw this alone like with my first is it normal to feel like this or am i just being silly? i really want him in there i just dnt want him to feel awkward or anything.

username1 1 child; Chicopee, MA, United States 30921 posts
21st Nov '12

youve had sex with him.. and hes seen you naked.. yet youll feel awkward with him watching the birth of his child.. or is he not the father? im confused

babycakes! 18 kids; Orem, Utah 1939 posts
21st Nov '12

My dh is a horn dog, and he watched it all! He said it was cool!!

heygirlheyyy♥ 1 child; Iowa 1303 posts
21st Nov '12

Ask him if he wants to be there and go from there. My SO just sat in a chair to my left lol

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20924 posts
21st Nov '12

I think a real man will want to touch you even more after witnessing the birth of their child, but that's JMO. There's no way mine won't be there w/ me.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
21st Nov '12

My husband has been there for both births and saw nothing until the pictures. He was my head holding me and comforting me. I couldnt imagine not having him there or him not being there. He wanted so badly to see his daughters born who was I to take that away. (We werent together with out first he just BD back then)

user banned Due July 3; 2 kids; Australia 14351 posts
21st Nov '12

You're being silly. Watching your child be born isnt going to turn him off, may freak him out for a second but they get over it. Im sure he would want to be thereI would much rather my SO than my dad!

~*~ Nichole ~*~ 4 kids; Vancouver, Washington 11261 posts
21st Nov '12
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Tammy Carreras 2 kids; Oregon 186 posts
21st Nov '12

Childbirth is a an amazing time as far as bonding. It can actually really strengthen your relationship to have him there and supporting you. It's a horrible and wonderful time, and getting through it together is a wonderful thing. Have him read up on how to be a birth coach, and that may help him to be more support for you, if he's open to doing that. If he is wanting to be there, I can't imagine he would never want to touch you again afterwards. That part, I think you're worrying too much.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22958 posts
21st Nov '12

I believe if the chid's father is involved and you are dating or with him he should be able to be in there. But ask him if he wants to be in there

~*~ Nichole ~*~ 4 kids; Vancouver, Washington 11261 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting Mrs Somerhalder:" You're being silly. Watching your child be born isnt going to turn him off, may freak him out for a second but they get over it. Im sure he would want to be thereI would much rather my SO than my dad!"


Yeah I can't imagine having my dad see all that...

Milk Monster 2 kids; Arizona 9089 posts
21st Nov '12

Ask him if he wants to be there. DH said if I wouldn't have allowed him to miss the biggest, greatest moment of his life that that would be the end of our relationship. :shock: He wanted to be there to witness it more than anything. We have as great of a sex life as you can get with two small children sleeping in your room. ;)

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
21st Nov '12

It seems crazy to me to not have your partner there.



You're probably just hormonal and thinking silly but if he really did find it gross to touch you after seeing your give birth to his child, he's not someone who deserves to be with you anyway. IMO.

almuuh 2 kids; California 1701 posts
21st Nov '12

I don't think he'll care about seeing it. He might even become more helpful after seeing all you have to go through.

username1 1 child; Chicopee, MA, United States 30921 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting ~*~ Nichole ~*~:" Yeah I can't imagine having my dad see all that..."


yea id feel more akward about my dad seeing that nevermind someone ive had sex with and who i made the baby with