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GL♣PC♥BC 3 kids; Atlanta, GA, United States 9408 posts
21st Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting O ♥ G:</b>" I would have never chased after him late at night with an infant like that first of all. He and his friend ... [snip!] ... of what he did. You don't have to pretend like all is well between you two, but don't ruin the day for yourself or him either."</blockquote>




His friend was just as drunk, I could not sit at home knowing that he was walking around without a clue, credit card or identification. He had to beat work at 6:30 this morning, someone responsible had to take action.
This morning he had no idea what happened last night, so I just started playing voicemails from him and from two random women that told me my husband was drunk, trying to get ahold of me and that his vehicle was stolen which also had his cell phone in it.
I don't think anything he did was out of malice, but he put me through he'll last night. You treat our spouse how you expect to be treated he had no respect for me las night and that is not acceptable with me.
He knows he can't drink, yet he chose to do so and look what happened. Yesterday afternoon I forwarded him the e mail for the ultrasound appointment with the time and location and last night in all his glory he decided to delete the e mail and said he was not going. Again, this ultrasound was set up for his mother and brother. Regardless of the ultrasound, today was supposed to be a happy day as a whole, he decided to change that which has resulted in me not wanting to see or speak to him. I'm am going to be stuck in the same house as him for the next five days, I need to be away from him right now.

GL♣PC♥BC 3 kids; Atlanta, GA, United States 9408 posts
21st Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting O ♥ G:</b>" How did he and his friend get separated? Was it when they were both trying to drive home? I'm confused about that..."</blockquote>




From what i was told in a drunken mess.. My husband decided to leave, his friend was staying to finish his drink.. my husband was too drunk to remember where he parked.. They parked a couple blocks away from the club because they didn't want their company vehicles parked there.. And he just kept wandering.

O ♥ G 2 kids; Pride, Louisiana 10723 posts
21st Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting GL♣05/08/2013:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting O ♥ G:</b>" I would have never chased after him late ... [snip!] ... speak to him. I'm am going to be stuck in the same house as him for the next five days, I need to be away from him right now."</blockquote>




I see what you're saying. I would totally be furious too do I don't think you're being "rude" to him at all. But I do think you would retreat not letting him go to the ultrasound.

GL♣PC♥BC 3 kids; Atlanta, GA, United States 9408 posts
21st Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting O ♥ G:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting GL♣05/08/2013:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... too do I don't think you're being "rude" to him at all. But I do think you would retreat not letting him go to the ultrasound."</blockquote>




I will most likely pick him up from work to let him go just because we already had plans.. We were going straight from the ultrasound to the new house, then out of town. I jut had his mom telling me he doesn't deserve to go, my friend telling me I was going to regret it.. Im just annoyed at this point.
This morning he just kept saying he sorry and kissing ass, we talked civilly this morning, I just don't want to be around him. I want time to calm down, I don't want to act like everything is super today.. He tried giving me my anniversary present this morning like that is going to override everything .. I have nothing to celebrat and don't want to remember our anniversary as this. It's just like what a fucktard, out of all nights to be stupid he had to choose last night.. Oh and his friends wedding anniversary is today as well. His wife is used to this though, he will go through phases of not even coming home, she just turns the other way.. I don't know how anyone can stay in a relationship like that.

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 5992 posts
21st Nov '12

I think you said it perfectly " You treat your spouse the way you expect to be treated." If you messed up how would you want him to treat you? Would you expect him to keep you from an extremely special moment in your life because he's mad? How long would you expect him to hold this over your head and pout about it?

GL♣PC♥BC 3 kids; Atlanta, GA, United States 9408 posts
21st Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kaleighshaleigh:</b>" I think you said it perfectly " You treat your spouse the way you expect to be treated." If you messed ... [snip!] ... special moment in your life because he's mad? How long would you expect him to hold this over your head and pout about it?"</blockquote>



I would not have done something like this to him. Therefore I have no other answer for you. Again, this was an elective ultrasound I set up for family that lives out of state that came down for Thanksgiving. He took the "precious" out of this moment, I simply don't want to be near him today, on our anniversary. happened last night, I do not think eleven hours later is pouting about it, my feelings are raw, he fucked up and just so happened he picked the wrong day to do so. And unfortunately for him, he also decided to delete the e mail with the location.

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 5992 posts
23rd Nov '12

So what did you do?