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Would you do this? **POLL** Y O . M A M A 1 child; Virginia 1626 posts
21st Nov '12

Hi guys!! Its been a long time since I've been on here! lol, but anyway, I have this friend, and he is married. They are currently in an "open marriage" and he wants to get with me, and I am unsure of how I feel! Like, I want to, but I am not some girl who sleeps with everyone. I mean it could be fun, he wants like a Friends with benefits thing, which I have never done... So what would you do? Any advice or tips is welcome! lol Thanks!

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
21st Nov '12

If you do it...you have to have a long talk with both of them...make sure they're both on the same page, make sure you know their limits and that they know your limits...the communication between you and them needs to be 100% clear, no doubts no questions unanswered.

NewMommyXOXO 1 child; South Carolina 1183 posts
21st Nov '12

hell no! i would never sleep with someone who is in a relationship even if it's "open"

user banned California 36390 posts
21st Nov '12

Honestly, no. It's just too messy.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
21st Nov '12

I wouldn't personally for a few reasons.



One would be that I wouldn't want to harm the friendship. I don't see friends with benefits working out often.



Also, with the whole marriage thing, I'd be worried if they aren't secure in that lifestyle. As in, if they just started it, it might not be for them, and you could end up being the "whore he slept with" if his GF changes her mind.



Lastly, personally, I'm not into no strings sex anyways. If you are that's great! But I probably wouldn't in that case because it just wouldn't be the sort of relationship I'd want.

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
21st Nov '12

No! An open marriage isn't a marriage. They might as well get divorced and then you can do what ever you want.

cfxfdfdfdsfdafdsf Vacaville, California 71166 posts
21st Nov '12

I, personally, couldn't do it. He's married and even if THEY are okay with it, I would feel like it's morally wrong on my part and could never so it.

user banned California 36390 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting Devil Duckie:" No! An open marriage isn't a marriage. They might as well get divorced and then you can do what ever you want. "


Eh... that's not always true. I have friends that have been married for over five years and they have an open marriage.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting Devil Duckie:" No! An open marriage isn't a marriage. They might as well get divorced and then you can do what ever you want. "


Did they get married?



Then congratulations, it's a marriage! It may not be the TYPE of marriage you like, but if they're married. It's a marriage.

Y O . M A M A 1 child; Virginia 1626 posts
21st Nov '12

Thanks guys! This was definitley more along my thoughts, I just didn't wanna be a bitch or whatever for saying no. I am not into the "no strings attached" business...not my thing. I have never done it so I was thinking...Hey! here is a chance, but so many things could happen. NOt worth the risk!

кinga Due February 18 (girl); 1 child; Ontario 4606 posts
21st Nov '12

Personally, no I would not. But, I would go by his wife first to make sure that it is in fact an open marriage and if yes, then go for it.

Andi+Andy=Marley+1 2 kids; Fredericksburg, Virginia 4564 posts
21st Nov '12

I would do it if I was just sexually attracted to him and if all three could have an understanding of rules to follow.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting Y O . M A M A:" Hi guys!! Its been a long time since I've been on here! lol, but anyway, I have this friend, and he is ... [snip!] ... like a Friends with benefits thing, which I have never done... So what would you do? Any advice or tips is welcome! lol Thanks!"


Yes I have been in open relationships before

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting she nan igans:" Did they get married? Then congratulations, it's a marriage! It may not be the TYPE of marriage you like, but if they're married. It's a marriage. "


nope. Either you get married or you don't and you're ok to sleep around. I don't care what kind a smoke screen you throw on it. NOT a marriage.

BigMamaKate 1 child; Jonesboro, Arkansas 2960 posts
21st Nov '12

I am in an open marriage, been married for 3 years now and no issues. As long as everyone is on the same page and know their boundaries, then i don't see a problem.