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Thanks, ladies!! I♡C&R. 2 kids; Thornton, CO, United States 25290 posts
21st Nov '12

I appreciate all of the help and advice. :)

*A&N's Mama* 2 kids; Halifax, Nova Scotia 4627 posts
21st Nov '12

Maybe the new job would help. I would also consider counselling

Mrs cree Due November 23; 33 kids; Ontario 1907 posts
21st Nov '12

Maybe your new job will help I'm not sure what other advice to offer you hopefully things work out for you good luck

Mommy of a giggler! 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 9017 posts
21st Nov '12

I have dreams I'm in love with another man (we've been married almost 10 years) but I think it's the thrill of it and the something different from the norm I'm excited about.

I have no advice other than if you really feel that way, for everyones sake, probably best to move on.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
21st Nov '12

I think a new job is great.

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
21st Nov '12

I think the grass is always greener on the other side.

wigglewaddle 2 kids; Wichita, Kansas 2399 posts
21st Nov '12

Maybe it's the grass is greener syndrome? It's normal to miss meeting new people and getting that brand new shiny attention and all of that. But there's no guarantee it will work out and what if you end up screwing up the one real thing you've ever had? Idk, it seems complicated, maybe get that other job and see what it's like when your not around the other guy.

I♡C&R. 2 kids; Thornton, CO, United States 25290 posts
21st Nov '12

I'm thinking the same thing. I'll be curious what things feel like once I've got the other job and am away from him.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 19437 posts
status 21st Nov '12

You were married so very young. I can't imagine. If I married "the man I loved" at that age, I would be married to a closeted gay man (my HS sweetheart didn't know he was gay).



No one can tell you what to do here, but personally I would try counseling first with dh. If it doesn't work out, I wouldn't be jumping into a new relationship right away. You are still really young, and coming into your own.



Good luck!

Lois. 1 child; Pennsylvania 2653 posts
21st Nov '12

You have to do what you think is right but having an emotional affair IS cheating and that's not fair to your husband.

I♡C&R. 2 kids; Thornton, CO, United States 25290 posts
21st Nov '12

I know what I am thinking isn't fair to my husband. I feel like crap and am trying to figure myself out. I'm hoping the new job will do me more good than bad ya know?

Elle&Cole 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 25002 posts
status 21st Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ILOVEWINE:</b>" I think the grass is always greener on the other side."</blockquote>




Agreed

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
21st Nov '12

Puppy love doesn't last forever. If you got with this dude from work, chances are you wouldn't feel like you were "deeply in love" with him in five years, either.



relationships change and mature---it isn't flowers and butterflies forever. With anyone.



That said, you got married WAY too young and perhaps you aren't with the "perfect" guy for you right now. But you have a family and you owe it to them to try your best to make it work.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
21st Nov '12

This is very common with young marriages, and a key reason why the majority of divorces happen to them. People rush into it when they really are feeling hormones, and lust, and then as life settles on you realize you really are not in love with that person. I would see how the new job treats things for you. But if you still are feeling it maybe its time to move on.

Sweetheart...* Due July 30 (girl); 1 child; Florida 1290 posts
21st Nov '12

Get away from the guy at work if you want your marriage to work. Once you start your new job you will slowly start to forget about him.